OT:X Post,......I am not complaining!....long

I am not going to ask for anything but Prayers, swingin chickens, lizards or what ever else you can throw my way.
My mom's house burned last night, it was awful, my brother who has stage 4 colon cancer and his wife have been living off my mom for yrs and yrs.  Their 16 yr old cat woke them up meowing and then we couldn't find her.  Well today with the ceiling about to fall anytime there she was up in my mom's bed.  So she has been found of course we still lost 2 of my youngest girls kitties, they are just about a yr old and had never been out of the house.  The fireman found 1 dead but the other is still lost.  No one else was hurt or anything but it is so sad.  I just took my mom's money affairs over and found out a little over a month ago that the house insurance had been lapsed since Jan. of this yr of course I called the old agent and we talked and got that started but it was just the minimal I know that there isn't going to be enough to tear it down and haul it off.  I just found out today that my mom hasn't been able to shower or take care of herself.  I am going to need help figuring out what the heck I am going to.  I need prayers that I make the right decisions and that I don't make a mistake.  I have my mom safe at my house which I moved out of our house 8 yrs ago because I refused to take care of my brother and his dead beat wife any longer.  They have been living off my mom all these yrs not paying anything and just using her for a place to live and her money which isn't enough to shake a stick at.  I found out just a few months ago they took her to a car lot and got her to sign for them a 2006 Cobalt for my Sil to have to drive and they have left my mom sitting there without even a gallon of milk.  I am so sorry but I need to vent.  The money train has stopped!!!  As if there was or is any money.  I have a very small house and there isn't enough room here for me.  I have been beating my head against the wall trying to figure out what I am going to do.  I need as much in sight that I can get with this.  So please keep us all in your thoughts, and swing baby swing.
Marylin

 oh Marylin im so very sorry about your moms house ,,maybe it was a blessing in disguise, i know that sounds weird and awful but we have a hard time understanding the reason behind why things happen and happen to good people too.
I WILL pray for you that  you will be able to untangle this and understand what to do...I dont have any words of wisdom about it. and if you need to vent more we dont mind at all. there are some smart people on here that might have some knowledge that i dont have ...we all love and care about you....

Thanks so much Jan, and you are so right I said the same thing.  A blessing is all I know it has to be.  They can't take advantage of her anymore.  I know my brother is sick and he isn't here for long but how could you do those things to your mom and not think twice about it.  I am wondering if there is anything I can do about them having her sign for them a new car.  I bet they  haven't let the motor cool for more then 4 hours in any given day.  I worry I will buy the wrong house or that I won't get my moneys worth.  I worry that someone will take advantage of me and her because I am not the sharpest tool in the shed.  I will take all the prayers I can get and I sure hope that tomorrow I will see the path.  As of now I don't see anything but confussion. 
I will keep you posted and I have tons of things to tell. 
Thanks again Marylin

Marylin,

I'm so sorry to hear about the fire.... you can be sure I will be praying the Lord will give you the wisdom needed to deal with this situation, and will meet every need you and your mom have.

bec

That's  what I need Bec that's it,......can I have that so I can have some rest now.  I am so tired and I just can't seem to relax and just let it all go.  I am hoping that the prayers will give me the relief I need. Thanks Marylin 

I know that I live in KC, but if there is anything I can do to help PLEASE, PLEASE LET ME KNOW!! I will have you and your family in my heart and in my prayers!

Take care of yourself!

Oh! Cassie thanks so much and I will need your prayers more then anything until I get some where for us to live and be at peace.  I just pray that I will make the right decisions and that everything works out.  I am so tired I need sleep, I am eating fine and taking my meds,....I am just to relax.  Thanks again and I will keep you posted. 
Marylin

Dear Marilyn,
I am so sorry, sweety! You AND your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am confident, just from reading your post, that YOU WILL make the right decisions-and that whatever you do-WILL be what is BEST for your mother.

Are you looking for a place for yourself AND your mother to move in to, together?  If not, I was going to suggest assited living-since you said she can no longer care for herself.  Its NOT a nursing home, but rather apartments  OR duplex's where there is nursing staff right there on that floor etc-that WILL come in and help with bathing, meals can be delivered and they WILL come in and help with meds, bathing, grocery shopping and so on......They do have some that will be priced according to their income and since your mothers house just burned down, they can AND WILL put her on the emergency list-which will put her right up there for an immediate placement, as soon as they have an opening.  Just a thought there. My grandparents were in assisted living when it became evident that they couldnt care for themselves, each other OR their home-and it was awesome, because they got to keep their dignity, but we also had the security/peace of mind of knowing that they were safe and that there was staff helping with their needs-plus, they had a lot of outings and such they could sign up for and so on-

Im also sorry to hear about your brother-there seems to be people like that in every family and it is very frustrating, but, like you said-the money train HAS come to the end of the track and from here on out-you can and Im sure, will make sure that your mothers best interest are taken care of-so thank God that she has you!!!  IF you feel that someone may be taking advantage of you, Marilyn, PLEASE get in here and post OR ask someone for their advice and make sure people are on the up and up. We wont lie to you here-and we dont want anything from you-so we are always here to listen!!!

Take care and one last thing-does your mom need any clothes?  If so, what size does she wear and if I have any of that size here, I will be more than happy to box some of it up and send it to you to help with that.

Love and Prayers, Janet

Janet what a wonderful post,...I needed an open mind with lots of ideas of what to do.  I am worried that someone will try and take advantage of me while I am trying to do what is needed.  Thank you for that and that is my biggest worry. 
My mom said something about going into a nursing home and I told her I wouldn't do that.  I will ask for help from home health and I am going to find us a place to live that she will be safe to shower and stuff like that.  I am looking for a seat that turns that you attach to the side of a tub to help them get in and shower, I have a hand held shower just you have to step up in the tub, she isn't able to left her leg very high and isn't stable to do it without hanging on to something.  She won't ask for help from anyone, she isn't very social, so she kinda doesn't like to be around a bunch of people.   I am going to live with her. I had been living with her before, about 8 yr ago I moved out and told her that I wasn't going to take care of my brother anymore.  So I am going to try and take care of her.  I am hoping that I can.  She won't take any help.  She's always done it her self. 
My oldest girl is going to help us get a home that we can live in, she has been trying for at least a yr. 
Thanks so much for your insight and I have lots of things to do tomorrow.  First I need to see what the lot is worth clean and empty, need to see what it is going to cost to have it cleaned up,...try and get a hold of the insurance company.  The house is in my mom and my name,...they have been trying to get me to sign off on it to let my brother have it.  If that was the case there wouldn't of been any insurance on it all. It have been without any since Jan. when I found out in Aug. I got that the very next day.  I had paid what they asked for and I sent the first payment in 2 weeks early,..it wasn't dues till today.  More of my blessings,...I am so blessed.  I know things are bad but they are so much better already.  I know the good Lord is going to take care of us I know and believe this with all of my heart.  I am so humbled and and amazed by my little miracles,..Thanks so much for all of your prayers,..you really don't know how grateful I am for that.
I thank everyone that has prayed for my family. 
Marylin

I am so sorry to hear this. I am glad they got out,sorry  the kitten did not.  I do agree about looking into assisted living for your mom. It would be best for her and you. I don't know what to tell you about your brother. If there is anything I can do please let me know. You and your family will be in my prayers. God Bless.