All about Jacqui...the good, bad and ugly

My life has been crazy!  AHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!  I took off yesterday because I have a horrible sinus infection.  My eyes were nearly swollen shut!  I've got some eye drops now so they're a bit better.  I still have to wear my glasses.  I was already behind at work because of my vacation.  Now I'm even further behind because I took off yesterday.  Oh well...at least the sun is shining. As those of you at the pampered chef party know, I've finally crossed the 100 lb mark!  As of Saturday I've lost 101 lbs.  Whoohooo!!!!  I was at 99 lbs for two weeks!  Now the next big benchmark is to get below 200.  It will take a while for that one because I'm still pretty much over 200 lbs. I did get some nice clothes at the pampered chef party thanks to my girls Brenda and Ellen.  I have on a top that Ellen gave me and a pair of pants from Brenda today.  It's so nice to have on something besides jeans.  I had three meetings today and had LOTS of comments on my weight loss.  It's amazing how much more it shows when you wear clothes that fit.  I feel very elegant today.  If it warms up like it's supposed to this week, I'll be wearing some of the skirts Ellen gave me.  I'm so excited! Some of my friends have started treating me funny.  I'm hoping it's not because I've started acting different.  I'm sure I have somewhat with the weight loss.  I try not to talk about it all the time but I'm really proud of myself.  I've only shared the "over 100 lbs" news with a few choice friends because I don't want to sound like I'm bragging. That's what I love about my Indiana buddies.  You guys know what I've gone through and how thrilled I am to be where I am.  It's not really bragging but I'm sure it seems that way to those who haven't been here.  I just hope I don't lose friends throughout this whole thing. I'm sure glad I've gained the friends here though.  You have become very important to me.  Seeing some of you at Brenda's was so wonderful.  Troy said it was worth the trip just to see me have such a good time.  It's sure easy to relax and be yourself when you have a bunch of gals who love you for you around.  Troy said he really enjoyed himself too.  I must stop now...duty calls. Know I love you! Smooches, Jacqui

I am sorry you have been sick. I hope you get to feeling better real soon. Congrats on the 100 lb loss....that is great! You should be very  proud of yourself for what you have accomplished.  Your friends will come around.  If I were you I would probably have to ask them is there something I have done to make you upset with me. You are right, you do have A LOT of friends here.  You keep up the good work and dont let anyone bring you down.  Your doing awesome!

Congrats on being down 100 lbs your doing soo awesome!!! :)

 Hi sweety,  I am so glad that those clothes worked out for you- I knew they would! I hope you start feeling better soon girl- sinus isn't fun. if it continues you may need to go to the PCP for it. A friend of mine had to she was so sick. Must be something going around. 100 # is huge- wonderful- amazing- awesome!!!! You have to pat yourself on the back, 'cause you are doing it,girl!! I'm so happy for you!!!! Now about friendship, before & afterfor me alteast. Your friends have seen a dramatic change in your eating and size, but you are still the same bubbly Jacqui they knew before- just not the same old eating buddy, right??!! I know it helped me to talk with my friends about my changes and that it wasn't going to change the way I felt about them- just about food. I finally had to let them know they could eat around me, I'd just enjoy them like always.Even if I was having a decaf coffee while they ate dessert- ok, even if they ate pizza,-ok,whatever- it was ok! It sure helped with my friends, and to let them know that I still needed them as well. Funny how we spent so much time eating, talking about eating, and ordering food or making it to eat- all that energy revolving around food. Now, we spend time sharing more fun things, important things, and life has changed, for the better. Yes, there were a few people/clubs I had to give up because it was all eating focused, but it is ok. We still keep in contact occasionally.  Hang in there, & I sure hope you get some relief soon.!!!!!!! Sending you ((((healing hugs)))) Ellen

Jacqui, I have seen many people post on here that friends seemed to change after weight loss. Most of them thought it was jealousy. Don't let that change you.  Like the others have said, talk to them, ask if there's a problem. Maybe they see a change in you that you can't see. Maybe it's a good change and they just don't like it because it is change.  You do have lots of new friends but we can't or want to take the place of old friends.  Sit down over a hot chocolate and talk it out. Share some stories and make sure they know how much you still need them. Robin set the clothing exchange for July 19th so you should be able to make it.  Hopefully we will see you before then at the Holiday World outing. Take care and keep your chin up.  Tell Troy it was a pleasure seeing him. Hugs,

woo hoo....100 pounds. Way to go...I am so happy for you! I love meeting up with you finally. You are such a doll. I am afraid my friends will treat me different as well. See ya soon!

So sorry to hear about your sinus infection.....it must go with the territory here, because everyone around here has got it as well!  Get better soon! Way to go on hitting that 100 # mark! It is awesome, isn't it!!! Your TRUE friends will come around.......give them the time, and they will realize that they are just jealous of how happy you finally are, and that they aren't as happy as they could and should be.  And you are right, your real friends are all of us on here, because we have "been there, done that, got the t-shirts (All the different sizes too!!!)"  We love ya, no matter what, and don't you forget it either!!! I got some great news yesterday........the owners of Holiday World have challenged our Relay for Life team, but saying if we get 12 people from our team to work at Holiday World one Sunday in May, they will donate $800 AND give everyone that works free passes too!!!!  I am already signed up, as well as a few of my co-workers!!! Talk about an exciting time!!!  I can't wait!

Hey guys, thanks so much for your support and your responses.  You are absolutely right.  These are some of my very best friends.  I just need to sit down with them and talk about things.  It's like the big elephant in the room.  Nobody is wanting to bring it up but it's sooooo evident.  Guess it needs to be me who brings it up.  Maybe they think I'll be offended if they say anything.   I love you people! Oodles of love, Jacqui

Jacqui, I am so excited for you to reach your 100 lb loss goal! That seems to be the biggie and then the 2's and then goal! You are on your way and it won't be long! Many more WOW moments to come! It was great seeing you again and meeting Troy, he was graet- you are an awesome couple! FUN,Fun,Fun! I can totally relate to the friendship issues! My closest friend and I have not seen much of each other since my surgery at least not like before! I must admit that alot of our times before centered around food and that is not of much interest for me anymore! Sometimes I feel that she is uncomfortable being around me now because of her size, but I was there once and I understand- I can never forget- in fear of going back! I know deep down that we continue to be there for each other no matter what but I miss her prescense in everday life! It is hard but this too is part of our journies! Good Luck I hope that you and your friends can talki t out and continue being the friends that you were before the surgery! You have added many years on to your life to share your friendships with others! I hope that they are as proud and happy for you as we all are! We are here for you, Hugz and Smooches! Dawn

YEEEEEEEEHAAAAAAW Gal!  100 pounds! a Century! a whole person! GONE! Isn't it wonderful!  Not to mention the INCHES!  You are such a fantastic soul...I can't wait to meet you!  hugggggggggs Janene