Confessions of the Post op *****
Oh Hunnie, You're not the only DIB around! lol Like I mentioned before, I'm going through this. Here at school we've nicknamed her "No-filter Holly." I just say things. Speak my mind, stand my ground, or however you wish to call it, I literally just say it. I see the positive in it and I do embrace that it is a part of me but it's still so foreign. This whole head side to WLS can be really trying at times but you're doing the right thing in recognizing you're doing this. I don't know if it'll ever change, or if I would want it to, to be honest but you are still in control and you can mold the behaviors in time. Everyday is a new day and we can make it into what we want it to be =)
<3 Holly
<3 Holly
I am fwd you my work in progress three year post.
I am just now starting to get busy at work, go figure. But the long and the short of it is this; we change. Yes, we aren't a door mat. But I agree, we tend to be viewed as *****es AND we view ourselves as *****y. Is there a fine line between standing up for yourself and being *****y? Absolutely.
Are you still that warm, up beat, compassionate person. Damn straight you are. I recognized those qualities in you IMMEDIATELY and it's one of the reasons we are friends. I don't assosciate with people who are ONLY *****es. I accept that side of people because I believe every human being is capable and will have moments like that.
You're alright, girl. You'll find your happy place. Your happy medium. We both will. Three years - I'm still searching for it lol. But it's there. I know it.
~P
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
Maura,
Give yourself a break!! You have lots going on right now, so take a breath and pause.....I'll wait....
Ok, you are one of the most friendly, happy, and caring people I know! From the first time we met, I knew we would be friends. I love your confidence and upbeat personality. I want some of that! I have always been shy and timid and not very self confident. I am just starting to find my confidence, some days are good, some are not! I notice when I am around you I am more free to speak my mind(not in a negative way) and be more FUN! Mark loves you and I am sure if you explain to him what you are dealing with that he will be there to support you through it!!
Of course we are here for you as well! Always remember that!!!
((HUGS))
Beth
Give yourself a break!! You have lots going on right now, so take a breath and pause.....I'll wait....
Ok, you are one of the most friendly, happy, and caring people I know! From the first time we met, I knew we would be friends. I love your confidence and upbeat personality. I want some of that! I have always been shy and timid and not very self confident. I am just starting to find my confidence, some days are good, some are not! I notice when I am around you I am more free to speak my mind(not in a negative way) and be more FUN! Mark loves you and I am sure if you explain to him what you are dealing with that he will be there to support you through it!!
Of course we are here for you as well! Always remember that!!!
((HUGS))
Beth
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Hi Maura,
so that is what is wrong with me. I have the same disorder as you. Part of it is WLS but I thnk part of it comes with age I started to get like that at 40. I say what I want, when I want and where I want to whom I want wherever I am as long as it is the truth, you will know how I feel about you. I am not a doormat nor was I ever or will ever be. I really dont care if people dont like what I have to say I will say it anyway some peole like me for my honesty & some dont, I dont really care I am who I am accept me for it or dont bother me. Cause the people in my life that matter to me love me & except me anyway for the person I am . and for the ones that cant accept me dont matter to me anyway.
As far as my wonderful husband he is so laid back and so patient & kind loves me unconditionally and gives me whatever I want. I never had it so good, yes I do get angry at him sometimes for stupid stuff and I feel bad if I yell at him cause he would never do that to me. but he knows I love him and I would never hurt him or betray his trust.
I just asked him last night. What made you pick me out of all the women you dated? he said "cause you were and still are HONEST, KIND, BEAUTIFUL and a wonderful person, I knew you would be good to me love me and be faithful to me. these r the things most important to me" and I said I know but sometimes I AM A ***** & he sad " I know but I love u anyway & I accept your ***** baggage and u r u.That is why I love you"
They say you always hurt the ones u love but I try not to. I tell him every day i love him and he is very secure in our relationship. People have said to him why did you let your wife get PS arent you afarid she will get attention and leave u for a younger man and Norm said "No I know my wife loves me & she will never stray, she does this cause it makes her happy & I want her to be happy cause that makes me happy"
just talk to Mark and try to explain to him the best u can.
get that book Men r from Mars & women r from Venus it will help u understand the male beast.
it will all work out
HUGS SUSAN
so that is what is wrong with me. I have the same disorder as you. Part of it is WLS but I thnk part of it comes with age I started to get like that at 40. I say what I want, when I want and where I want to whom I want wherever I am as long as it is the truth, you will know how I feel about you. I am not a doormat nor was I ever or will ever be. I really dont care if people dont like what I have to say I will say it anyway some peole like me for my honesty & some dont, I dont really care I am who I am accept me for it or dont bother me. Cause the people in my life that matter to me love me & except me anyway for the person I am . and for the ones that cant accept me dont matter to me anyway.
As far as my wonderful husband he is so laid back and so patient & kind loves me unconditionally and gives me whatever I want. I never had it so good, yes I do get angry at him sometimes for stupid stuff and I feel bad if I yell at him cause he would never do that to me. but he knows I love him and I would never hurt him or betray his trust.
I just asked him last night. What made you pick me out of all the women you dated? he said "cause you were and still are HONEST, KIND, BEAUTIFUL and a wonderful person, I knew you would be good to me love me and be faithful to me. these r the things most important to me" and I said I know but sometimes I AM A ***** & he sad " I know but I love u anyway & I accept your ***** baggage and u r u.That is why I love you"
They say you always hurt the ones u love but I try not to. I tell him every day i love him and he is very secure in our relationship. People have said to him why did you let your wife get PS arent you afarid she will get attention and leave u for a younger man and Norm said "No I know my wife loves me & she will never stray, she does this cause it makes her happy & I want her to be happy cause that makes me happy"
just talk to Mark and try to explain to him the best u can.
get that book Men r from Mars & women r from Venus it will help u understand the male beast.
it will all work out
HUGS SUSAN
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