WHATS HAPPENING FRIDAY

 

I think I work harder when Im not working than I do when I do . lol does that sound like so much double talk? I cleaned out two flower beds today. The ones up front that have the tulips in them in the spring? Well they still have the tulips there but they have been sitting bare for a while so I went to the nursery the other day to see what they would have left that I could buy cheap. I bought 5 flats of mixed annuals. Today I planted those 5 flats up in the front 2 flower beds. I was wringing wet with sweat from head to toe when I got done.

Also I re-worked the pump on one of the ponds.Weeded my holly hocks, put trellis up for the morning glorys to climb up, and dug about a dozen persimmon starts out of flower beds and such. I think im done lol.

 

One of my really good friends that I met online and I have been walking her thru getting weight loss surgery for about a year now, will leave for Atlanta tomorrow morning early to have wls on Monday morning. She has another friend with her that has promised me that they will call when she is thru surgery. I sure hope so She has been on such a long trip to get here with over a half a dozen doctors turning her down and some of them she turned down. One surgeon wanted her to pay for the surgery first and then have medicare to pay and they would reimburse her. Stupid right? Others refused to operate because of her weight. She was last year when I met her 559 pounds. But after getting turned down a couple of times, I talked her into trying to get some of the weight off so she could find a surgeon that would take her. We developed a weight loss program of two protein shakes a day and a light supper of something like hamburger , no bread and a green vegetable.

Nothing white, all the sugar free jello she wanted , she loves that, all the sugar free popsiciles (does all of this sound familiar) anyway she has had sliped  up yeah but I cheered her on and on till the other day she weighted at the surgeons office that accepted her and she weights 451 pounds. She has been on the liquid diet for two weeks and has probably lost another 10 probably maybe more.

Anyway I hope you all will join me in prayer for her on Monday morning. For her surgery to go well. Please. She is a very determined person and hopefully a person that will use the tool wisely.

 

 

RIANNE: Honey your family isnt any different than others are. A lot of families have the drama queens or kings as the case may be. We have one in our family that is so bent out of shape on politices that everyone is not allowed to make any sort of comment about certain officials lol. The rant is on if you do.

 

So how are you doing on your liquid diet so far? And I hope you finally got the pre-op visit out of the way. Is everything ok? And all systems go…..We are here to cheer you on with the liquid diet , hang in there and remember where you are going with this.

 

 

CHELLE: well 10 more days now and counting right? Is the diet getting easier or not?

Like I told Rianne just remember where you are going. Or in other words , Keep your eye on the prize. This part will be over before you know it.

 

I had to laugh when you said maybe they all came to Branson without their bras lol . That was cute. I guess we had a good sale so they came. One day when you have lost all the weight you need come on down and I will measure you and you can buy you some pretty bras too.

 

That is what we post –ops are here for , to lend you pre-ops a hand of support. We know what you are going thru and we know how it felt so hang in there it all will be worth it when you step on those scales and they do down instead of up.

 

 

CRAIG: whoooooeeeee. Great on all that you are doing and about to do. Cant wait for that C,D.

I hope the dream does come true about the playing in spots close to me. I would love to come out and see you and say , Hey there is my buddy Craig up there on that stage.

Hey Craig (waving) do you remember me???

God will take you there if that is where you are suppose to be.

 

 

BEV: Sounds like you had a great 4^th of July . with lots of fun .

What do you do where you work Bev? You are very lucky that you are still able to work.

 

You said you don’t want to put on a bathing suit at your weight , then don’t , buy a pair of the tight bike shorts and the  top that is sort of like a bathing suit but is made out of the stretch stuff too. That is what I wear as a bathing suit because I have lost too much and my legs are tooooooooo wrinkled and flabby. So I wear the bike shorts. Look much nicer and hide some of the bad stuff . Really I think they ought to start making bathing suits be like they were in the olden days. You know long bloomer legs and long puffy sleeves lol

 

I hope you get your consult date soon and makes it feel like a reality to you more. Then we can start polishing off the seat for you too.

