16 mths postop..issues coming up with how i see myself

awww..you are so kind!

 I think you are an inspiration.  

well thank you so much!

It may be none of my business but I can't help but say this:  I think your husband's inability to look you in the eye because he's scanning the room is not normal.  Sure, all cops and people in that line of work have a heightened awareness, but this sounds a bit extreme and sounds like a bit of anxiety on his part.  I know people who work in prisons who are able to leave their job at work, and enjoy their life at home.  It's just a suggestion, but I would think the two of you could see a psychologist who may also identify this issue and help him work through it, if he's open to it.  And yeah girl, you are smokin hot!

Nope..you're not out of line at all...and my husband had just asked me this past week to make a call for him to see and talk to someone about his anxiety when it comes to work.  He knows it is starting to bother him..and he really needs to work through some things also.  So i am making that call as well...I totally agree with what you said!

And thank you for the smokin hot comment!

It could very well be PTSD that he has if he went through a few things at work. Definitely get help for him and hopefully he can figure out what is causing it, maybe you guys already know but there is help out there.

Hey, you have done great and you look so wonderful. Congrats. And the counseling is a good idea if you have some issues. My husband is a home body too and we have just agreed that I can go do stuff - I often take trips without him. Maybe there is a game or activity at home you can enjoy together - some project or a video game or board game. Maybe you could also get some phone friends through this forum to chat with about stuff. Now is a great time to try to make a new set of friends who didn't know you fat so its like starting over as your thin self. classes, volunteer stuff or political work are always good ways to meet people. I moved to a new area and joined a garden club and took art classes and developed a whole new set of friends that way and through them even found my husband some friends.  GL and go for the counseling. always a good thing.   Diane

Thank you so much! And yes..i'll have to look into what volunteer opportunities there are around here..a good way to get out and meet new people..i need that!!

I think you look great. I love you're smile

Thank you Mike!! Haven't seen you post in awhile..I always loved reading your posts..you look very handsome yourself..you've done so great!!!