I know how you feel girl I still tend to go right to the super big sizes and pick out pants size 30. However, I am now in size 16 and I really don't believe it There is soooo much space in my closet now that all my clothes are so much smaller Love that rollercoaster! Kolla - finally in the one-hundreds 304/199/140

Congratulations Lisa!! I can now say, welcometo the CENTURY CLUB because I made it on Monday myself!!! I posted to the Alabama board, but forgot to post here!! Isn't it awesome. I had my surgery on 10/11/04 and I still have 80 lbs togo to doctors goal of 130, but I don't know if that is my goal. The first one is to get under 200 - 10 more lbs. I always said I would like to weigh 150, but we will see! : Congratulations again, I am doing the happy with you!! Christ's peace, Connie (-100)

CONGRATS ON YOUR LOSS!!! IT IS THE BEST FEELING TO BE AT THIS POINT IN OUR JOURNEY. JUST THINK ITS ALL DOWN FROM HERE. HOW FUNNY TO USE THAT PHRASE AS A GOOD THING. CONTINUED SUCCESS TO ALL OF US OCT. BABIES. NAN -127 LBS 10/21/04 OPEN RNY

Thanks Amber This was not a decision I came to lightly but I realize that for me to fill up the emptyness inside me that I used to fill up with food, I need to be with a man who wants the same things that I do - or simply be alone Best, Kolla - finally in the one hundreds 304/199/140

well, the situation you find yourself in is unfortunately not uncommon. My spouse has never been what I would call supportive. she did help me through the surgery but I dont believe she was ever in favor of my having it nor has it changed her eating habits. But then I really never expected it to change her. I did this for myself and my choices were never her choices. Oh yes, it would be great to have that super supportive spouse, one who was there with you ever single day shouting words of encouragement. But honestly, my life doesn't depend on that. Nor should my food choices be forced upon those who, for what ever reason, dont see things the same way that I do. I have been married for 28 years this year and some years have been great, and some years have been totally crap, but we made a commitment to each other years ago... for better or worse.... and I suppose we are just enough old fashioned to believe in that commitment. I have had so many oppertunities over the years to stray, or to leave or whatever... but in the end my marriage was worth more than any temporary gratification. and over those years I have learned that life is what we make of it, it wont always be a happy life but it can be a good life and sometimes even a great life. Lord knows I am not the perfect man by a long stretch... case in point I let myelf get super morbidly obese.... SO what I am trying to say is.... you can not depend on others to live the life you have chosen.. If they can't then you need to be somewhat acepting of that fact.. no one can sabotage your weight loss but yourself! I have kids and friends who visit all the time, and yes we still by doughnuts for the kids every staurday, or make cinnamon rolls hot from the oven, or cakes for birthdays, I just dont eat them. Oh yes they smell wonderful , but I am the one who has to make the decision not to engage in the bad behavior, it is not up to others to breast feed me with only the correct foods. This lifestyle change is about just that changing YOUR lifestyle. The world goes on around us and we will make of it what we can. I would not throw your marriage away simply because your husband can't or wont follow your lifestyle choices. let him enjoy his comfort food, you should not be telling him he cant have it around you in my opinion. If your that week willed and give in when it is around you then I would suggest you need some more counseling to get past it. from your story I did notice that you only found the wrappers not the actual food... that sounds to me like he is trying to eat when you are not around which seems to be a step in the right direction and shows some sensitivity to your request. why do the wrappers bother you so much? Is there some form of jealousy here that he can still eat what you cannnot? I know I for sure have jealous issues over that, almost ever single meal I eat I want my comfort food back! I want to experience the joy of eating yet again.... But I dont , and I wont, and the trade off is not all that hard to accept. I consider the trade off to be well worth it. I know this is not the letter you were hoping for, but dont use your surgery as an excuse to get out of a marriage. Your marriage may have had other problems that your surgery has brought to a head, but it is not the surgery or your weight loss that seems to be the issue here IMO. I wish you the best in your endeavors and hope that you find the means to save your marriage. think on the things that made you fall in love in the first place and work on solidifying the solutions to probelms not just refusing to accept that there are no solutions. As an attorney I can tell you that Divorce is never the answer short of abuse, your life will never be the same once you cross that threshhold. take some time and think long and hard before going down that road. Good luck and God be with you