am i wrong?

Thanks Lisa! You can sub in splenda for the diabetisweet (I prefer 1/2 and 1/2 sometimes) but it changes the texture. Of course you can also add in nuts if you like.

Oh and if you don't have sugar free chips you can use more bakers chocolate and up the splenda a little (if you think you need to - they are pretty sweet) I sometimes use the 72% cocoa chips made by Ghirardelli

Thanks so much for the recipes!!!!! YUM

On my birthday, I get SF cake, pie, etc. Now it's NOT baked for me fresh....LOL. But Johnny ALWAYS gets me a SF dessert.

It's your birthday. The birthday dessert should be what YOU can enjoy. I would be annoyed too. This is your first birthday post surgery....right?

So it has to be hard letting go of the old ways. So having it there, for you to smell and see isn't very nice. JMO.

But, if it's there, it's there. So take your yummy pie along and enjoy every bite of it!

Thanks, guys.

Yeah- I am 9 weeks out from surgery so it is all still new.   Really thought that the SF pie would be fine for everyone- so the cake, although well intentioned, I'm sure- ends up being unsupportive to me and my efforts.  

I am emotional today, too due to PMS, bday, missing my "old' bday meals- not that I even feel like eating that right now, but it weighs on the mind....

I need to train them to consider SF things for my bday now on....

Where do you buy the sugar free cakes and stuff??  Do most bakeries have them??

My local Giant has a small section of SF items that include some cookies, cakes, pies, and muffins. The selection isn't huge but at least it's there. I don't like to bake. So that's the only way I get SF desserts! LOL

It's difficult to say the least.  And no, I don't think you are wrong - however you also mentioned you are emotional for so many reasons and that plays a part in it.  I cried over food early out, too.

I'm not sure how to handle this specific situation.  My parents do the same thing (the bday dinner thing) and my mom has also had "real" desserts for family members for my bday dinner, too.

I don't think I had a special bday dinner my first post op birthday...I was about the same amount of time out as you and honestly don't remember what we had.

Hugs!  Enjoy your pie!  And maybe after the fact, when your emotions have settled, talk to your mom about things like this.  Other events (holidays, others bdays etc) unfortunately can't be centered around just our needs (although you can bring stuff you can have and share with others) but when it's an occassion SPECIFICALLY for you it should be just that - FOR you without worrying about what "others" would like.

Pam

Awwww, I know it SUCKS!!  When everyone else has a unrestricted diet,  It's an emotional rollercoaster for you!    I don't think your overreacting because I know what your going through but to someone who hasn't been through this, may think so.    Here is what I think -  You made your request up front of how you would like the dinner to be prepared.   If you asked for pasta & pie, then there should be pasta and pie...    Unfortunatly, people who have not had thier guts rearranged, lol, don't understand that having a chocolate cake with icing sitting in front of our face is ACTUALLY TORTURE!!!!   Soooo, basically what I am saying is....   I don't think your family intentionally meant any harm, they just DON'T understand..........

Ask her how she would feel if you were to tell her to celebrate your birthday without you.  Remind her that Chocolate Cake is a ghost of the past and if you eat it now you could wind up not having another birthday.  If that doesn't put things in prospective for her, nothing will.

Mothers - gotta love 'em but boy can they push our buttons! I'm sure she was just trying to please everyone - mother's always do - but I also understand your feelings and my honest feelings are if she didn't want to make everyone eat something sugar free then she should have made a cake that is NOT YOUR favorite - that wasn't right. There are dozens of other cakes she could have made that probably wouldn't have bothered you one bit.

My mother lives with me and at times she still doesn't get it - she always asks how my food is going down (probably because she does most of the cooking) and she is constantly watching me to see how much I eat.

They love us, God knows - and we love them - but sometimes they can be tough to take!

In spite of the cake issue I do hope you have an enjoyable birthday - enjoy your sf treat and your meatballs - they sound delicious - and just think of how SICK you would get if you even touch that chocolate cake - dumping is not fun.

Thank you!    That is true- haven't eaten anything to make me dump yet, and don't want to either!!

:)