Beware Vent:Seeing family for first time since VSG..

I am making the very long and familiar drive to SoCal tonight. This will be my first visit since my VSG, the only person who has seen me is my sister who has been staying her and she about hit the floor when I picked her up from the airport. I am so excited to see those who have been supportive and who are super excited about my progress but there are a few I am dreading seeing. I wish I could avoid seeing my mom and youngest sister, I know they will have rude **** to say and will be sure to say it in front of everyone else. Ive talked to my Aunt about it (she is my best friend and the person who raised me) and she's like just say "Im a healthier and the results speak for themselves" but I just know with them it wont end there. It will be comments about how much I am eating, long term health issues they are sure ill have, how long till I regain and so on. They were so thrilled when I gained the weight and kept pointing out that it was only a matter of time as I was the only thin one out of my family (mom and sisters) who was thin. It makes me so mad I wanna be an evil ***** and tell them what I think of them. I want to tell my mom she lost the right to have an opinion when she decided to pick a ****** up husband over her kids and that she has been more than 200 pounds over weight all of my life and I never get all up in her **** about it. I want to tell my sister when she says "why don't you just diet" "really ***** if its so easy why have you been over 250 pounds… like since ******g middle school." When she begins to announce to everyone about her latest diet I want to say "really, really according to Facebook you've been to Olive Garden, Dennys and McDonalds … and that was just today *****!" but I bite my tongue and let them have their lil show. I am driving to my Aunts in LaVerne my mom lives 30 minutes away and has a fit I wont drive to see her. Im driving 6.5 hours, if she wants to see me she knows where the **** I am.. I always give in and drive out there. I wont be doing that this time. I have to stop torturing myself, this is my year after all, right? Wish me luck… hopefully it doesn't take massive amounts of alcohol to get through this weekend….

good luck to you and Godspeed.  wow.  wish i could come give you a hug.  chin up, feel proud of what you've accomplished and how wonderful you both LOOK AND FEEL, and try hard to think positive thoughts while refusing to let them bring you down.  it ain't easy, but i can be done.  this is your moment to shine... do it brightly and with class!

Be Proud Girl! Best of luck to you with your family. You have done an awesome job working your sleeve.

ROCK IT!!!

No need to torture yourself at all. I don't care who's family, and who are friends.. it's what they say/do/care that matters.. do what you are obligated to do, but I would speak your mind. What's the worst that can happen?? They get so pissed off that they don't stay in contact with you? Would that really be a bad thing?? Good luck girl.. if you were close I'd give you a xanax.. it helps better than booze when I have to deal with mine..

I'm sure this trip is bringing out a lot of anxiety and old **** for you but you also know you have a ton of family and friends so excited to see you and happy for your success and those will far outweigh the naysayers you will encounter.  This is your year for sure and you have a lot to be proud of and be happy for. I think it's good you're not going to torture yourself and like you said, they know where you are if they want to see you and your best bet will be to do what you can to rise above it.  You're right about your mom and even though it still hurts, no opinion she or your sister have should make any difference to you and you should show them that if you can. It will be hard but hopefully your encounters with them will be brief and you'll have a great time.

And, you know, if you end up having to be an evil *****well they asked for it! Ha ha ha!

I'm sorry that part of your family is so unsupportive.  If they give you too much **** either leave or ask them to leave.  Don't put up with it!  You don't have to be around people who put you down if you don't want to - even when they're family!  Don't put yourself through it.  Enjoy yourself with the people who are good to you and don't waste your time on the others.

And don't give in and drive to your mother's!

I think if that get on yours nerves, you should say it all,. that will shut there asses up. I have family members like that and for that reason i did not tell them about the surgery. I just let them talk **** and make up stuff like they always do when it comes to me.

Wow! Just keep your **** together and you'll conquer the weekend!!

You are going to be an hour from me! Don't let them torture you. You did this for you...a healthier you. Sometimes you have to clip people from your live who have negative energy. I stopped talking to most of my family last year, including my mom, because all she had to say was negative stuff. The straw that killed the camel's back was that I was a bad mother because I went to NY for 10 days with my BFF of 25 years to celebrate our bday's and left my kids with my husband.  I cussed her out and have not spoken to her since. You know....I feel sooooooo much better without her and her negativity and comments in my life. You will do great. Spend your time with those that you really love.
Xoxo
Gina

Looking good and feeling even better is the best revenge. Just smile, and know that it's really killing them !!!