ANE EARLY CHRISTMAS GIFT!

T, you rock, babe!!  I could not have said it better myself. I honestly cannot believe what I just read here!!!!!! OMG.

I don't believe that Pam was "callous" at all!!!! I believe that she will forever be grateful. Having been through this myself with my own mother needing an organ transplant, I know how incredibly grateful you are when your prayers are answered for your loved one, but how mixed those feelings are because of the loss that someone else must endure for your loved one to have a chance to live. Jane, I don't think it's fair for you to say those words to PAM or ANYONE!! Shame on you!! 

PAM - I hope that you had a very wonderful Christmas with your husband, and I am praying for his continued good health!! 

Hugs! 

This was really uncalled for an inappropriate. You are the callous one to be raining on thier joy.
Em

Honestly, I found this post to be just plain rude.  It could have been worded better and not been as sarcastic.  

Pam has been through a great deal and I am happy that he is chasing her through the house with his found energy.  We had all been praying for her for a long time.  

This is just my opinion, but again... it was rude...

Thanks to all of you for your kind and warm words.  May the blessings of this Holy Season be with each and every one of you and I pray that the New Year bring the best anyone could hope for!

Huggs,
Pam

Pam, do not let anybody destroy your joy.  The joy your husband and family feel in this gift IS the donor's legacy.  A gift is a gift, not a contract for eternal indebtedness.  It is possible to feel grateful without feeling sadness or remorse.  These gifts are made when the other body has no need of them any longer, and yes, it is sad for the family, but no sadder than any other family who has suffered a loss.  We will all be touched by loss-it is the nature of our lives, and being angry about it doesn't stop it or make it any better.  In your cir****tances, you know this better than most, and I can't think of a family who could receive a donation with more joy than yours.

 

Making such a donation at a hard juncture is testament to the loving and giving spirit of the donor family and the donor.  Your joy at the gift is your testament and honors them as well.  In my mind, that's all that is necessary. 

 

So glad to hear that Steve is up and about and able to chase you around the house. What a blessing for you. I am sure the donor family would be blessed knowing that Steve is doing well and that their family member lives on through him. Many prayers for you and your family.
Emily

I am a Palliative Care Nurse Practitioner.  That means I work with people at the end of life, including those with liver disease and those who wish to donate organs. I am definitely on the organ donation bandwagon.

However, in the spirit of Christmas, I propose we recognize that people deal with grief differently and that we forgive Just-Jane (no, I don't know her) for her momentary lapse into anger.  If Pammie can find it in her heart to be forgiving for the post, so should the rest of us.  I have been nearly punched, hugged, and everything in between by families attempting to deal with grief, and have learned to overlook behavior that springs from grief or misunderstanding. 

Pammie, I am happy your hubby is doing so wonderfully-a new liver for him and a new tummy for you!

And Jane, I am sorry for your friend's loss and for yours too.

Have a blessed holiday, everyone.

Wow...just wow.  I know someone I would like to send some coal to this holiday season. 

Pammie you are loved and "adopted" by all of us Oklahoma folks.  We love you on our boards.  We know your heart and know that you give thanks to God each and everyday for your blessings and for Steve to have the gift he recieved.  Best wishes

Pammie,

As you have posted more to us and we love our transplanted okie board member. I Know that you are not callous about your husbandsgrief and I am sorry that for whatever reason Jane felt the need to respond the way she did I hope that God will grant her inner peace to ease her own personal demons whatever they may be.  And have that hubby chase you under the mistletoe for some extra kisses to celebrate the gift of life you have both been given.

Jane,

I am sorry that you are obviously upset by this but she really didnt mean it in the way you took it. Your friends husband and her family are very brave for choosing to donate in the first pllace. But truthfully since he willingly gave the chance at life to so many families would he want them wasting the precious extra time his sacrifice gave or would he want them to be chasing their loved ones around and enjoying every minute of his selfless gift?

OHHHH WOW! I have never heard of a doctor chopping up somone and dividing the  left overs to scavengers....That is what this sounded like she was saying.... Donating an organ is a very emotional and soul searching request of the person who had died or family of the persons. It is heart wrenching for all the family after the person has passed on and it could take many months if not years to ever want to hear where the organ went. Some just don't want to know anything! Many transplants fail and this would be devistating to a donor's family....Sometimes it is best not to contact them for that very reason.  To me it is a very wonderful expression of paying it forward in the largest sense!
If I had a box on my license that asked if I wanted to be chopped up and my left overs scattered...I may have checked it anyway! I don't need my body when I am gone, and they can take what ever will help another with it when I am gone!
I think someone is very angry and bitter inside and can't be happy for another life that will go on with an extended life because of this....Instead the pain of this person and the loss that was experienced, is so selfish that it seems to want everyone who has a need of an organ, just die. My heart goes out to her and the suffering that she must be going through to not want another recepient to gain more life.  People do not get organs and then run off living life again without thinking about the one who gave it to them.....They just couldn't! That would be cold hearted. It is a horrible thing to just imagine that all recipiants and their families could be ungrateful recipients....
I pray that in this Holiday Season, God brings this lady peace to  her heart and mind....and Pammi!! Good tidings and Good Will.....May God bring you and your family much happiness and joy this Season!
Sherry