WHATS HAPPENING THURSDAY
my mouth hurts from smiling. So today I'm going to clean my house and do some work online, go to the Y and figure out some more good healthy things to cook. For the people that are pretty fresh out, I know it can be overwhelming, I myself am only 8 weeks out BUT when you get to add more food in, OH MY its like heavens gate opened and you're welcomed back into real life. My Dr. is very strict on adding food in, like I just got to have beans this week, I was kinda getting depressed with the food I was having to eat, basically the same thing day in and day out, but not now. I'm on the chuck wagon and its going to new lands, like tofu land and chicken land, last night was the first chicken I have had in over 3 months! I LOVE MY RNY!!!! Bec, Thanks for the uplifting message last night, It was sweet and I for one appreciated it.
I hope EVERYONE has a wonderful day, after all it is the day the Lord has made, we should be glad and rejoice in it. RIGHT? Lou (~.~)
Dear Auntie Jan and OH Family:
I have spent the last several hours doing much of the same thing Jan did-wondering about what I did Or didnt do and what I could have done differently. When I got in here this morning and saw the hurt in Jans post-I got very upset. Prayed for a long time before starting my post! Yes, everyone else has already put in their 2 cents-which I am happy to see the support for Jan that SHE DESERVES! JAN......KNOW THIS-YOU HAVE NOT DONE ONE THING WRONG! YOUR THE BEST AND WE LOOOOOOVVVVVEEEE YOU!!!!!
I take it very personally when people attack our board and our members-and call us clicky and rude. Wow-that can really light a fire under my butt. Man, there is soooo much love here. When I first came to this sight-It took a bit for me to get to know people, but I put myself out there, on a regular basis-I met with them, I put forth the effort-and it paid off. I now have met some of the most fantastic people I have ever had the pleasure of calling friends. I sure will NEVER be sorry for that-OR bad that I get the opportunity to do that. I love these people! When the opportunity arises-no one here just says-you or you come on over-its EVERYONE is welcome! IF any of us had the opportunity-we would make sure everyone could get to the meetings, to the reunion, to the lunches or whatever. It just isnt possible guys-thats L I F E!~Unfortunately, we cant always do what we want-doesnt mean we dont care. I personally pray for everyone-whether your regular on the board or not. I too, forget to always name people-and I personally dont have the time to sit and post to every single post or situation, doesnt mean I dont pray about it-cuz I do-as well as others. I wish that everyone felt like I do-and like a lot of others do-and if you dont-I hope you find it somewhere else. Period.
Peggy and Sug said it. You WILL get back WHAT you give. Im sorry BUT...IF your NOT a regular poster, what do you expect us to know? HOW are we suppose to know whats going on with you? If your a lurker and post occasionally-WE DO acknowledge you and I see Jan post to everyone-IF they have posted to her before she does her nightly post. I have filled in for her on several occasions when she and Joe have gone away or she cant and know what? my head is spinning by day 3-and folks, Im not kidding. She is dedicated, she loves the board AND its people and whether she believes your beliefs or not-she WILL respond to you and acknowledge you. I know that there are a lot of loving, caring, supportive people on this board-but you cannot expect us to have esp and know what the heck is going on with you IF you dont reach out and let us know! Also-IF your NOT on every day reading it-HOW do you know that we arent calling you out IF its not in its very own post? Come on, people!
I came to the conclussion that for those that are a regular part of the posts AND people KNOW we care-we all know who we are. NO ONE IS PERFECT. Crap-IF we were-would this site even be here? NO! Should we be tearing people apart? NO.....There are a totally different group of women on here than there were even say, a yr ago!!! How many come and stay for a long period of time? Now-when I was without a puter for a couple of months-I still sent out snail mail cards-and I STILL went to the meetings and if I didnt-I sure as heck didnt get p.o'd when I got back in here and didnt have messages and so on-I guess I was and I am, just happy to have a place to come, to talk to people I love-and I know that IF I disappear-those who DO NOT know me, because they havent met me or havent been here for very long-they arent gonna think a thing about it-but those who I have taken the time to email, text, send cards and letters to-and go to the meetings-they are going to wonder and call and all of that. Its just plain and simple-IF you arent happy here, I personally feel sorry that we couldnt give you what you wanted OR needed-BUT.....I do pray that you can find what you want or need somewhere else. Im sorry, but I dont think its right to gripe that you dont get what you want here OR try to make us feel like crap. Its one thing to bring something up that bothers you-its another to make people feel they arent doing enough for you. I didnt personally see any of the people who are making this an issue-tearing down MY door or leaving me messages wondering what was going on with MY life when I was off the board for a couple of months. It is what it is-
I do NOT appreciate your comments, Lori-I have tattoos, I even showed them off at group. Lana, Renee, Sheila-they all have them too-even more than me-and NO ONE treats us different because of our tattoos-and I didnt even know you had tattoos ?????-and I do NOT appreciate you insinuating that we are liars-there are a lot of us who TRIED to email Nutti and it did come back to us. I think maybe you need to evaluate yourself before you insinuate other people are lying. There are too many of us who it happened to, so if you want to start something, maybe you should KNOW the facts OR the people first, before you falsely accuse US of things you know nothing about!
