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coming off reading Keri's post about letting go.. and support groups..

I have come here to try to stay out of the kitchen.  My step mom just called my sister and I to see if we agreed with her decision to take my father off of the feeding tube.  It has just been making him sick.  His stomach is distended and he vomitted last night from it.  She (and we both agree) doesn't think it's fair to keep doing this to him.  Plus last night he told her "no more".  He doesn't want it anymore.  It is too much for him. 

I'm not sure how long he can survive on the little bit of fluids she is giving him by mouth.  I told my boss that I could not work the rest of the day or tomorrow.  Today, I think I am just going to stay home and cry for awhile.  Tomorrow, I will go see him.

Please keep us in your prayers and if I'm not online much, you'll know why.

Love you all

Lisa, I am so sorry to hear this.  I will keep your dad and your family in my prayers. 

You are wise to come here instead of the kitchen.  Keep taking care of yourself.

Hugs,
Lesley

Lisa,

I have walked in your shoes. I feel for you. This is hard. Nothing I can do or say will take the fear and pain away. but I still want you to know that I am thinking of you and your family. And mostly, praying your dad gets to a place of peace and comfort soon.

Jo

Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.  Please know you're in my heart and prayers.  Be with your dad and your family---we're always here when you need us.

Julia

Im sorry Lisa...this is such a difficult time for you and your family.  Will keep you in my prayers.

hg

Lisa - I know it is hard but if it is his wishes. *hugs* Saying extra prayers and sending positive thoughts out to your family!

I am here if you need anything!

I am very sorry Lisa. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Lisa - I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and your family.
Lisa

Praying for you and thinking of you Lisa.

Lisa, I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.   If it is any consolation to you whatsoever my husband and I made the same decision last year for my MIL and I was amazed at how much more peaceful and less painful it was for her.   It was all we could hope for.  I wish you and your family peace at this time.