Words really do hurt

Last night 2 friends and I went to a resturant for dinner.  We were sitting on a bench waiting for them to seat us.  Sitting across from us on the other bench was a family with a little girl about 3 yrs old.  This little girl started pointing at me and repeatedly said, "That girl is BIG!" She got off the bench and was going to walk towards me until her dad caught her and made her stop pointing at me.  I acted as though I didn't hear her but I did loud and clear and I know she was only 3 yrs old but those little words from her mouth stung and really hurt.  I fought back the tears and to top the evening off they seated us right next to this family....wasn't that nice?  I kept looking over at the little girl hoping that she didn't blurt out any other remarks about my size for the entire resturant to hear.  If ever I had any doubts about having WLS I don't now, I think I want it even more.  I'm so tired of not fitting in chairs/booths and other places and I'm tired of people looking at me and making fun of me because of my size.  When we got home last night I watched part of Big Medicine and again had to fight back the tears because all I could think about were the words of that little girl echoing in my head over and over again.  I didn't realize that someone so little could say something so harsh that would affect me in the way it did. 

Hi , yea I know your pain before I had  my band I was in Walmart and a little girl walked by and said that man has a biiiig tummy. her parents scoopes her up and ran a way all red in the face.  I ran in to them later and they hurried the other way.   Nothing cuts deeper then the words of a child. I hope every thing goes well for you and  and some day people like us will not have to hear the thoughts of others.  i don't know why if someone is FAT people think it gives them a licence to insult  and I' m talking adluts hear.(kids don't know the pain)   I use to work in a steel foundry  and almost daily people would say something. May God be with you on your WLS Journey. May you have comfort and peace . Paul   

Bev, I'm so sorry this happened to you.  BUT it won't be long until there will be no cause to say such things to you.  I know it was just a child but it hurts anyway.  Please keep your chin up, you're such a valuable person no matter what size you are.  Your beauty is not from the outside.  But it will be so good when your beautiful inside has a new outside to fit into. Hugs, Lana

OMG I know exactly how that feels!!  That girl was pretty young, hopefully her parents will teach her not to say things like that.  Sometimes I think it is good if children have a person that is overweight in their lives so they learn to love people for their insides.  For example, I have a niece and nephew and they don't remember me ever being thin so they have loved someone all of their lives that had a weight issue... I really think they learned a lot from that and are not as judgemental as many of their peers.   Keep your head up girl!!  There are so many people in this world who do see us for US and not for that extra weight!!  Good luck to you!  =))

I am so sorry that this happened!! I actually fear going to malls and places like that because people will just stare at me like I am "not human" and I say something about it to my husband and he just says it is all in my head, I am being sensitive.  He does not understand what it feels like to have people almost trip over themselves because they are so busy staring and laughing at me   And the children, they are the hardest!! I know inside that they do not know better but it stings bad!!!  Hang in there, you will get to where you want to be Hugs, Beth