Congrats on your surgery.  I didn't know they still did open RNY's anymore.  Your recovery  will certainly be different than the majority of us.  My mom had open, but that was 16 years ago when they took the gall bladder out at the same time to get insurance to pay for a portion.  I shopped Kohl's and Target and goodwill.  I only looked at the sale racks and just bought elastic waists in the beginning so they would last longer.  I shopped constantly and tried to separate in my closet by size.  Sometimes I under grew things before I even got to where them.  But I basically only bought stuff between 5 - 10 dollars.  Theme parks and any outing requires thought ahead.  I still pack my lunch box everyday if going out.  When I go shopping or anywhere, I take a fiber bar and bottles of water.  If your going out to dinner, plan ahead and look at their menu online beforehand so you have an idea what you can order.  Good Luck

Hi: Becky
               Good to hear that you are taking it slow & easy. After WLS we have to re-think and train our mind not to think of food as before. The surgery was to your stomach not your brain, so you'll still have these feelings that you need to eat more, but don't do it. Food is what got us to the point of needing surgery, so we have to adapt a new way of dealing with what we put in our mouths. It took years for (us) you to get obese, so it stands to reason that it will take time for (us) you to reach your goals. This is not an over-night fix, you'll have to work for it, exercise, vitamins, water, shakes, healthy foods and regular visits to your doctors. Start walking every day, get a good nights rest and sip, sip water.
I think one of the hardest thing during your journey is family and friend support. It all has to do with a lack of knowledge about the surgery and what the person getting the surgery is going through on a daily bases. Once they see the chance in you, they will start realizing that what you did for yourself what the correct thing. But it's all up to you to do the right things to stay on the winning side. I can see that your husband is a good guy, he just needs time to win him over to your side. ( Be at peace, it'll come )
Now about me, I have to wait until the summer when my 12 year old daughter is out of school, I'm a single Dad so she depends totally on me. I also have a 39 year old daughter who lives in Kissimmee, Fl, but she is a busy mom and business woman, so she can't help. I still have time to work things out. I'm 63, 255 lbs, 40.4 bmi, hypertensive, diabetic, and take lots of medications. My goal is to get off all medications & get healthy so that I can be around for my daughter.
My Motto Is "Time is the MASTER"
Stay well my friend.   
PS: You can call me, Lou

Ty for the advise. Yes I am going slow I just want to be sure not to get sick from NOT eating or drinking enough, lol/ Never thought I would ever say that. When do u plan on having your surgery? It is just nice having someone to talk to. My husband is wonderful but he doesn't understand. You can call me Becky by the way.

Hi: rthomas1964
                         Congrats on your surgery. I think the thing to do right now is to follow your doctors orders, on what you should be drinking or eating. Of all that I have read you should only be on water and shakes, for the first few weeks. You need to give your stomach a chance to heal. Solid food is something you should not be eating for now. Your vitamins, water and shakes are the main things you need for now. You can cause damage if rush back into eating like you use too. Please, Please go slow you'll get there, but in a safe way.
I have not had WLS surgery yet, so everything I'm telling you I have to apply to myself when I get my surgery. Continue to read and  please keep in touch with your doctor / nut.
You are doing great, stay on track. Keep us posted.
Regards: 88

Bonnie, Dr Shieh is my doc. He is such a kind man. I would like to get to you guys better. I am close to Fort Myers!