I STILL FEEL FAT

I still feel fat and see myself as being fat. I lost 104 lbs. and now weigh 152 lbs. I look good in clothes, but naked - I see a big me. Is that strange?

Thanks for the response.

Teresa, It is not strange at all! I still look in the mirror and see the old me. Now granted I have lost 161 lbs. but I still weigh 199 which is still fat to society standards. I know I look better than I did this time last year and I know I feel better but I still see the old me. My friends tell me how good I look but it's so hard for me to "hear" them. I don't know how long it will take us to see it. I agree with Sunny maybe after some PS. But sometimes I just have to focus on my Before and After pictures and make myself focus on the changes. But you are not alone! Shelley -161 360/199!!/150??

I agree with everyone else. I think when we see ourselves naked, with the droopy saggies going on, it still shows us the fat part of us. With clothes no one can see that. I have had people say they can't believe that I have had WLS because I don't look like I did. I tend to wear clothes that cover my bat wings, and saggy thighs and lord knows no one sees my tummy. I hope to have a tummy tuck, thigh lift and a boob lift with implants (to get the shape back not to make bigger), but it will all be self pay, so I don't know if it will ever happen, and I don't know if I will ever look at my self and not see the fat me. We will all work together and hopefully get over the "fat" head part as a group. Lisa 08/31/04 Lap RNY 220/127/110

Thanks for the post. I was thinking that very thing this morning. Weight loss is such a mind game. I had lost 100 lbs before and I remembered the way my mind trys to trick me into regaining the weight. You know I think when I can't see the weight loss it is as if something is whispering "See why did you go to all this trouble for? It doesn't make any difference." But I now know that voice is a liar. Regardless of what I can or can not see I know I am much healthier and better looking than I was 112 lbs ago. I try to explain it to my self as an illusion. Besides I wonder if other people that I look at and think are small weigh the same as I do and I just don't know what someone at my weight really looks like. It isn't as if people have the weight stamped on their head or something. I am often surprised at what "normal" people actually weigh. Sorry for the ramble. But I hope you can tell yourself truth about where you are and how far you have come. Be proud of yourself you have come a long way. Remember it's all in your head and Thank God not on your thighs K. Reed

YOU are soooooooo not alone,here. I have physically lossed weight but mentally I haven't. I feel Wonderful; daily! And I look great in clothes but my mine....say something different . 395/241/175

Not at all...I still feel fat too! I've lost 114 lbs dropping from 254 to 140 and nekkid feel like I weigh 254 still. You're not alone...it takes our minds a while to catch up with our bodies. You're not alone... Kristy 254/140/140

I'm sort of the same way. I only realize that I'm 145 when I'm putting clothes on. When I'm sitting at a table and someone walks behind me I constantly find myself trying to scoot in closer so folks can get by. I still think regular lawn chairs aren't going to hold me and that I have to walk sideways in tight spaces. So no, I don't think it's strange at all. Congrats on your weight loss!

Oh My Goodness......... I was thinking of posting this same question......! Thanks for posting this question! YES I still feel FAT! But not just nakid... I can wear a size 6 pants but the skin from my upper abs hangs over it.! So I have this roll that I can not hide even under clothes so I am still wearing a size 10 pants. They are big and baggy and even then the roll shows. I am still about 15 -- 20 pounds from gaol but I think I will be at 140 for a while..... the scale keeps dropping to 135 and then back up to 140. TODAY is 11 months 202.5 to 140.... goal (MD) 125 mine 110 for a total of 62.5 size 20 to a size 10 (but can also wear a size 6 smae maker! but feel fat in them) Lisa

I am right there with ya... I feel like I am the fattest person in any room!!!! Used to be, but not any more.... Here's what really helped me the other day..... A friend who is the size I want to be stands directly in front of me looking in a mirror.... I am right behind her and I can't see any of me in that mirror!!!! Doesn't that mean I am her size or smaller? Why does my brain not believe that? So I say to myself... hmm... next time she's here, do a profile...I bet my gut sticks out behind hers!!!! I guess it takes time... but I so want to be free of my fat self image..... I think the real fat is gone except for maybe just a little.....Now its my head.... hmm... someone said this would happen...... We're so crazy!!! Laurie 380/364/218/170