It looks like our surgery date was the same day. I have lost 130 pounds from a size 24 to a 6. I can relate to your post 100% when it comes to the significant other issue. He complains that I am too small now but he never said I was too big when I was 270 pounds. We had more intimate times when I was heavy. I never had big breast to start with but now I have none, the loose skin isn't bad except for the lower buttox area, and upper thighs. My arms and stomache aren't that bad at all. He has become very jealous as to say no one wanted me when I was heavy. You are definetly not alone. I put my life on the line to have this surgery, and I did it for me and it's his problem if he can't adjust to the smaller me, not the new me because I'm the same person I was before. I wouldn't change a thing and I would do it again. Yes, I dress better because let's face it asize 6 comes in more fashionable styles than in size 24, and yes I do have more confidence but I see all that as a plus, not a negative. 270/140

Oh my gosh! I have missed your posts about this, if you have been making them. You are so not alone in your husband having issues with the weight loss. Mine is not cheating on me and doesn't appear about to start, but he is no where near as excited as most of the other husbands/boyfriends on this board. Mine never minded me being big (okay - morbidly obese), in fact, when he sees old pictures, he is surprised at how big I was. He doesn't seem to care if my body is big or small, but he is struggling with my newly small breast size. I was busting out of a DDD, and now I am a B. It's been hard for me to have such small breasts, but I have finally found postives in it, and I don't really miss those DDD anymore. My DH is another story, tho. He doesn't mention it much, but when he does, he says he feels awful and guilty because he is not as attracted to me anymore. Losing all this weight has had many unexpected and not always pleasant changes. I was sure that he would be more attracted to me than ever after I lost weight, and that has not happened. I hope that things between you and your husband will work out in a way that makes you happy. I hope the same for me and my husband. Becky

Wow Lynn, I'm sorry you had to go through all that! One good thing is that they found what they needed to find. It sounds like they did some extra "tune up" work as long as they were in there. I hope you're feeling better. Congratulations on being at goal!! Stacey

Congrats!!! sorry to hear about you needing surgery as well! I am almost at Century Club and can't wait to be there!! Take it easy and don't over do it! Remember drink your fluids!! Lynnd 254/156 goal 145

Hi Genny - I hear your pain. Since June 1 (my surgery was March 16) I have lost only 25lbs. I lost 60 in the first 10 weeks after surgery, but only 25 in the 8 months since. I have one plateau after another. I lose a couple pounds and then plateau again for months. I exercise a ton, eat right, try to get enough sleep and do everything "right" and I just can't lose the weight. It's baffling and frustrating, especially when I see and hear people who have lost way more than I have while eating worse and almost not exercising at all. On the upside, I was like 215 at my 6 month appt at the end of September (about a week after a 4 month plateau ended) and I'm now between 190 and 195. The surgeon told me the most I could expect to lose between my 6 month and one year appt would be 30 more pounds, so I don't feel I'm doing too badly. My one year appt is on March 23. I was so hoping to be about 180 by then, but like everyone else seems to be saying about the goals they set for themselves, it doesn't look like I'm going to make that one. My personal goal is 170, so I'm 20-25lbs from there. I hope to get there eventually. If I get there, I don't think I'll care if it took me years to get there or months, just so long as I get there. That's about my only advice or suggestion, is to look at this truly as a marathon and not a sprint. If we do all we should, the weight should come off eventually. I just try to trust in that and keep plugging along. One thing I will say, though, is that at the end of that 4 month plateau from May to September, I totally lost my mind and starting eating all kinds of "bad" foods. I was so depressed about the whole thing I slipped back into old eating habits and behaviors. And it has been SO much harder to stop eating like that this time around than it was to stop before the surgery. So, if your eating habits are still good and intact, fight with all you have to not lapse back into old behaviors (if you have any). I am back battling sugar on a daily basis even though I haven't eaten any in a long time now. But it's much harder to resist now than it was before I ate it again. Good luck to you, I hope your loss starts up again soon! Mary Ellen