I don't see how I can do this!!!

I wholeheartedly agree with Jami.

I'm single and a lot older, and did fine. Yes you 'could' have a lot of things happen, but you also 'could' have an auto accident or whatever too--but most likely not, on both items. But if you don't get the weight off, it is most likely you WILL develop high cholesterol, blood pressure, foot pain, back pain, and inability to do much activity with your daughter at all, and almost as likely you will end up with heart problems, diabetes, cancer or the like.
Try to do some deep breathing and meditation, or whatever it takes. You are far too caught up in the 'what-if" scenarios.

Do it for your daughter! My situation is similar whereas I do not have any help besides my husband.

My saving grace is my  three year old daughter! I am tired of being the fat mom. She deserves a mom that can run and play with her.

I do not know your faith but I pray and everything has worked out. I believe it is confirmation from God that this is meant to be.

You will do fine and next month you will be so proud! Do not delay happiness!

There's never a 'right time' for this .. you won't have complications .. thousands of people have this surgery and are home within 1 or 2 days with little to no side effects .. stay postitive and focused.  You need a health for you and for your child.  Do it .. in 6 months you'll be in such a better place you'll be wondering why you even doubted yourself on this.

Good luck!

 Thank you so much everyone for your responses. It brought me to tears hearing the wonderful support up here.  It's just what I needed to hear and I am thankful that there is such amazing people on this board, I would be lost without you.  I have no one, never was the type to make friends easily and have anyone to talk to and discuss my issues and it's nice to know that I can get the help and support here. It truely means the world to me. Thank you, Kerry