Guys.....we just need to hang in there. There are things that are going to come up-and some are misunderstandings-and they will either work out-or they wont-BUT.....I personally know that I have lots of people here who KNOW me, who LOVE ME...Support me. Care. We can only do our best-and I do not think that we will ever be able to be everything to everybody-its impossible. Im personally not as good hearted as Jan, I guess- Jan-Im sorry you were hurt in this whole thing-BUT.....Please remember that for one person who has an issue-there are 20 of us who love and adore you-ok? DO NOT take it personally and dont you DARE think, for one minute-that you are going to stop the Whats Happening OR what you do for the rest of us! I love you and from the support of the others, you KNOW your loved and are appreciated-LEAVE it at that and dont you spend another minute thinking you did anything wrong, ok? In the perfect world none of this would be happening-but we dont live in a perfect world. The great, wonderful thing is-that you give us a place to go that we know we can come in and talk-and IF we dont get what we want here-maybe we can find that someplace else, RIGHT? OR....did you sign some kind of contract saying that you would be personally responsible for each and every person that ever posts here? Holy crap woman! Cut yourself some slack and dont lose another ounce of rest over it! PLEASE! (((((((AUNTIE JAN)))))))))) HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS!
Well, Im done rambling......I personally am going to pray that the people that havent been happy here, will be able to find someplace they do get what they need and leave it at that. I personally think you are all awesome-AND even when I do not have the time to call you out each name by name-I pray for all of you, I think about you guys all the time and wish you nothing in your life but health, happiness and unbelievable blessings!
Love and prayers, Janet
Hope you're having a really good pain free day! Wanted to let you know that David had two interview this week. The one with the county doesn't pay enough. He had a great interview today with a really good company. The guy told him he was going to narrow it down to 2 people and would make that decision by tomorrow. He will be calling the 2 finalist into meet with him and his boss. So please keep praying!
Thanks,
Debbie D.
What can I say in reponse to Jan? You all have said what I wanted to say and more.
At 1st I felt like an outsider new to the board but Jan kept responding to my posts and it raised my hopes and spirit. This is truly the only place I feel comfortable talking about WLS and the effects it has had on my life. You understand and don't judge me when I have had a bad day and it seems like I just want to whine! I may not post everyday but I do read each post and sometimes it is just better to keep my mouth shut than to say something that will be taken wrong or not sure how to answer a posting.
I now have a note pad at the pc so I can jot down an answer to a specific person I want to repond to. Is that how you all do it?
I am feeling better and I am even wearing socks with Vicks vapor rub on the soles of my feet. Taking the cough medicine with codiene every 4 hours & the new antibiotic (which would have cost $400 but with my co-pay - $30) and something is helping.
Has anyone had problems with taking prednisone after an RNY? Started having some pain in my pouch after taking it. Pain is not bad its just enough to let me know its there. Just wondering if I need to email Natalie or Dr. Suttmoeller.
TammyAmmy - I feel the same way as I am at the opposite end of the state. I would love to come to a COF meeting.
Need to go rest a bit - so you all take care!
Love - Sandy/Shannon
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Sandy Ive been meaning to ask you if you attend a support group meeting up there in Kirksville? I know another lady from up there who has had wls.
I wish you could come to a COF meeting too! Why not make a little trip out of it and come on down for the Christmas one??? We would love to see you!
Okay, was just wondering about what kind of support you have up there.
GOD is my ROCK! SUGAR 
Im beat!!!! No energy and wiped out tired....I sure hope that I will not be feeling like this after surgery!!!! I wanted soooooo badddd to take a diet pill today to give me some git up and go.....but I didnt!
I know that Im not getting enough in with this liquid diet but doing what I can to get the slim fast down now as it is...yuck.
Anyway enough *****ing...seems there has been enough going around as it is!!!!
I would like to put my two cents in as well....I know that I too have felt ignored and not part of the board as well....BUT....Peggy hit the nail on the head....I had to suck it up and quit letting my feeling (that by the way sit out on my shoulders) get hurt or get up set and Start posting more... People are really busy and I know that I have a hard time remembering who is who and then there gone and you havent a clue if something is wrong or what.
I think what WE ALL need to do is to take a good look at ourselfs and ask our selfs "What can I do today to make someone elses day a little brighter?" Let not forget that we ALL human and make mistakes, have problems of our own and we are ALL im sure feeling the crunch of the economy, which puts more stress on us and everyone around us.
Lets also remember that this is the Season for giving!!! Chistmas is just a few weeks away and NOT the time for us to all be up in arms.
I'm sorry that if this post offended anyone...I didnt mean for it to....We all have asked for prayer and have sent prayers...So lets remember that the Lord would not want us all bickering and saying hurtful things about each other, not this month or any other for that matter.....
Ok said my peice...Now lets get on with it....
Jan ~~ You have been a wonderful host to this board....remember you are human and can not answer everyones posts....Your special to alot of people on this board....hugs to you!!
