Lynette/Nutti

Please forgive as  I'm sure that this post will be quite longwinded. 

I really feel for you and what you posted. 

I am well over 4 years out since my WLS and I have been on OH for years prior to even having my WLS.  I have dealt with the very same issues such as you have and it is a major reason that I have retreated into lurkdom.  I very rarely venture out. 

When I have on ocassion come out and responded to someone (trying to answer their questions/etc) I regularly find myself completely ignored or worse.  I don't try to contradict someone as to not ruffle feathers so I just let the experience and knowledge that I have, fall silent and just give up trying to help.  Maybe it is how I post, direct and to the point.  I don't sugarcoat things and I don't mince words.  I am who I am and I so try to help others. So I SO understand the emotion behind your post.  You just get the feeling of why in the H@#% bother as you just don't feel like you fit in.  Almost sometimes like you are an intrusion or something.

Maybe folks don't mean to act that way and maybe they do.  Noone can tell save for them.  Of course EVERYONE has issues going on in their lives.  Goodness gracious the past year for our family has just literally been you know what.  I just don't blog/post about it.  Very rarely will I bring my family issues to a board (ANY board even this one).... 

Even though I haven't really had the chance to reach out to you and to post to you I wanted you to know that I DO understand the feelings that motivated you to post.  If anything maybe it will make folks more aware of their actions whether intended or not. 

Hopefully it will also make them think before they respond as well.  ???  then again...   I dunno. 

Hang in there my dear....  

WOW!  There is another Lynette out there.  I am NetteMet and my name is Lynette.  I read your post and could not figure out what in the world I had posted that would have made you respond like that.  I am very sorry that the two of you got your feelings hurt on the board (if that's what I am reading into this)  I have had NOTHING but support, praise and WONDERFUL friendship from everyone that responds to me.  I, sometimes too, lurk a bit and not post, but mine is just too lazy to post.  I have gotten together with some of these ladies ( and hope to get to know some others next week at a party) and I have made some wonderful new friends.  We got close instantly and we stay in touch.  I look forward to our meetings.  Maybe you should try to get to know some of the people on here.  I don't think anyone on "our board" would intentionally hurt your feelings.  Don't give up on us  Try again.  No one can have too many friends.

Nutti....So sorry you feel so down about the board....I hope you reconsider checking in with us...I know I am as guilty as anyone on here .... At times I have so much going on around me I don't get to get on as much as Id like too and respond to peoples post and a lot of the time find myself not able to keep up with whats going on with who.....  My thougths and prayers are with you....Your more than welcome to email me anytime you like....I have you on my email list but as some of the others mentioned my emails have been coming back to me for a while now....So you will have to email it to me if you would like for me to get with you time to time.....
God Bless....Luv & Hugs...Tammy~ammy