Jealous

So I experienced the rough side of eating differently today. I haven't have my sugery yet but I have changed my eating habits to prep myself and to start feeling better. I went out to dinner with my family and I was jealous of what some people got to eat. How silly of me JEALOUS of food.... anyone else experience this. This is my frist taste (ha funny word) of the struggles with weight loss surgery. Any helpful tips that anyone has?

I remember being TICKED OFF at all the food commercials I noticed on the first day of my liquid diet!  But I turned that anger to my favor, by becoming determined NOT to let all those signals mess me up!  MAKE UP YOUR MIND that you are stronger than the urges that got you overweight in the first place!   DECIDE that you are gonna knock this whole WLS lifestyle out of the park!   CONGRATULATE yourself for every single victory over food!  (But do NOT reward yourself with food!  That would be bad.  ) And FORGIVE yourself for those moments when being human wins out and you do or eat something you shouldn't.  That's a biggie.  Every moment of every day, God gives us the opportunity to start over!  That's not to say GO AHEAD AND MESS UP ALL YOU WANT!  That just means - as a human, we ALL screw up sometimes.  Forgive yourself, then give yourself a talking to - tell yourself that just because you messed up that time, doesn't mean you have to flush all your efforts down the sewer!   GOOD FOR YOU for starting NOW!! 

Hi...I am waiting for approval for my surgery and I am doing what you are.  It is really difficult for me too.  What I find difficult is having to cook for my son and not nibble like I used too.  I never realized until now how much I used to do it.  No wonder I am where I am weight wise.   I started drinking Slim Fast for one meal, but I think tomorrow I am going to try for two with snacks and see how I do.  My goal is to get my weight down for surgery and to get in the habits that I need now.....so the transition is not so hard.  I have not gone out to eat yet, but I am sure that I might have feelings like you did.  We can just lift each other up and remember we are doing this for OUR HEALTH and NEW LIFE!!! 

I understand what your saying. I was one of the lucky ones. I got to eat pretty much what I wanted up until the day before surgrey. The down side was I had a lot of adjusting to do after the surgrey. I think the hardest part for me was when I realized I couldn't take a day off, or a meal off. Like at holiday dinners and what not. That was a real reality check for me. It's gotten better, and I've adjusted.

Just keep doing what your doing, and remember how hard you have worked to get to this point. all the Dr visits, admitting very embarassing situations etc. It's not worth that one bite, or one whatever to undo what you've done.

Get ready for the biggest ride of your life. It's got it's ups and downs, but in the end your very glad you did it.

Ah, Yes!  This is the emotional part! Food has been a comfort and when you see people you can eat whatever and you are "stuck" just eating healthy.  GOOD for you for practicing now as it will make later easier.  As Darla said, don't beat yourself up for being human is a big key!!!   As far as tips, it's a personal battle and you have to find something good to replace the food comfort.   Congrats on practicing...Keep your eye on the prize!! 

That is totally normal especially at the beginning because we have formed such a close relationship with food that once we break it off and only eat to be healthy we may envy those who can still eat some of things we used to really enjoy.  Congrats on starting the habits early it will help you a lot after surgery because there will be one less thing to get used to.  I know someone on the board always says "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" sorry I can't remember who to credit with this phrase.  Keep pluggin away at putting those new habits in place and before you know it they will completely replace all of the old bad habits and the envy will dissapate.

I find my not jealous anymore and that others are jealous of me for eating less and better than them.

I felt that way for a little while after surgery.  I kept thinking, "you have no idea how lucky you are that you can just grab anything and chow down."  However, as I've gotten further out, I notice how everything I eat affects my body and well-being.  You begin to crave the better foods.  And yes, when we can only eat small amounts, we learn to make what we eat, "worth it."  meaning high in protein, fiber, low to no sugar, low fat.  You have to practice appreciating what is on your plate.  It does get easier.  Also, one day, you will see somebody you know eat, and think to yourself, "holy s**t, that's a LOT of food.  I can't believe I used to eat like that."  Most importantly when you are eating right, you do feel better.  Eat wrong, you will probably suffer in some way.   Make sure you are listening to your tummy.  Ask, is this real, physical hunger?  or is it head hunger?  If it's head hunger (just a craving), what can you do instead of eating?  Keep the bad stuff out of the house.  Listen to your body, you'd be surprised what it has to say to you.   Good luck!