 

 

JANET: It sounds like you had a great 4^th of July. Joe an I with the granddaughter , her husband and the two babies went down to the lake to watch them set off fireworks down there but it kept raining so we finally came to the house. And then of course when we were getting ready for bed it quit raining and they were setting off lots and lots of them. We got to see a few and the great grandson was so much fun to watch about looking at them

Oh you ask one day how old the great grand babies are. The little boy is almost 2 but wears size 3s. He is a pretty good size little boy , weighs 33.5 pounds lol. Glad we don’t have to carry him around .

And the baby is a girl she is 4 months old and is into size 6-9 months old most things.

 Do you happen to have a potty chair that you are putting in your sale? If so I will buy it from you and you can bring it to the July meeting . lol

 

Im sure the wedding will be just beautiful done in the park. I know you will have everything all pretty for them and it sounds like a lovely setting.

 

Hopefully we will have a lot of people come to the reunion that we have never met and maybe more of them that will come from the COF meeting. You know some of them may not get onto here, why don’t you print up the information and pass out copies of that at the meeting? Maybe have some new ones that will come on too.

I have had some private emails from a few people worrying that it might get a little wild with the talk of beer and such.

 

I have started putting a lot of lotion on my arms and hands I hope it will help.

I have been wearing stretch panty hose to work in because they help your legs to not be so tired . well I don’t know if I hadn’t rinsed them well enough or what but they sure broke my legs out the other day. Up on my inner thighs. Is a horrible rash that is pretty painfull but I have been using the powder that my pcp gave me. And it seems to be working

 

Will continue to say a prayer for your mother .

 

 

MELLISA: sure am glad you are home and we are still praying for you for a complete and totally healing.

We all love you and need a Melissa fix. Lol

 

NANAGAYLE: I think all of our spouses in one way or the other wondered if when we got thin would we leave. It takes a lot of encouragement from us to make them realize that we aren’t doing this for attention from someone else.

 

Tell him you need him to be your cheerleader all the way thru this. That his role is totally as important as the surgeons. And really it is.

If he feels like he still has a part in your life maybe he will be more behind you in this.

 

 

LOVE AND JOY AND PEACE ABOUNDS.

JAN

 

 

 

 

 

Hey Jan; I always enjoy your posts. What's this about Craig and a CD? Did I miss something? Does he sing or what? I hope he is coming to the reunion. I am so anxious to meet so many on the board. Isn't it funny how we feel we know each other so well? I'm also ready for my DH to meet other men who's wife has had the surgery. They also can teach alot to the new post op's and the pre op's. Our spouse's are so special. They also endure this along with us.

morning Jan.    ive been looking for the tight legging bike shorts, where did you get yours? i always liked em cos i thought  they made my legs LOOK slimmer hahaha  tks Sheila

