I don't "vent" ...but here I go!

I don't like to complain, or even like to give audience to those who do....but this has been a day from hell!

Tomorrow is my last day at work before I have plastics on Friday morning. The team of people that I am responsible for supporting has known for weeks that I will be out. Per my boss' directive he wants them to 'fend for themselves' because our department does not have the budget to hire a temp to replace me while I am on leave.

So now with less than 24 hours to go I am getting bombarded with requests to find someone to handle this & that while I'm gone.

I told my boss about it and I'm going to write a very diplomatic, nicey-nice email that essentially says...figure it out, you're a big girl/boy now.

Oh wait, there's more.

At lunch I got a phone call from the plastic surgeon's office. "We contacted your insurance company, they have NO RECORD of approving your procedure." (This was about the time I yelled WTF! in my car)

My next phone call was to my attorney who I believe also said WTF?!?! We had the documentaion to show I had been approved. What the hell was going on over at United Healthcare??....shady *******s!!!!

That was resolved in about an hour. But still..it was a scary lunch hour. I'm approved and still scheduled for surgery.

Then I got back from lunch and received about three phone calls from my mom who was worried because she hasn't heard from me. I'M WORKING!!!! I'm also THRITY-FREAKIN-SEVEN years old!!!

My sister has been equally worried and I really do love and appreciate all their support because I didn't have it when I had my RNY...but even though I'm the one having surgery it's somehow ALL ABOUT THEM!

Ok, I really have to get back to work and figure out a nice way to write out this email. Thank you for letting me vent, I don't think any other group of people would understand what this is like.

Take a deep breath.  All will be well.  Vent when you need to and tell everyone at work, to get a life and not try to use up yours.

As for your mom, well that one will not change.  I don't care if you are 17, 27, 37 or 47 years old, she is still going to worry when she hasn't heard from you for a few days.  I do it to my son all the time and like he says to me, if there was anything wrong someone would have called me.  Well of course that answer just PO's me more because he's right.  So, in a nutshell, our babies will always be our babies no matter how old they get.  It took me being a mom and my "baby" growing up to realize it's just the way it is.  Scream all you want, but you are her baby and when she became a mom, that was part of the contract she signed up for. Your age just won't change that.

OK, I'm done preaching.  I have to go call my son and see what he's up to today, just because that is my other job.  Annoying him.

Stephanie

It seems like that is our job we do best....annoying our kids!  LOL

Take a very deep breath.  Innnnnnnn  pause..........Out.  Ok, here we go.  They've known at work for quite some time you're leaving.  Leave.  Let them figure it out.  When  you're not there, they'll either get it done or not, but you'll be at home recovering and taking it easy.  When you go back, if it's still there, take a flame thrower, blast away at all that paper and then start fresh.  Ok, so that last part, while very satisfying, not very realistic.  For now, Breathe, and go off to surgery.  They will appreciate the hell out of you when you come back.  But for now, just concentrate on YOU!

UnitedHealthcare = Sucks.  That's it.  They're the same effers that denied payment on a claim for my 14 year old son's dislocated thumb because "it looks like it was caused by the actions of a third party".  Huh?  What part of 14 year old or Boy or kid didn't you understand?  Oh, the fact that kids hurt themselves and have to be fixed.  Puhleses  It took me NINE months to get that one squared away and had to have the VP of our Human Resources department call them and tell them to pay or face a lawsuit.  Thank goodness we changed.

As for your mom and your sister = it is, what it is.  They care.  It may seem somehow that it's all about them, but be very thankful you have a mom and a sister that are still around to drive you nuts.  They c ould be gone and you could be missing them terribly as it is.  I know, I have to remind myself all the time about my sister.  She's such a snob and looks down on me and my gun-toting, animal-killing redneck spouse and in-laws.  Hey - we love tromping in the woods and all that fun stuff.  We're living life = our lives.

Hang in there.  Breathe and start focusing on Monica and only Monica.  Breathe, get yourself centered, take some time to meditate and focus and channel all your energy into healing thoughts.  Close your eyes (not while you're driving!!!) and visualize all the blood and oxygen flowing through your body healing and stregthening and building a new and stronger Monica.

Healing thoughts and prayers for you!

Mo

MOMO!

I am your long lost sister and I love your gun-toting, animal killing redneck Husband and I don't know your inlaws so I can't say anything about them, but if Joe and YOu like them/love them, so do I.  I will be the good sister, how about that?  Thanks for your  love and support everyday.  Things are on the up side, at least I think so.

Best of luck to you!

My mom is almost 97 (!!!!!!! yes, you read that correctly) and still would LIKE to control my life.  Just hang in there.

Praying positive thoughts for you on Friday!

***Hijack*** Hey stranger!!! How ya doing???

I'm just a "lurker" these days but I do enjoy reading the boards and seeing what everyone is up to.  My son, Eric, and I will go up to Sacramento in a few weeks to celebrate mom's 97th birthday.  We are blessed to still have her.  Her sister lived till almost 93, so I'm hoping I got more of her genes than from my father's side.  I remember the fun we all had at the first camping trip.  Sadly, it was too difficult to have Eric with me, so we haven't been to the last 2.  Take care!

Girl how the hell you been?

I've been in "lurker mode" for some time but I enjoy reading the board.  Eric sends hugs.  He had to have lots of dental work and is sporting a temporary crown on his front tooth.  The permanent arrives in about 2 weeks.  He has to have general anesthesia for any dental work and it's difficult for him to come out of it.  Poor guy.  I feel so sorry for him.  I am continually amazed by your fabulous progress.  Miss you.