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was so excited about the fact that my stuff will be submitted to insurance soon, that I shared with my sister. She and I are not particularly close, but she is my only sister ya know??

Background: She had the vertical banded gastroplasty about 14 years ago. She lost a ton of weight but I remember her eating 4 hersey bars at a time AFTER surgery...anyway, she gained a TON of it back. Not all back but a bunch. We all know the banded gastroplasty pretty much sucks anyway. Mom had it like 25 years ago and she still "turns green" Its not even the same as what I will be getting..but I digress.

Anyway- she said, "Yea and then in 5 years you will be wondering what the hell you did!" 
 

Ugh she is sooo non-supportive. I just changed the subject and hung up as soon as I could. She of all people should understand the reasoning and motivations for it all.

Aw, I'm sorry. My family wasn't over the moon about my decision, but they weren't openly against it either. It was more of an "uhh...are you sure??" type of thing.

Anyway, you did the right thing by just changing the subject and getting off the phone. It is a shame that she can't be more supportive, but now the important thing now is just not to get sucked into any negativity. If she brings it up again and is negative, it would be best to set a firm boundary and say, "I understand that you may not agree, but I have decided this is what I need and I will be going through with it, so if you are unable to support me, we should stick to other topics."

Luckily, this site is full of great support and everyone here will be cheering you each step of the way. Your sister will probably come around once she sees all of your success...of course, by that time you probably couldn't care less about what her opinion on the matter is!

Hang in there chickadee,
Lindsey

I'm sorry, loved ones can say the most hurtful things. I think there is still, no...I know there is...still a big stigma attached to WLS.  It seems everyone knows someone that had surgery and did not have a good outcome and those that have done well never get mentioned.  Also, alot of those old "types" of surgery had side effects that today's surgeries have overcome.  And I as far as the "yeah, 5 year thing", I am not sure what she meant by that, but I can see how in 5 years it will seem so normal to eat this way and this much and this thing ... In fact I feel pretty normal now.  So normal in fact that sometimes I have to pause and say to myself "you still eat tiny, you are not eating like the old you".  I think that could be dangerous too and I can see how it would be very easy to slip into old habits, so if she meant it that way maybe.  But having issues like malnutrion and such, I just can't see that happening for us sleevers.

It kinda sounds to me like she was moaning about her personal experience with her surgery and expecting you to have the same results.  Sorry it hurt you, but try not to take it too hard - she is probably regretting her bad choices and regain!

Good luck on your submission to insurance!