Jealousy
I have recently been going through the insurance run around and finally got through it and was approved and I am so happy and excited about it. I have a friend that is wanting to have the RNY also however the doctor that we are able to go to has a BMI max of 60 to do that surgery and she is above that. Yes it's stupid to put a max that low on a surgery that would help so many others, but it's the rules. She has been working so very hard to get below that and she's about 20 lbs away from it and I am so proud of her. Here's where the problem comes in. She and I have a very open and honest relationship and she has told me that she is very jealous of me because of the differences of where we are in our process. I try to be supportive of her in her continued weight loss and keeping her spirits up. I think she tried her hardest to not let it effect her when I want to talk about what I am going and how excited I am, but she changes and I can tell it does. That makes me feel guilty about talking about it to her, but she's really the only one I can talk to about it.
Am I selfish for wanting her to be happy for me even though she has some jealousy about our situations? It's been going on for a while and I really would like some help with this.
Thanks
Laura...Sorry your having such a terrible issue with a close friend....
But I truly feel that if she was a true friend she would still be happy for you....It sounds like she is on her way to meeting her goal to be able to have surgery too....
I kinda have a situation like that too...It's my sister in law. And she actually started on her process before I did... Her insurance told her one minit it was a go then after she got a few things going on it they decided they wouldn't pay for the surgery....
And because of her heart problems and her sugar, she could really use the surgery so she could have a better chance of loosing weight...
I was kinda bothered with telling her but I wanted to do it myself and before she seen me again and could tell something happened...
I knew she wouldn't actually be jealous but I knew it would be hard for her cause she wanted hers so badly for her health issues...she is terrified of having another major heart attack....
But she was soooo tickled when I told her I had been approved....And I drop her a line every lil bit to keep her updated on how things are going....
She even called me to share my info about the liquid protien diet with her...I lost 57lbs with it, so she thought while she was waiting for her insurance company to change their policies she would work on her weight with the liquid protein....
She has been a real sweetheart with it all...but I know not all people are alike...
If it's too hard for you to talk with your friend...Please drop in here any time and ask questions, share info and keep us updated on how things are going....We love hearing from any & everyone on how things are going...You can even sign up for an angel and you will have a personal friend to share it all with as you go through your journey.....
I hope things work out for yall and it dosen't cause any problems with your friendship....God Bless.....
Hugs...Tammy~ammy
Tammy~Ammy
~~~Happiness is being Christa's Nanna~~~
Start~474lbs /Now~285 /Goal~200lbs
Surgery:06~04~07 Total~191 lbs down!
Laura,
I can see how your friend would be jealous a little, maybe she is more disappointed then jealous? She sounds like she wants to be supportive of you in your journey but is having a hard time because she can't get her surgery approved. I think you just need to continue being her friend and be there for her and give her the support she needs. Encourage her as much as you can to continue to fight the insurance company and not to give up. She will see how well your doing and hopefully fight for the results she is wanting? If you feel you can't talk to her as much as you would like we are all here for you on the boards just post as much as you want to we will listen and respond. Take care and good luck in your journey.
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