Dear Jan and OH Peeps~ Good Morning and Happy Friday~I cant believe its already Friday again~~ LOL....Tomorrow is such a big day and I cant believe its already here!! Can you tell Im excited? I just want everything to go perfectly, as Im sure all mothers do when their babies go and get married. Im afriad there will be lots of tears shed tomorrow-and so I am not wearing mascara-I can even get the waterproof stuff to smear-LOL....I have already bought the box of tissues. I know that when Mike walks her down the isle-he will be a crier for sure-he hasnt seen her in her dress yet-so Im sure when he sees his little princess in her dress-his nose will be all red and the tears will be flowing. He asked if he could wear his sunglasses and she told him yes, I told him no!! LOL. I wanna seem him melt-LOL! Please keep us all in your prayers that everything will be great-the weather, the park site-and that no one goes and parties out there tonite and leaves a big old mess for us to clean up-I sure appreciate it!! I have a surprise for Megan-my dads assistant manager has this really really nice 71 Camaro-show car-and he is going to drive Megan and Mike up to the park in it!! I know she will like that better than a limo-but Im sure her first pick would have been the carriage ride-but the only place that does that here-was already booked out-a lot of people are getting married tomorrow-due to the 7/7/7 deal....anyway-Im pretty excited about that ride-and she doesnt even know it yet!! She is wearing my pearl earrings (borrowed), then we have a blue hanky that was MY great grandmas (blue and old) and we bought her a diamond heart necklace some time back-and its been in my armoire just waiting for this day (new)....Be assured-there will be a million pics taken tomorrow-thats for sure!! Please also say a prayer that my mom will be able to make it to the wedding-that she will feel good enough to at least attend, even if she has to leave right away-I appreciate it!! So-today we have a lot to do-the boys are both getting their hair cuts-have to sew a button on the khaki pants of Mikes, have to get my hair colored (do it myself of course) get all of our clothing set out and organized-because I will be gone early tomorrow morning to get Meg to her hair and make up appt-and then meet the guys in town before the wedding. I have to get all the decorations together and in one place and so on!! We lost our power for over 3 hours at dinner time-so that set me back (for the hair cuts etc) and by the time it got back on-we were rushing to eat, shower and get the kids to bed. We ended up BBQng our chicken and potatoes-and the power came back on after 8 last night-would have been quicker in the house, but didnt want to wait in case it didnt come on for a longer time! We still dont have any cold water in the front bathroom or kitchen-so thats slowed down our shower times etc-since we all have to do it in the back bathroom.....I hope today is a little smoother than yesterday-but thank God we have the pool-after the power was off for an hour-we went and spent a couple of hours in the pool to stay cooled down-it sure was muggy and humid out!! The pool temp is perfect at 86 and has been there for a week now. The levels are staying where they are suppose to be-and I hope it doesnt rain before Sunday now.

Something happened with my back-and Im not sure if one of those bulging/herniated discs ruptured or what-but I went to get something out of the freezer (our freezer is on the bottom of the fridge) and when I bent over-it felt like someone hit me as hard as they could with a baseball bat....the next morning (yesterday) I was crying and bent over the desk and Mike looked and said I have a bruise that goes across my lower back from side to side-and when he was rubbing some bio freeze on it-I couldnt feel him doing it at all in an area the size of a pc of notebook paper. It was totally numb-almost like I was paralyzed. I have no clue what this all means-and dont have time today or tomorrow to mess with it, so maybe next week? Dunno. All I know is that for over a week-I have not been able to sleep and the pain is waking me up during the night-all night. I am back to sleeping in a chair most of the time...to keep a pack-either ice or heat on my lower back and keep it there-but its been tough. I am just praying to make it until I get my medicare-thats it. Jan-whats your friends name? I know that God will know who we are talking about-but it would be nice to have a name to go with the prayer. Please let her know that this prayer warrior board will NOT forget her-and I pray she has a safe surgery and speedy recovery. Is she from this area? Thanks for helping her out!! Holy cow-she kicked butt on her own with her weight loss and all! You are so awesome for helping her out-it sure is nice to have someone to talk to when you are going through all of the pre-op mess. I didnt meet Mel until Sept of last year-so from July to Sept it was Sherr.....we were going through the process at the same time and went to the same seminar-although she got hers off and running quicker. Anyway-I know its tough-and when you are a higher BMI and have to lose some weight-it makes the process even more stressful. I commend you for the encouragement you gave her - and for everything you did for her. I wish her the best-and look-now she wont have to ever worry about that weight coming back on!! So-she had to go out of state to get her surgery? WOW...that stinks. Also-with Medicare-I dont think they can make someone pay for something beforehand-I do believe that someone can be in some serious trouble if they get caught doing that!! Federal law prohibits so much stuff when it comes to Medicare that we had to attend special meetings all the time so the hospital wouldnt incurr any fines etc-if we werent educated about certain things!!

