OK my turn

First and foremost.. I ditto many of the others.  Pregnancy makes us CRAZY.  Talk to Chris,  tell him about what you would like and ask him if there is anything YOU can do to help him?  maybe a work chart or something silly like that.. He may have suggestions about what he would like to hear.

As far as work goes.  ACK.. hate those people.  If you are not in a position to get rid of them,  just keep telling management.  Don't do their work for them and document document document.

many hugs and love.

Thanks all. You are all so right and bring so much perspective to everything.

I know that I "need work" too. love the idea of mutual lists. I do ask him to leave them for me but he doesn't - guess he doesn't want anything done! lol I know women are better at the just seeing it and doing it then men are (they can step over the same sock 100 times instead of picking it up right)

I know he is nervous about the baby too, and about the delivery - he doesn't handle seeing me in pain well at all because he can't do anything to fix it.

Thanks again all - love you all!


Liz

Deep breaths honey - it's all going to be okay. Men are nothing but big babies anyway (sorry guys but its true).

My hubby told me the other day that we're a 'team' now - just him and me. OK, that works - of course you know what happens on teams - somebody has to be team leader and somebody is always looking for direction - I would be Team Leader - he is the one who needs constant direction - and if I get a snarky remark or a 'look' when I ask him to do something I remind him that we are a TEAM now!! Trust me this came back to bite him in the arse more than once this weekend - LOL!!

So hey, tell Chris you're a 'TEAM' and you need him to start pulling his weight around the house now that you're not able to - just sit down and talk to him - don't let the frustration get the best of you - emotions are high right now - you're going to be fine but gently let him know that he needs to be more pro-active in helping now that you're a tad inconvenienced with that belly!

Take care - feel better - and remember - GO TEAM!

Ha! Thanks Kathy. Like you were just becoming a "team" you've been married how long!? lol

I will sit the boy down this weekend and have a heart to heart.

You all know it kills me to ask for help even when I really need it. I am stubborn like that.

Trust me you'll get over that stubborness real fast once that baby is here - you're going to need all the help you can get!

Our problem (women) is that we think the men should (a) know what we're thinking; (b) do the things we do without being asked and (c) learn to recognize our moods - been married 20+ years and trust me, ain't gonna happen! But Chris will come around and once he sees how much time that baby requires he will be more than happy to pitch in.

When mom was with us she did 99% of the cooking and she helped with the light dusting, etc., so Len never really had to pitch in to help. His 'big' job each week was to wheel the trash can to the curb - heck, our neighbor even brings it back to the garage so he doesn't have to do that - now he realizes that with me working full-time, walking the dog at night (he gets morning duty), cooking, cleaning up, keeping the house clean, etc. is a big job so he actually is pitching in a lot more now. I guess that's what he means by us being a 'team' now. And believe me, if he balks when I ask him to help with something or do something I remind him we're a team - poor man will never live that one down.

I didn't read everyone else's response because of time constraints, so if I repeat anything.....sorry.

I got the same way with Johnny. Couldn't he *see* that I needed more assistance than normal? And as stubborn as I am, I WOULD not ask for help. I felt it was common sense for him to know I needed this or that.

However, men have NO common sense when it comes to those things. They really don't. I am sure that he doesn't realize. And so, make a honey do list, or verbalize things. If you kindly ask for the help, you will get it. Waiting till you are pissed and yelling for help, will get you no where. TRUST ME!

The work thing......all I have to say is Sorry!

Hugs!

Thanks Jodi! I realized the no common sense thing (again) this weekend when he didn't notice the trash was full on the morning of cooking class even though the can was full and there were 3 boxes on top of it that he had to move to throw something away.

I will make more lists and let him do the things, I WON'T do them, he is capable.

Liz, I`m a lot older them most here and probably married longer then most are old and can tell you it`s just our brains operate different. I can literally walk past a laundry basket needing a trip down to the washing machine and not even see it yet see an M&M sized bird dirt on the roof of my truck. Just like your own DH I would walk through fire for my wife but she needs to leave me a sticky note to remind me.
Sticky notes are wonderful things probably invented by a women so she can stick them on her husband`s forehead.

LOL well thank you for confirming our suspicions! I use a dry erase board on the front of the fridge. I even strategically place it so if he doesn't see it and opens the door it flies off.

Thanks!

Liz

I cant give you any more advice than you have gotten. Just wanna give you a hug. It will be ok