Source of Frustration...eating out

Eating out is a challenge. You old brain is saying WOW you can't eat like you used to.  I actually morned the loss of eating all that food.  I got over it pretty quick once I learned, just a few bite of something satisfied my need for it.  I learned that I didn't have to eat it all.  This goes back to we paid for the food and we should eat it all!  That is SO WRONG.  It is good to toss it out, or take it home and make more than one meal out of it.  A cup of soup used to be my standard thing I oredered  when I went out to eat. 

You will NEVER be able to eat all the food they bring you when you are eating out.  That is good, and that is how you are going to lose the weight.  Remember calories in calories out equal a nice weight loss.

Hang in there and Hugs,

Isn't it wonderful to know that we will never be able to gobble down the amount of food a restaurant serves as a meal ever again???  When I read your post,  It was music to my ears all over again.....sweet music!! 

I never tire of watching the sheer amount of food people can eat.  I'm in love with my sleeve....

Like you, in the beginning I mourned the loss of volume eating.  I use to say that my tummy is full, but my mouth still wants a party (lots more food). 

It's funny how our small portions seem normal now.  My eyes have adjusted, and so has my mouth.  They're all on board and in sync with my tummy now.

Great job on losing and maintaining your weight loss over the past 3 years Suzanne!

Hi,

Yes, it is amazing how it all comes together and these small things are things that we are greatful to have them.  I am always saying to someone when they suggest some kind of food or meal "oh that is way too much food for me."  Most of all my friends are used to me saying this now.  I noticed when I first started eating out with friends, I always felt like everyone was watching just how little I ate.  I sometimes felt like I was on display.  Now it doesn't bother me at all.

So yes, our heads played as I call it "head games".  I had to learn how to deal with these head games. I used to ask myself do I "need" this food or do I just "want" this food--when I was thinking like that 99% of the time it was a want thing.  Those are the head games that are saying to me your are starving me with such small amount of food eat--and in thruth I was full, but the old brain wanted me to keep eating.  So you learn to have some talks with yourself along the way.

It takes a lot of work on our part to become successful.  Congratulations to you for your choice of changing your life.  You will never regret it.

Hugs.

Fay,

I totally know how you feel. I went to Ruby Tuesday's with some co-workers and I got the "PETITE" Salmon with broccoli and guess what I couldn't even put a dent in that salmon. The waitress kept asking if everything okay. I was like "yea I ate before coming" I get so tired of using that excuse but a lot of people don't know I had weight loss surgery but that way I'm eating, somebody is going to catch on real soon...lol. So I feel your frustration girl!

Sheka

 Sheka

I officially hate waitresses and I also ate before going out 

You know what else I hate besides what Fay hates?    I hate when the wait staff come over all concerned and ask if there was something wrong with the food, since it doesn't look like I've eaten anything at all.  I usually tell them I had WLS and have a 3 ounce tummy that can't hold much.  Also, I order from the senior or the kids menu.  I have a bariatric card that my surgeon signed asking to be allowed these menu items because of surgery.  Even though no restaurant has given me a hard time about ordering.  In fact, I stopped whipping the card out because they never give me a hard time.  But, I have it just in case.  I laminated mine.

I can sip coffee slowly about 5-10 minutes after I eat, so I order coffee while everyone is still inhaling their mountains of trough food...

bariatric card:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/magazine/RestaurantCard.html

 I dont get why they care if a person eats from the kids menu.  The meals are not that much cheaper. Plus they may get a BIGGER tip...if they act right.

I understand!  Sometimes I just want one more bite!  But then I kick myself and say - It's not about the food.  It is about the fuel.  (That doesn't always work).  I give away my food.  My son is always taking my left overs home - my husband eating them for lunch or dinner.

I have always had "enough issues".  Can't get enough - Don't have enough - I am not enough.  So when the enough issues are bugging me then the food I can't eat can start to bug me. 

Sometimes it bugs me when waiters/waitresses as me if the food is alright.  I want to say yeah it is great I just eat like a bird but at 243 pounds that is laughable.  BIg/late lunch is always my excuse.  I also still order a drink (usually hot tea) and never touch it.  For me - it is always my own baggage that I carry around.  One day I am just gonna put that **** down and forget where I put it!!!!

As for the angry birds - kick their little asses!!!  I love that game!!!

 Damn we are really twins...I too have enough issues

 Sorry to hear abt your frustrations with this.. i think thats why i have not gone out once since the surgery .. there hv been many occasions to do it (bdays n such) but thankfully my fam was supportive abt it and ofcourse, i made sure they were well fed and treated at home. this way even i can hv the foods that i am comfortable having too being in my territory.  also we saved a lot of money by not eating out the past months! hehe

i mean there are many more opportunities to do it (more bdays, occasions) coming down the road, and i guess i will just need to prepare myself before if we decide to go out. maybe i will stick to soup or whatever. i'll just try to enjoy the company, the actual socializing & setting more when i do venture out.. and then take leftovers home. it will def be an adjustment tho! 

hope u feel better abt this as time passes.. and your next outing's more enjoyable for you girl !!