Ok-I have put the grandbabies info down on a pc of paper and I will put the things aside that will fit them both-and for the baby girl-most of it will be onesies and such-but I know I have things for the little guy. I do have a potty chair in the sale and I dont think its sold yet-will have to check on that. Its one by itself-not one that goes in the regular toilet. Jon didnt use it but 2-3 times-he went basically straight to the big toilet. So-its like brand new-I will check and if its still there-will bring it to Julys meeting as well. ****ABOUT THE REUNION & BEER-PLEASE READ****

***I was sorry to hear that some were emailing you worried about beer and people getting wild-I cant speak for or control anyone else, of course-all I can say is that for myself and the people staying with me-there isnt going to be any wild partying or loud music or foul language-thats not how we are. Im also not going to lie and say that my husband doesnt have a beer now and then, because he does-but does he drin****il he is drunk? NO, does he drink and start fights or use the language of a sailor-NO, will he get drunk and be out of control? NO!! I would sincerely hope that everyone going to the reunion would be respectful and NOT act like idiots. I guess we are just going to have to believe that no one would do that-but from everyone who has responded so far-I dont think thats going to be an issue-I dont know what to say-I guess I didnt assume that there would be a problem with that-and nor am I going to assume that if someone wants to have a beer that they will be like that. I knew going into this-that no matter what happened, where we ended up or what have you-that not every single person would be happy with everything-its pretty much impossible to make ALL the people happy ALL the time. I did the best I could, and I believe we will all have fun~ I know that some dont like alcohol, some dont like smokers-its a fact of life- no one will be shoving alcohol or cigs down anyone elses throat and Im sure we will all be respectful of everyone else-but I expect the non-smokers, non drinkers to be respectful of the others too-we are all there to have fun, talk, get to know each other and such-and it sure isnt going to change my mind about someone if they are holding a beer-or holding a soda or a water- I think in this area- we should just assume that we will ALL act mature and responsible-and not ask for problems that arent there-right? Im not saying this just because Mike might have a beer or two-because he might not-heck-he may not be going at all-but for anyone who might want a beer-I dont want them to feel like they will be rediculed for doing so IF they act responsible-Im just saying that we shouldnt worry about the what-ifs-and its just a fact of life that we cannot control anyone else-ya know? That sort of thing can happen IF you were on vaca, at a family reunion OR just going out to dinner with your kids-I know Ive been in situations that I would rather my children didnt see or witness (with other people when we have gone out somewhere)-so its everywhere-and we arent the only ones allowed at the resort at that time-so I cant say that there wont be others there drinking either-but I know the owners wont tolerate that sort of wild thing, so Please let whomever is worrying about it, that although we cant gaurantee something wont happen, as far as our group goes-hopefully that wont be an issue.....All of us who have gone through WLS journey have known what its like to be labeled something and for people to treat us differently-and so I pray that everyone is respectful of everyone else-no matter what their personal likes or dislikes are!! We are all wanting to go for the same reasons-and so I would hope that people wouldnt dread coming or worry about unforeseen issues or problems that more than likely wont occur-and unfortunately, I hate to say it-but if they are going to be judgemental without reason, than maybe its not the best place for them to go that particular weekend-right? **Rianne and Chelle-Are you guys getting excited? 10 more days and you will be on the bench with us-its getting polished right now-LOL....I know this is a hard time right now-but before you know it-it will be over and done with. Jans saying is such a good one-about keeping your eyes on the prize-and I also told myself these 2 things-If God brought you to it-HE will get you through it and NOTHING would taste so good it would be worth delaying your surgery....these sayings helped me tremendously. I am keeping you both in prayer. Love you both. **Nanagayle-I know what you mean-my hubby really didnt want me to have the surgery, but never told me no-although he never said this or that would make him sad...I know in the back of his mind-he was worried about complications and the unknown. I told him that I wasnt with him because of my weight or that no one else would have me-I was with him because I loved him-and it made me love him even more that he loved me as fat as I was and was never ashamed of me-that made me feel good. Now that he has seen ALL the differences this surgery has made in my life-he even goes for walks with me-and if you asked him today-if he would have wanted me to have the surgery knowing now what he didnt know then-he would have me do it over again in a heartbeat-its made the biggest difference in my life-our life together and our family. WE have so much fun now-and I have been more honest and open with him than ever before-about how I felt as a super obese person and how it robbed me of so much of myself. I wish you both luck-and Im sure that the more he sees how much you change-the more he will become involved and pretty soon it will all be second nature to you both. Good luck to you both. **Susan and Mel-I am praying your both recovering quickly and that you will be back to your old selves soon! Miss talking to you both and love ya. Well, I am getting off here, doing my vitamins and shake-then going to cut the boys hair and get the things on my list crossed off.  All my love and prayers-and have a good Friday, Janet

