Have some questions and need some help

Hey All,
        I know you all probally get tired of hearing about my troubles, but I really need some help. So please bare with me.
        I feel like I am a failier.I can't even have weight lose surgery and do it right. I eat just like I did before surgery.Not as much but the same things.Sometimes I think that I think about food more now than I did before surgery.Everyone always says how they are never hungry or that they have to remind themselves to eat. That never happens for me. What is wrong with me?I can eat anything and it doesn't make me sick.And I hate that cuz I know it so I eat whatever I want. How can I change this?And I know when I am eating something that I shouldnt be eating it but I do anyway. Same old thing I use to do.
       I get so mad at myself when I get on the scale and it still says 250 something. It has been there since June.I know why but dont do anything to change it.Why???
       And I never get in enough water. I measure it out in the mornings and put it in the fridge then most of the time never go back and get it. Why when I know I need it?
        I did start an exercise program at home with the biggest loser cardio dvd. After a couple of days my lower back hurt so bad I couldn't get out of bed. And I got a membershipat the YMCA. Havent even used it and I got it two weeks ago.I know Dr.Hornbostel said if you have back trouble that you should do low impact excersice like swimming. But I am afraid that I will pay for the membership and never use it.I need help.
      I have my one year appointment with DR H on Feb.5th and I am afraid to go cuz I am afraid that they will all look at me as a failier. 
       And we have a support group here in town but the meetings are always on thursdays and I always babysit for my great niese and neghew that day. Cuz they have no-one else to watch them that day.So I cant even go to a meeting to get help.
        Please I will take all help and critasizum(sp) you all would like to give me. Some days I just dont even want to face the world I am so mad and upset at myself.
       Take Care and God Bless, Tammy V. 

 

  

Hello Tammy,

First off, your not a failure. There could very well be something not right with your pouch or stoma that is allowing you to eat what you want and how much you want.  I've had that same problem, I am able to eat more then I should and I can for the most part eat anything I want with exception to sweets.  I asked Dr. H about it and they refered me to Missouri Bariatrics to get additional help in losing weight.  Come to find out after MoBar run a bunch of test that my stoma is bigger then it should be hence I am able to eat more and I am hungry all the time.  Something like that could be wrong with you.  I would definetly encourage you to either go see Dr. H. or email Margie and explain to her what is going on with you, they are there to help you,  they wont sit there and critisize you. 

Second, it is really IMPORTANT to get in all your water, that helps in losing weight, despite what ya might think, it really does.  Another thing is, are you drinking any kind of protein shakes?  I use the protein shakes a couple times a day in place of a meal, that has helped me alot. 

Again, I would contact Dr. H and tell him whats up because there are a few different solutions to the problem.  MoBar has me on a couple different things for getting the rest of my weight off.

Hope this helps you some.  If ya have any questions about anything feel free to email me, [email protected]  Im more then glad to help.

Andy

Hey Andy,
       Thank-you for your reply.To begin with I must be a failure when I cant even spell it.LOL Anyway I do see DR.H on the 5th so I will talk to him about what you said. I know I need to do the water, but I have never been a big water drinker. But I guess I need to change that. The only protien suppliment that I do is the bullets from Walmart whenever I have them or can afford them.Thank-you again,Love Tammy V.

I think all of us feel that way sometimes. Look at how much weight you have already lost. 100 + pounds is not what I would call a failure. I am only two and a half months out and I too struggle with my old habits.Its as much mental as physical. A good support group is very important. If you cannot go a meeting come online as much as possible. I thought I was eating too much because I wasn't measuring but I really wasn't. It just seemed like it.  I think we are harder on ourselves than we should be. I remind myself daily why I had the surgery and that I have control over what I do. Its not always easy but only you have the power to choose what you will do.  We are here to help each other. You can do this and no I do not think you are a failure. Good luck at your appointment.

WOW, You took the words out of my mouth I think. I had surgery 2 mo's after you, (in april) I started out 374 and am currently 258, I have been in a stall for almost a month I think. I too feel I can eat anythiing I did before surgery, I have convinced myself I will dump if I eat sugar, though I now  know that not to be true, I "cheated" and ate about a 1/3 to half of a piece of marie callendars choc cheesecake, it looked so good! it was the first time (a couple of weeks ago) I have struggles ever since! I wish I had NEVER done it!!! now I keep trying to justify "just a taste" of sweets , pastries whatever, for 9 mos I wouldnt even think about it..once you go down that road it's hard to go back. I am getting back on track now. It doesn't have to be "painful" if you would start your day out with protein , I use the chocolate powder from walmart, i mix it with a bit of milk and fill it the rest of the way with coffee, it REALLY  helps keep my sweet tooth satisfied as well as fill me up. Second of all, the "water" issue, I know I will get blasted for suggesting this, but it doesn't make any difference if you drink any sugar free/calorie free liquid (with the exception of soda). I almost never drink water, I drink the sugar free lipton green tea from walmart, no calories no caffeine, though I drink reg. coffee in the morning for energy, I feel for me the good outweighs the bad,if I have more energy, I move around more and burn more calories....right?! it's my way of thinking anyhow. if you at least get your protein in you will lose weight once again, it fills you up so you won't feel hungry all the time. You can't lose over a 100 lb.s and be a failure, just don't give up and say "screw it" and eat whatever you want, then you really will stop losing weight, good luck, I think there are alot of us out there with the same issues who are afraid to say so, it seems so many people here don't have problems not eating they have problems eating enough! not fair if you ask me lol.  you can email me anytime for support, I am with you. I also can't go to meetings thet are all way to far away, at least an hour and a half.   all my best to you, Susan

Tammy;

First of all, great to see you on the board. Have missed you!!!  You are not a failure!!! You have lost 115 lbs in a short time. Andy has given you great idea's and advise. Could not have said it better. Maybe on the water, try some sf tang in it or some other flavor you like, switch it up so you can get it in. Have trouble with the water intake myself. You are not alone in your journey. Do talk to Dr. H, he is understanding and you will not be considered a failure and won't be scolded...LOL

Maybe try swimming at your YMCA? Can you try it before you buy it?

Please stay in touch, we are always here for you.