Frustrated and Depressed

I am in the process of waiting for surgery approval, going through all the motions. I have been very depressed lately. I am looking at myself and just disgusted. I want to be thin. I am tired of being fat and I am heavier than ever. I don't want to go to work, go outside, do anything with friends, etc. Its terrible. I am a single mom and the sole supporter so I need to keep going but I am just so down. I was in a major car accident almost 2 years ago and ever since then my weight has sky rocketed. I mean i was heavy before but now its really bad. I need to keep going and stay positive. None of my work clothes fit and I feel like I am always wearing the same clothes. I hope I get approval soon. I can't live like this anymore. I just want to get on with my life. Thanks for listening.

why not set some small goals for yourself, ones that you make meet realisticly.
small ones add up to big ones...

for me, if I had that avitar and looked at myself in the mirror I would be very depressed, even though I have had surgery. too me that is not a good goal.....dreams are good, but have ones that we can meet.....

You can do it , your time will come......

thank you Darlene. I actually just changed my Avitar. I agree. Thanks for pointing this out. Ok small goals. I will do this. I'm usually so much more hopeful.

Hang in there.  U know I was the same way, I had bad knees, felt like crap, had been off work from an injury for 3 years, and I hated myself.  I couldn't work, and I loved the job I did.  It just got worse from there.  I was near 400 lbs when I said enough was enough.  I decided to have surgery, and it was pretty quick that I did have it.  But I felt the same way that you did.  All I can tell you is, that there is hope.  In time, the surgery will come, and then the weight will start coming off.  If you have true friends, they don't care what you weigh, they want to be with you and enjoy your company.  You may need to force yourself to go out and do things and that will be the best thing for feeling the way you do.  Go to second hand stores, you may find some nice clothing that will fit you right now, but try and do everything positive in your life.   I know I know, buying clothes sucks.  Nothing worse than a dressing room full of clothes and nothing fits.  Just hang tough hon, it will be better, and in time, you will be able to look back at your letter and laugh at it.  Matter of fact, keep what you write, in the year to come, you will find it good inspiration for staying thin, because you don't ever want to have those feelings again.

You can always send me a private message if you want to chat privately.  There are some really great people here that have all been there and done that, and we support each other.

A big ol hug to you, Diane

Hi Diane -

Thank you for your kind words. I need to just keep reading your message.

Elizabeth :o)

Hang in there you will be on your way before you know it!!

HUGS
JOY

 I used to feel the same way you did at one time. Never wanted to go anywhere, disgusted to look at myself, didnt want anyone to see me and lord forbid if I saw anyone that had not seen me in years while I was in a store or something, I would actually take off!
All I did from morning to night was think about my weight. My weight made me a totally unfriendly, unsocial person,, and I hated myself.

Now, I  have more confidence back,, and I dont ever want to go back to that unhappy place. I have had others comment how I smile more and I get out a lot more too.

You WILL get there, and in the meantime dont look back just keep looking forward. One day here soon you will be giving another person some advise that will be well appreciated.

The super lovely thing about this board is that we all have been thru this and are still together on this. We all understand.

You may pm me anytime if you want to talk! I really love talking about my whole WLS experience!

Luv ya

Marie

Hi Elizabeth, first off, you're gorgeous!  Ok, now like most everyone who has responded to you, I was also really miserable pre WLS and I've had so many people comment that I'm much happier now.  You'll be there too, I promise.  Plus, you've got a great surgical group behind you!  (they're mine too!  lol)  What size are you in, I may still have some stuff that I've outgrown and haven't gotten rid of that may work for you, I hate buying new stuff now, as I'm still losing and I've been blessed with other friends who have lost and have passed their stuff onto me.  If you'd feel more comfortable sending me a private message to answer, that's cool too.  Hang in there and keep moving forward, you'll get to your goal and we totally understand!  xo  Kim

Elizabeth,

I think you look beautiful.  

I would like to offer a suggestion to please try to focus on the things you like about yourself and what makes you most proud.  The pictures of you and your daughter are wonderful, you both look very happy. 

Body image is a funny thing, and speaking personaly, as I wait for my WLS in Jan, I try not think of being thin but being healthy, diabetes free, lowering my blood pressure and living longer and weight loss and smaller clothes sizes will come when those things happen!  I told my husband, I am not doing this surgery to get back into a bikini, it's all about health for me.

Love yourself and surgery will happen as it is supposed to.

Always,
Barb

Dear Elizabeth,
I know how you feel.  Sometimes all we see when we look in the mirror is fat...  Take a deep breath and remind your self that even Nichole Kidman has bad days... I look at your pictures and you are really beautiful.  You will get approval soon.. Just keep working on what you need to do...
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