Good Afternoon Everyone:       I am home got out of the hospital on Tuesday evening. Wed & Thur I thought to myself maybe I rushed it too early to get out. Wasnt feeling good at all and nothing wanted to stay down in my pouch. Called and talked to my doc's nurse and she called me in 2 different meds. 1 for pain & 1 for tummy. Woke up this morning feeling alot better. Still doing my antobotic treatments everyday at the hospital until the 20th of this month. Getting around a little better not as stiff. I go Monday and hopefully get all my staples out. I believe that Terry counted around 40ish staples.    I wanted to thank everyone for all the prayers. From what I have been told I was in really bad shape. And getting worse by the second. So I am thankful that God put the right doc in the right place at the right time.    I will try to get on and post more. Just trying to do what the doc says and take it easy. This is a new word for me to learn. lol I love ya'll and I am so thankfull for each and everyone of you!!!!! God Bless Mel

WOOHOOO  Happy Friday!!! What a great day it's been so far....I woke up bright and early this morning, took a shower, then loaded all my stuff in mom's convertible...Had my first protein shake of the day...and it wasn't too bad really.  I mixed it with water and it just tasted like SWEET milk....not bad.... THEN, I was fortunate enough to be able to drive ALL the way back up to my Mo home (3 hr drive) with the top down...it was great!  I really enjoyed it...and my forehead got a little sunburned HA Once I got home and stopped hugging Jon I had my 2nd protein shake.  I mixed it with milk this time...EWWWWW  it was like this thick shake and it was BLECH.  I will NOT be mixing w/ milk any longer...that make me sick at my stomach.  I ran into the kitchen and made some chicken broth to try and help calm my stomach after it started rebelling from the thick nasty shake.  Had about 3 oz of the broth and drank some water....and I'm STILL feeling full and I still have to drink 3 more of those shakes before the end of the day....not looking good...ha ha  I'll give it my best effort. Erin~~I'm praying for ya...how are you feeling today?  Thanks so much for the card, you are the sweetest ever!  You gave me your old address though....so sometime give me your new address in Topeka please :-) Chelle~~Girl, I am still in denial that our surgery date is only 10 days away.  I mean, it seems like I jumped through hoops for SO long that now I'm still not sure that something isn't going to happen to mess things up...but I sure hope not.  2 shakes down...3 to go today....blech....but it's a neccessary evil I suppose! Janet~~Sending up lots and lots and lots of prayers for ya and tomorrow for the wedding.....I know of 2 other weddings going on tomorrow....hopefully all will go off as planned.  **hugs** Jan~~WOW!  Do you ever rest??  Goodness gracious....planting and digging and working.....where do you get your energy?? :-P  It's SO hot outside I don't know how you do it!  I walked the puppy to the mailbox today and by the time we got back around to my place (took the long way) both he and I were huffing and puffing like we were gonna die! ha Liquid diet....ehh...it's going!  That's about as good as I can hope for right now....almost 30 oz of water down so far (I took a nap midday which kinda threw me for a loop) but I drink tons of water so I'll catch up NO prob..... I love you all and am praying for ya'll!!! **hugs**

Hey, one more thing...has anyone heard from Nutti lately??  Since she used the same surgeon I will be using I'd like to know how things are going.....

Hello Missouri, It's almost time for me to go home from work so this will be short.  It's really hot today!!!   It's good to hear from all of you today.  Melissa, so sweet to see your face on here and Jan and Janet and Rianne and Chelle and all the gang. I just realized last night that DH isn't going to be able to go to the reunion with me.  His son from California is coming the weekend before and not going home until Sunday, Sept 9.  I think DH was really disappointed but he can't do anything about it now.  He knows I won't give up my time with you all and he told me he sure didn't expect me to.  He knows how much I love you all.  Hope more folks can come.  It will be so awesome.   Gotta go and get started home. Love and hugs, Lana