WHEN......
Dear Misty,
As I read your posts, I get more concerned for you each time! I KNOW this is a VERY HARD time right now-the adjustment period-and I have always said that to me, the surgery was the EASY part of the ride-the mental part IS the hardest part-mentally, your gonna work your butt off, and your going to have to make some really hard decisions AND make choices for yourself.
I feel bad that you didnt have all the information before hand that you have now-however, YOU CAN make the decisions now, that you will either change your life for the better, or, for the worse. What I mean by that-is that YOU HAVE THE CHOICE of making this surgery a success or a failure.
Can I ask you-what brought you to the point where you wanted the surgery in the first place? Most of us that come to that point are sick of the way our lives are-and how we have to live it-I would imagine that your choice to have the surgery was about the same as the rest of us, right? Diets have failed you, over and over again? You have a small child that you WANT to be around for, to watch grow up and be there for? (I thought I read that somewhere).
What worries me, is that you made the comment that you are already well past the place in the book where you SHOULD be, as far as eating. This is very serious that you go by those guildelines. You may not like it, but it IS there for a reason and your new pouch cannot handle you skipping forward on your own. Mourning the foods that you cannot have right now, IS normal. Head hunger IS normal-regretting the surgery when your first post op-IS normal...... BUT....You should AT LEAST, give it a chance to work for you, before you decide to blow it!!
I can tell you this-IF you had the surgery to lose the weight, but thought you were going to be able to continue to eat and drink like you were pre-op, thats not going to happen. Thats what got you here in the first place-and this surgery is NOT WITHOUT SACRIFICE. IT IS NOT A QUICK FIX.....IT IS FOREVER! THERE IS NO WAY TO LOSE ALL THE WEIGHT WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR LIFESTYLE-OR....You WOULD HAVE been able to do it on your own with dieting alone!!!!
Some surgeons dont want their patients to have ANY thing white-sugar, flour, bread, potatoes, pasta, etc etc. Mine didnt put those restrictions on their patients-however-you WILL dump on things-sometimes even if they are on the approved list-thats why this time is very important that you keep track and you pay attention and get to know your new tummy. Its like having a brand new baby-everything is different now, you have to get t know it again-so give it a chance and see what happens. Its NOT a death sentence that you dont get to eat sugar and pasta anymore-its a way of life-a healthier life. A life that WILL make you happy, when your WOW moments start to happen. When you can be healthier-when you can wear normal sized clothes again, no problems with seatbelts, bathroom stalls, hygiene, being there for your child and not dying too young because obesity causes a lot of people to die way before their time-but you already knew that.
Now-all that being said-I am a little over 2 yrs out. I can eat pasta-IF its dreamfields-and its not nasty tasting. Its full of protein and is better for you than regular-and even my family loves it-didnt even know it was good for ya, its that good. I eat salads a couple of times a week-I assume you were speaking of regular lettuce type salads? I have had pasta salad, potato salad and so on and so forth. I have eaten sugar, and I do not dump on it-IF its in moderation. The big difference now is: I REFUSE to LET FOOD RULE ME! I DIDNT LIKE THE OLD ME! I LOVE THE NEW ME AND THERE IS NOT A FOOD OUT THERE THAT TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS!!!! NOT ONE! I wouldnt trade my sz 12 jeans, my being able to ride the rides with my kids at an amusement park, giving up ALL my previous health problems, I have no limitations because of my weight....There is no pasta, bread, sugar or any of my favorite foods in the world worth what my life is now. Im not saying that to make you feel bad-when I first had the surgery and I dumped on some of my favorites-like chinese food and home-made chicken and dumplings-I was really bummed out...Really....BUT, I soon started having MAJOR WOWS and with each wow, and each day-I started to feel better and better and came to realize that food wasnt even important to me AT ALL!!! To this day, 9 times out of 10, I have to remind myself to eat or make myself. I would rather just do a protein shake a couple of times a day than to eat a meal.
