Moms to little ones, help me...

I was in such a similar place... but my DH and I were separated, I knew that God forbid anything happened, it would end up in a custody dispute between him and my parents (he's not a very hands on dad..)...  I still went into it with my parents full support, knowing that it was for the best for me and my daughter in the long run.

Here I am... not even 7 weeks and 101 lbs down... (though I lost 66 pre op).  This is just the beginning for me.  I am feeling great, and I know that by the time my 4 year old is old enough to really start doing stuff, like amusement parks, hiking, camping, I will TOTALLY be able to participate!!! FULLY!

I already got to practice with my niece and nephews... 30-40lbs ago I could do all of the amusemen****er park rides no problem... imagine next Summer!

I am a teacher and the response from students and co workers has been amazing... it is pretty uncomfortable to have 17 year old boys telling you you look "fantastic" or "amazing" but it is nice :-)
My daughter will never have to be embarrassed about me (well... because of my size :-))

I hope that I will live a longer, healthier life for her.  I hope that I may be able to give her a sibling if things work out (she's adopted).  There are so many possibilities now... she deserves them, and so do I... SO DO YOU!

(and yes, I am young and healthy and had complications... I still could of gone back to work at 2 weeks... but I did need some help with her for the first solid week out of the hospital (and I had to stay for 5 days)... but SO worth it!!!!)

Hi, I can totally relate.  I have a 16yr old and twins that are 10.. That being said I knew I had to do something because one of my twins has Down syndrome.. I knew I had to take care of her for the rest of her life.. I wasn't being a good mom and she really needs me. On top of all of that I went to Mexico alone.. Then I got to feeling guilty because I spent what little we got from our tax return that we could have bought my son a car.. He even told me "Mom it is ok we need you to be healthy"

you will be fine and your family will thank you in the long run..

Good Luck
Angela

 I have five kids, and I did this for THEM. I want to be the kind of mom that runs and plays, that can climb the jungle gym with them, teach them to roller skate and ice skate and how to play baseball. I want to be around for them in the long run, so by taking the smaller risk of having surgery I am cutting out all the BIG risks that come with complications from obesity. 

Take a deep breath and think about all the good things that are coming your way! 

Studies have shown that the risk of dying from an obesity related cause within a year is about the same or higher than dying from WLS.  So if you have a surgeon with better than average complication rates, it is actually riskier for you not to have the surgery. 

I have a four year old daughter, and so I understand the things running through your head.  But don't let fear/emotion overtake logic.  Sometimes I get choked up just thinking about saying goodbye to her before I head to the hospital (yeah, I'm a big crybaby that way), but I know I will be a much better mother for taking this step.  And I know I have a much higher chance of leaving my little girl's life prematurely if I don't have the surgery than if I do.

I'm a lot like tripmom, I also have 5 kids, and am doing this for them.  I want to create memories that they will carry with them for a lifetime, instead of me sitting on the sidelines watching.  I spent most of my life sitting on the sidelines and I'm done with it.  I want to live life and the only way I'm going to do that is taking this small step in getting my life back and thoroughly enjoying my children! 

I'm awaiting my surgery date, and I'm sure I'll feel the same as you when my date approaches, its only natural because we are mom's. 

Stay positive and have faith.  I will be for sure sending you positive thoughts and prayers your way.   No worries Paige, everything will be wonderful!