HOW MUCH HAVE YOU LOST TODAY??

oh my gosh.......excuse me while i fall off my chair.... DH and I were just having a 'row' about this yesterday......I was all grumpy because I was starting to feel "pressured" by everybody around me....those that knew I have had surgery, and those that just know I'm losing weight. I think I finally 'cracked' yesterday and started telling people to shove it.........while I shoved my mouth full of doughnuts (I guess to show them that I'm not always perfect? I dunno....that was dumb, but i was ticked ) anyhoo.....you are most definitely NOT alone in this. I feel pressure to lose all the time from just about everybody..........I'd love to tell ya it gets easier, but in my case........instead of hearing "how much have you lost SO FAR?".....I get "how much more 'till you get to your goal?".....and while I'm thrilled to be close to my goal.......it's still aggravating nonetheless. So hang in there.......you've got a kindred spirit here! Diana 261/172/140ish

Hi Tabitha, My thoughts are this... I asked people to ask me, "how are things going?" rather than, "how much weight have you lost"...they all adapted and that is working out great! I sometimes talk about food stuff, or just say, "really well" or whatever. When I have a SV, I'll mention it, but for the most part, that helped people "get" that it's not all about the numbers, and not to bug me about that part of it. Also, if I am asked "how much weight have you lost" I just ballpark it and add, "but it'll slow down here as I can reintroduce solid food..." just to set expectations. Secondly, I actually don't own a scale at home. I have to go the the gym to weigh myself, and though I check in sometimes during the week, I make my "official" weekly weigh-in on Sunday's, and that's the number I tell people if I decide to (or am asked by those close to me). Just some ideas!! ~Jenn 258/239.5/155 p.s. We have the same surgery date!

We are twins! I had my lapband on the 12th also.....but I am down only 13 lbs. You should be very proud of your weightloss! When have you ever lost that much in such a short time? I also think we should put away the scales and weigh every few weeks.....its just a small measure of what "fluid levels" are bodies are at, at that one moment! But I do totally understand!!!! I am exactly feeling what you are feeling!!! Good luck to you!!!

Hi - I was banded 08-15-05 and have lost about 12 pounds of weight pre and post op. I weigh every day just to see how my body reacts to different types of foods. I am not worried about it - I am not eating massive sweets or trying to 'cheat' my band, although I do eat an occasional sweet in small quantities. I am looking at it long term *try to, anyway* and I know that eventually I figure out the right combo of food and excercise and it will come off. I get frustrated now and then - one day I got off the scale, flipped it off and said "FXXX You"! I felt SO much better....and I didn't offend ANYONE!

Oh you have no idea pumpkin. From that question, when the pounds start rolling off, the same exact people will start feeling guilty about their own diet and discussing it with you like you are some fat loss authority. I never really had a problem with body image, I was always the "Love it or leave it" kind of person. Now, its totally different. Somewhere after the first few weeks, you realize that you have to leave that fat girl behind and learn to accept that you are going to be thin now, and you need to behave like a thin person. It sorta takes away your identity, and is very scary. You almost feel like you are not a part of your own group anymore. As time goes on and you learn to follow the rules and whats good for you, you will become more comfortable with yourself and those questions, and those people will become the last thing on your mind. Congratulations and welcome to the losing side. 294/254/when I can see all the way down to my toes

I have been playing a game called what size am I now! A lot more foun than what do I weigh now! Starte sorting your clothes - each day I do a fasion show of 4 or 5 pieces of clothes and let my husband pick out what goes because its too big, or if too small - if he thinks it wont ever be appealing on me. This way I get to fit into sizes 2 and sometimes 3 times smaller....we are focusing on me looking better and weeding out the closet. Also we are playing how many RX did CHer get rid of and each day on less meds is a victory. ANd of course theres the - gee when I hug you , you feel different NSV. Explain to your husband that weight loss when going slow has very subtle changes and sometimes fluid will veil weight loss behind the scenes. Then suggest other things to focus on that seem to have a healthier angle. Go get new hairstyle or hair color. Start walking a little further each day. DO an activty with him that you couldn't before.. Before you know it - he will learn to measure your success using the good healthy reasons you chose this path! Congratulations - 15 is great and about the same as where I am at. I lost 15 in a 5 day hosppital stay - gained back 7 (I was very dehydrated) and now have relost 5 of that 7....I really made up my mind to pay more attention tot he scale on the anniversaary of 4 weeks so that my body had time to adjust. As long as I stay around 1000-1200 calories - I know good work is happening inside.

I just wanted to let you know that I made an appointment with my Hairdresser TODAY I am going to get my hair cut and colored! I think something like that is just what I need to help me feel better about myself. I have learned one thing how I am feeling about myself definatly makes a huge diferrence in how I take everything the people that I love around me does and says! I think if I work to improve my point of view it will improve what "I" think everyones elses point of view is!

Hey I did go and get a Color and a cut I had a lot of Highlights for the summer so I went back to my more natural Chesnut Brown snd just got my cut shaped up (I am trying to let my hair grow out a little ). My husband has been so sweet since I got so upset that day he has not asked again how much I have lost I think he knows that when I lose I tell him and when I dont I do not want to be reminded of it. So now if he wants to encourage me he says thing like I am so proud of you. You look great today! I am so happy and I did not even have to talk to him about it he just figured it out by himself after my mood swing that day!!!! I am down 20 lbs now!!!!!! Thanks for keeping up with me it really makes my day!

Did you get your hair cut? How are you feeling? Update time! Bev