Kinda OT - where I stand
Ok...so I touched yesterday on the fact that we were having problems with my in laws. The saga continues...and I got a text from Brian at about 10pm to "call me at home as soon as possible" Mind you, I had tried talking to him about the whole situation yesterday in the afternoon, but in normal fashion for him, he "didn't want to talk about it". Brian needs time to process things. All he told me was he had absolutely no plans to talk to them this week, which threw a wrinkle in for this coming Saturday. Talked to him....seems he ended up talking to his father and his father has requested I call him at work today. Part of me doesn't mind doing so as his father is generally a rational person. Part of me is still so angry at the situation I have no desire to do anything about it (I guess Brian has rubbed off on me, LOL)
In the meantime, my grandfather in NJ (my mom's father) is not doing well. The doctors refuse to diagnose him with Alzheimers, but I swear that's what it is. The other day according to my mother, during a family gathering, my grandmother handed him a dish in the kitchen and said "put this in the dishwasher" His response? Where is the dishwasher? She pointed in the general direction and he looked around and said "I don't know where the dishwasher is" She had to open it and tell him "This is where I am going to do the dishes" It's sad, and they don't seem to be able to get the help he needs. They were also in a car accident the other week and their car is totaled. My aunt is taking them car shopping. My grandmother is hell bent on getting a small SUV. She's 78 years old and I just think this is disaster waiting to happen and am scared outta my mind for them.
My grandmother in NC (my dad's mother) apparantly had a stroke last week. Unfortunately...things got fouled up in the ER they went to. My aunt (who lives with her but has health problems of her own) brought my grandmother to the ER for "confusion and loss of balance" They did a CT scan and it was "negative" but strokes are tricky. The only ones you can "see" on the scan is if they are bleeding. The other type of stroke is a clot type of stroke which is only diagnosed by symptoms and lack of bleeding on CT scan. They kept her overnight, told my aunt it was a bladder infection (which, to their credit, can mimic those same symptoms in the elderly). Well, on the way home my aunt took her to my grandmothers primary doctor. He noticed that her speech was slurred and her face was drooping. For how long? Since before she got to the ER. UTI's do NOT cause those types of symptoms. There would have been a clot busting drug the ER could have given her - but it needs to be given within 3 hours of onset of symptoms, so obviously that was now out. The kicker is she is already on blood thinners due to a mechanical valve. So really...if she is having small "clot strokes" now...the reality is it is only a matter of time before she has one that is really big. Again, scary. And we're over 8 hours away (so are my parents) so getting there if something does happen....
In the meantime, I am having 30+ people at my house on Saturday that I am trying to prepare for. Granted, I'm having some of it catered but just the sheer factor of having the house cleaned, the prep work for the things I am making, the lists of food, etc. on top of everything else is so overwhelming right now. And I just got word that two people who said they aren't coming ARE coming. Not generally a big deal but enough right now to make my skin crawl.
All of that being said....I am finding it very difficult to be upbeat and positive these days. Due to that...I'm not gonna post as much. It's not fair to those with upcoming surgeries with questions or people having issues not get full hearted responses from me. And there are LOTS of people here who can provide support in a much clearer sense.
I'll probably pop in from time to time and do "mindless" things like roll call and what not. And I'll most definately be on FB because it's a distraction for me.
Keep my family in your prayers. I AM trying to take care of myself during all this. I can't say I've been perfect, but I'm trying. With the exception of shutting down during and directly after the blow out with his family, Brian is as always a HUGE support for me right now and is doing everything in his power to keep me OK.
Pam
In the meantime, my grandfather in NJ (my mom's father) is not doing well. The doctors refuse to diagnose him with Alzheimers, but I swear that's what it is. The other day according to my mother, during a family gathering, my grandmother handed him a dish in the kitchen and said "put this in the dishwasher" His response? Where is the dishwasher? She pointed in the general direction and he looked around and said "I don't know where the dishwasher is" She had to open it and tell him "This is where I am going to do the dishes" It's sad, and they don't seem to be able to get the help he needs. They were also in a car accident the other week and their car is totaled. My aunt is taking them car shopping. My grandmother is hell bent on getting a small SUV. She's 78 years old and I just think this is disaster waiting to happen and am scared outta my mind for them.
My grandmother in NC (my dad's mother) apparantly had a stroke last week. Unfortunately...things got fouled up in the ER they went to. My aunt (who lives with her but has health problems of her own) brought my grandmother to the ER for "confusion and loss of balance" They did a CT scan and it was "negative" but strokes are tricky. The only ones you can "see" on the scan is if they are bleeding. The other type of stroke is a clot type of stroke which is only diagnosed by symptoms and lack of bleeding on CT scan. They kept her overnight, told my aunt it was a bladder infection (which, to their credit, can mimic those same symptoms in the elderly). Well, on the way home my aunt took her to my grandmothers primary doctor. He noticed that her speech was slurred and her face was drooping. For how long? Since before she got to the ER. UTI's do NOT cause those types of symptoms. There would have been a clot busting drug the ER could have given her - but it needs to be given within 3 hours of onset of symptoms, so obviously that was now out. The kicker is she is already on blood thinners due to a mechanical valve. So really...if she is having small "clot strokes" now...the reality is it is only a matter of time before she has one that is really big. Again, scary. And we're over 8 hours away (so are my parents) so getting there if something does happen....
In the meantime, I am having 30+ people at my house on Saturday that I am trying to prepare for. Granted, I'm having some of it catered but just the sheer factor of having the house cleaned, the prep work for the things I am making, the lists of food, etc. on top of everything else is so overwhelming right now. And I just got word that two people who said they aren't coming ARE coming. Not generally a big deal but enough right now to make my skin crawl.
All of that being said....I am finding it very difficult to be upbeat and positive these days. Due to that...I'm not gonna post as much. It's not fair to those with upcoming surgeries with questions or people having issues not get full hearted responses from me. And there are LOTS of people here who can provide support in a much clearer sense.
I'll probably pop in from time to time and do "mindless" things like roll call and what not. And I'll most definately be on FB because it's a distraction for me.
Keep my family in your prayers. I AM trying to take care of myself during all this. I can't say I've been perfect, but I'm trying. With the exception of shutting down during and directly after the blow out with his family, Brian is as always a HUGE support for me right now and is doing everything in his power to keep me OK.
Pam
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
family issues are always tough to deal with. Hang in there Pammy.. you know how to reach me if you need/want to talk or just to get away.... OR, if you need help at the house, let me know. I'll be more than happy to come there and help you clean or cook(yikes) or whatever.. seriously.
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LOL YOu made me laugh with that one....thanks! I promise I'll let you know. We can cook and Sierra and Brian can play video games, right up their alley :) I think once I get my mind in order I'll be ok, though. It's just getting through the mental part of it all. And coming to terms with the fact that as far as my grandparents are concerned, I literally cannot do much about anything, I certainly can't change what has already happened...and that's the hardest part. I like to "fix" things and I can't fix these things.
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses.
Apples for apples, there is still communication available to all the parties concerned. My communications lines are closed on my end. Hope that helps you put a different perspective on things and that you can work things out. Hang in there Pam. You have support from everyone here and of course Brian. Hope to see you soon.
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