Dr. H is on the of the BEST SURGEONS there is! HE KNOWS what he is doing! PLEASE get his folder out and follow the directions-IF you can get through this first couple of weeks-3 months maybe-you will have it made!! If you feel like you cant-then call and see if they have someone you can talk to-maybe a nutritionist or a therapist that can help you overcome the mourning issues and whatever is hurting you right now. We are all here for you, and I know that sometimes you dont want to hear what we have to say-but the great thing about this-is that we have been there, done that-so we are telling you our experience and trying to help you-what you do with all our advice, is totally your decision-but I sincerely hope and I pray that you love yourself enough to take care of yourself and dont try to do this your own way-because if its not within those guidelines set up for you-then you may not even get the results you want-there is NOT a person out there who can say that they did it all THEIR own way-and didnt pay with their health-in a MAJOR WAY..You HAVE to do the protein and the vitamins and if not-it will have very serious consequences and I hope you dont choose that road to go down!
Im sorry this is so long-I just want you to really evaluate this situation and do what you need to do to get healthy, and it sounds like maybe you need ot talk to someone that can work with you a little more than we can. Im sorry your having these issues-but please love yourself and your child enough to stay around and dont take the chance of blowing out your pouch and all that-NO MATTER what age you are-like I said earlier-you were brought to that point of surgery for a reason. We have members here who are as young as 19.....in fact, the ONLY thing I would change about my surgery-is I would have had it when I was 19 or 20 insted of 38-your gonna have a lot more years of enjoying the new Misty-if you give it an honest effort.
Its NOT too late to read up on it still. You will be able to get all the answers and knowledge you can-along with your notebook from Dr. Hs office. You have lost 15# in less than 2 weeks and it will NEVER come back! YAY..... How exciting is that? What a start!
I wish the best for you. I pray that you will have strength and peace of mind to go after your recovery with all you have - and give it your all! You CAN DO IT!!!! Please take care. Janet
As I read your posts, I get more concerned for you each time! I KNOW this is a VERY HARD time right now-the adjustment period-and I have always said that to me, the surgery was the EASY part of the ride-the mental part IS the hardest part-mentally, your gonna work your butt off, and your going to have to make some really hard decisions AND make choices for yourself.
I feel bad that you didnt have all the information before hand that you have now-however, YOU CAN make the decisions now, that you will either change your life for the better, or, for the worse. What I mean by that-is that YOU HAVE THE CHOICE of making this surgery a success or a failure.
Can I ask you-what brought you to the point where you wanted the surgery in the first place? Most of us that come to that point are sick of the way our lives are-and how we have to live it-I would imagine that your choice to have the surgery was about the same as the rest of us, right? Diets have failed you, over and over again? You have a small child that you WANT to be around for, to watch grow up and be there for? (I thought I read that somewhere).
What worries me, is that you made the comment that you are already well past the place in the book where you SHOULD be, as far as eating. This is very serious that you go by those guildelines. You may not like it, but it IS there for a reason and your new pouch cannot handle you skipping forward on your own. Mourning the foods that you cannot have right now, IS normal. Head hunger IS normal-regretting the surgery when your first post op-IS normal...... BUT....You should AT LEAST, give it a chance to work for you, before you decide to blow it!!
I can tell you this-IF you had the surgery to lose the weight, but thought you were going to be able to continue to eat and drink like you were pre-op, thats not going to happen. Thats what got you here in the first place-and this surgery is NOT WITHOUT SACRIFICE. IT IS NOT A QUICK FIX.....IT IS FOREVER! THERE IS NO WAY TO LOSE ALL THE WEIGHT WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR LIFESTYLE-OR....You WOULD HAVE been able to do it on your own with dieting alone!!!!
Some surgeons dont want their patients to have ANY thing white-sugar, flour, bread, potatoes, pasta, etc etc. Mine didnt put those restrictions on their patients-however-you WILL dump on things-sometimes even if they are on the approved list-thats why this time is very important that you keep track and you pay attention and get to know your new tummy. Its like having a brand new baby-everything is different now, you have to get t know it again-so give it a chance and see what happens. Its NOT a death sentence that you dont get to eat sugar and pasta anymore-its a way of life-a healthier life. A life that WILL make you happy, when your WOW moments start to happen. When you can be healthier-when you can wear normal sized clothes again, no problems with seatbelts, bathroom stalls, hygiene, being there for your child and not dying too young because obesity causes a lot of people to die way before their time-but you already knew that.
