Can't use "smaller portions" card at buffet !?!

But I haven't written any of those things.  I merely wrote that I disagreed with the kitten thing.  That's all.  That's it, nothing more.

Your buddy that is defending you is causing you more grief than necessary.

I still feel that there is NOTHING wrong with writing the accent used, I see no problem with that.  I don't care, it gives the story more understanding.  That's all I have written about the OP. Period.

I think we have to agree to disagree at this point.

Agreed!  But I am sickened by those who claim to know my true intent.  They have no business here and troublemakers cheat those who come for real help and healing.  I have needed this site for thearputic reasons and gained much over the last few months as I've struggled with many issues on this part of the journey, but I see the era of my ways. I'll learn to walk on egg shells when I'm sharing my stories next time or maybe people need to just stop w/ trying to stir the pot and see the real issues behind the posts.  I admitted I was wrong in every way I kwon how and even PM individuals to verify my sincerity.   Yet sorry in many different ways isn't enough for some of these hinchmen who have nothing better to do but than to distract from the real issues surrounding our WL experiences, namely my issue with the surgeon's infamous card on this post. 
I may need to take a reprieve for a while whilst the dust settles, but this has been one sick ride. 
And just for the record, some of my family still speak w/ broken english and I can mimick that too, so what? 
I'm an actress at heart, that's what I do.   

Well, as I wrote, I don't much care about the accent thing.  It's life, it's what we are.  Some can spot that I am from the midwest by my own accent.  They are right... how they know that I have no clue.  You do know what Iowa stands for, right?  Idoits Out Walking Around. ;o)  That's me.

You can never please everyone, it is how it is,  But adults agree to disagree.  Bottom line.  The rest?  It does not matter.

I live in Iowa and have never heard of that one!  LOL   And we say "pop" instead of "soda".  I get a lot of grief from my Illinois family, but I give them grief right back.  After all Barney Fife said "Hey Andy, wanna go downtown and get a bottle of pop?"   Ok, if Barney calls it pop, it must be right.  LOL

Hi, I live in Iowa too! Which part are you from? I'm in Ottumwa.

We're in soutwest Iowa.  6 miles from Missouri and 50 from Nebraska.   Do you call it Pop or Soda?  LOL

POP, of course!!! I'm in SouthEAST  Iowa about  60 miles from the Missouri line.

LOL!!! I love your slinky reference in your signature! BTW I'm from Arizona and I say pop too.  My Mom is from IL/IA border and she has always said pop too :)

Thanks for the laugh!

So far, pop wins.  I'm going to have to save these and take them to Illinois and prove to my family that pop is correct. LOL    I love the Coke reference from the south.  That is just too funny. 

While I understand why someone from an Asian background may have taken offense, my interpretation of your post was simply a quote based on the accent of the person who spoke, and by quoting that person, it gave me a better understanding of how rude her response was, resulting in embarrassment to you.    I believe that was your whole point.  Not that she was Asian. 

My understanding of your post was that the reason you left the restaurant was not the fact that you got turned down on using the card, but  because the hostess  was very rude to in the way she spoke to you.   THAT was unacceptable.  You were willing to to back in and pay the extra.  If she hadn't been so rude and embarrased you, your husband probably would have been willing to go back in too.   A little kindness and discretion would have gone a long way and would have made a difference in how you and your family reacted.  Any business that would embarass a customer doesn't deserve their business.   I would have been offended if I was treated that way and  I would have left too.  But beforehand, I would have quietly explained to the hostess that she could have used some discretion and tactfulness in regard to the card and if she had, your family would have stayed and payed full price.  

And, why not try to use the card?  Hey, I'll take any discount I can find no matter where.  I look for cheaper gas prices, cut coupons, look for sales, etc.  I do it to save money.  So if a restaurant will honor the card, darned right I'll use it.  Save me some money to buy more protein powder. LOL

Wanda