Janet ~~ OK you too have had alot of things going on too....Same to you, your not supperwoman and cant always be 5 different places at once...(we love you anyway though...lol)
Sugar ~~ You know girl I could sure use some of your energy....Please try to slow down and enjoy the holiday season too....your one awesome person...(just a lit bit please...lol)
Peggy ~~ I soo glad that you spoke your mind to you son...sometimes we as parents just need to do that...they may not like what we got to say...but.....oh well. Anyway sure hope this makes your mood better...
Bec ~~ I wish that I would also have some of your energy....please...
Your soo busy constantly on the run....I bet you drop in the bed at night...lol
Jeanine ~~ WHERE ARE YOU.... were still waiting.....lol
Susan and Andy ~~ I sure hope that your trip up is a good one and Im looking forward to seeing you again Susan and meeting you Andy...
OK got to get back to cleaning.....MoMs here in 3 days and Surgery in 4 and a Wake up....yeeeepppeeeee.....
Love and Hugs to you all....
Cor
Hi, Mama Jan & MO Peeps:
Sorry, I haven't been posting. Have been really busy and of course seem to be tired a lot. I do have really GOOD days though. I am thankful for that!
My dh and son actually moved my curio cabinet this afternoon and brought up the Christmas tree and the decorations. Will put the tree up tonight and probably start decorating tomorrow night. I really want dh to take me to the new Christmas wholesale shop in Grandview tomorrow. Not sure if he will. I may just have to call dear Peggy to meet me there! Peggy - are you busy tomorrow?
((((Mama Jan)))) - I want to share something with you. My morning routine consists of me getting up and turning on my computer. I then check my email then go right to the MO OH site to view your "What's Happening Post". Although I don't always post, I do read your posts and the others every day. I truly admire you for putting yourself out there for all of us. You have been my source of inspiration the first time I "met" you online about 2 years ago now. I feel like I have known you my entire life! Please don't let what one or two say get you down. We cannot control what others say or do, however, we can control how we react to them. I LOVE MAMA JAN and I appreciate everything you do for us!
Bec - It was great to chat with you this morning. I loved your post yesterday about your Walk. What a wonderful way to have God speak to you! I firmly believe He speaks too all his children if we will but take the time to listen. I have got to get back into the Word and start doing my daily devotionals again.
Sugar - I agree with you whole heartily, to have a friend you have to be a friend. How is everyone suppose to be able to know what's going on with everybody if no one posts? Although I don't respond to every post I do read them and pray for those to ask and sometimes even for those who don't ask. I wish you were here to help me decorate for Christmas. I know you have that flair I need!
Peggy - Seriously, are you busy tomorrow? I know dh really doesn't want to take me to the Sterling House Christmas store tomorrow. Think you could meet me there and we could lunch? Barb S. or anyone else who would like to come along are WELCOME to come! Would love to see any of you.
Cor - I'm so proud of you! You are doing great on your liquid diet! Your surgery is less than a week away! I remember meeting you at Peggy's house and you were downhearted because of all the insurance mess. Then within a day or two you were APPROVED and had a SURGERY DATE! GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME!!
Janet - AMEN to your post as well! I love you honey I know the pain you are in most of the time. Hope you feel better and are able to enjoy Christmas with your family.
Jeanine - Glad to see your smiling face back on the board! We missed you!
Bev - Hon, I'm sorry to hear about all the problems you've been having. I'm also proud of you for admitting them and dealing with them. I will be calling you soon! (((Bev)))
MO PEEPS - Please, please, let us all remember to love one another. The world has enough hate out there.
Love all of you!
Debbie D.
I finally got your message and I am so sorry but I am crazy busy and I don't have time tomorrow. I am truly sorry and I hope you can forgive me. I just don't have time. Thank you so much for inviting me, tho....I appreciate the offer. Have fun without me...
Love you, too.
Life isn't about about waiting for the storm to pass...
It's about learning to dance in the rain.
The pouch pain is gone for the time being - I think it was from all the new meds I am now taking. The steroid - Prednisone has made me very emotional and actually starving. Have not felt hungry since my surgery besides the brain hunger thing.
We have a good support group here that meets every 2 weeks. Since we have started doing lap bands at our hospital it seems to be more geared for them but the group is there if I need them.
Have to be well enough to go to my uncles visitation tomorrow night and the funeral is saturday. He had a massive stroke Tuesday in Boone Hospital at Columbia and passed away yesterday. Aunt Bev seems to be holding up well - she is the type of person who is always doing something for someone. They had no children but have a great support group from their church, friends and family. When my Aunt called me to tell me Uncle george died she was more concerned that I was taking care of myself and how Dad was going to handle George's passing.
I am so blessed to have such a wonderful family even when we hit the rough spots - they do come thru for you.
Started journeling/grateful diary again and am also trying the Reader's Digest article about saying hi to at least 3 people each day and have made a little sign about LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE and another sign that says smile before answering the phone - so I will have a positive attitude.
You all have a great night!
Hugs - Sandy
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