Now-all that being said-I am a little over 2 yrs out. I can eat pasta-IF its dreamfields-and its not nasty tasting. Its full of protein and is better for you than regular-and even my family loves it-didnt even know it was good for ya, its that good. I eat salads a couple of times a week-I assume you were speaking of regular lettuce type salads? I have had pasta salad, potato salad and so on and so forth. I have eaten sugar, and I do not dump on it-IF its in moderation. The big difference now is: I REFUSE to LET FOOD RULE ME! I DIDNT LIKE THE OLD ME! I LOVE THE NEW ME AND THERE IS NOT A FOOD OUT THERE THAT TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS!!!! NOT ONE! I wouldnt trade my sz 12 jeans, my being able to ride the rides with my kids at an amusement park, giving up ALL my previous health problems, I have no limitations because of my weight....There is no pasta, bread, sugar or any of my favorite foods in the world worth what my life is now. Im not saying that to make you feel bad-when I first had the surgery and I dumped on some of my favorites-like chinese food and home-made chicken and dumplings-I was really bummed out...Really....BUT, I soon started having MAJOR WOWS and with each wow, and each day-I started to feel better and better and came to realize that food wasnt even important to me AT ALL!!! To this day, 9 times out of 10, I have to remind myself to eat or make myself. I would rather just do a protein shake a couple of times a day than to eat a meal.
Dr. H is on the of the BEST SURGEONS there is! HE KNOWS what he is doing! PLEASE get his folder out and follow the directions-IF you can get through this first couple of weeks-3 months maybe-you will have it made!! If you feel like you cant-then call and see if they have someone you can talk to-maybe a nutritionist or a therapist that can help you overcome the mourning issues and whatever is hurting you right now. We are all here for you, and I know that sometimes you dont want to hear what we have to say-but the great thing about this-is that we have been there, done that-so we are telling you our experience and trying to help you-what you do with all our advice, is totally your decision-but I sincerely hope and I pray that you love yourself enough to take care of yourself and dont try to do this your own way-because if its not within those guidelines set up for you-then you may not even get the results you want-there is NOT a person out there who can say that they did it all THEIR own way-and didnt pay with their health-in a MAJOR WAY..You HAVE to do the protein and the vitamins and if not-it will have very serious consequences and I hope you dont choose that road to go down!
Im sorry this is so long-I just want you to really evaluate this situation and do what you need to do to get healthy, and it sounds like maybe you need ot talk to someone that can work with you a little more than we can. Im sorry your having these issues-but please love yourself and your child enough to stay around and dont take the chance of blowing out your pouch and all that-NO MATTER what age you are-like I said earlier-you were brought to that point of surgery for a reason. We have members here who are as young as 19.....in fact, the ONLY thing I would change about my surgery-is I would have had it when I was 19 or 20 insted of 38-your gonna have a lot more years of enjoying the new Misty-if you give it an honest effort.
Its NOT too late to read up on it still. You will be able to get all the answers and knowledge you can-along with your notebook from Dr. Hs office. You have lost 15# in less than 2 weeks and it will NEVER come back! YAY..... How exciting is that? What a start!
I wish the best for you. I pray that you will have strength and peace of mind to go after your recovery with all you have - and give it your all! You CAN DO IT!!!! Please take care. Janet
My doctor really wanted me to have the surgery.. I wanted it but no one prepared me for what happened or happens after surgery......I Want this surgery undone. Gonna try to find someone to undo it because I HATE IT........I don't have a problem with eating because I was eating healthy and I had lost 30 pounds on my own diet and kept it off. So my problem is not with eating it is with this f*****g surgery. I hate it ....
GET MY POINT> I HATE THIS SURGERY AND WANT IT UNDONE.
GET MY POINT> I HATE THIS SURGERY AND WANT IT UNDONE.
Misty i felt the exact same way right after my surgery and there are days i still hate it. But it is getting better.NO DR is going to touch you for a reversal at this time, Please get you some medical help ASAP. You need to be seeing a therapist. If you have to go to ER they will get you one.
HUGS DEB
HUGS DEB
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