Negative issues
I was told by a man who weighs about 400 lbs. that I took the easy way out, and that weight loss surgery was bull**** for people too weak to lose weight on their own. I assumed that because he was overweight that my experience could help him make up his mind. He went on to say that the surgeons doing weight loss surgery are only in it for the money, and lots of people die having that kind of surgery. I told him I didn't and directed him to this page so he can see others who haven't either.
I let him rant on at that point because regardless of what I said, he had already set the negative tone. In the meantime, he has trouble getting up out of a chair, moving around the house and is diabetic. He is one of the reasons why I only tell a select few people about my surgery. My family doesn't know and I'm 6 months post op. My husband supports me as do my close friends. I don't really care, I'm not doing this to please them, I'm doing it for me!
I let him rant on at that point because regardless of what I said, he had already set the negative tone. In the meantime, he has trouble getting up out of a chair, moving around the house and is diabetic. He is one of the reasons why I only tell a select few people about my surgery. My family doesn't know and I'm 6 months post op. My husband supports me as do my close friends. I don't really care, I'm not doing this to please them, I'm doing it for me!
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Daisy,
I personally only told my close friends at work, my close personal friends and my mother and sister (who make up my support system). Otherwise, my family does not know! Those who I knew where the question people, the doubters, the worriers, the "if it was me . . ." people, etc., I just refuse to deal with.
This is MY DECISION and I need to make sure that before surgery I am in the right frame of mind. I didn't want to hear the "well, can you really deal with never being able to eat that"? Or, "how is she doing? You know some people have complications after having a surgery like that." I just wanted people that were going to encourage me, comfort me and get a prayer through!
You've told them but you are going to have to be firm. You know the reason why you want and need this and there is no turning back now. Look forward to the future, look forward to the results and don't be ashamed to say "let's agree to disagree and talk about something else". You have the right to not take that in and listen to the negativity because it is not conducive to the journey you are on. Never apologize for living your life and making the decision that you know is the right one for you. Never be afraid to be the life changer and the visionary.
May God Bless you on your new life and new journey.
I personally only told my close friends at work, my close personal friends and my mother and sister (who make up my support system). Otherwise, my family does not know! Those who I knew where the question people, the doubters, the worriers, the "if it was me . . ." people, etc., I just refuse to deal with.
This is MY DECISION and I need to make sure that before surgery I am in the right frame of mind. I didn't want to hear the "well, can you really deal with never being able to eat that"? Or, "how is she doing? You know some people have complications after having a surgery like that." I just wanted people that were going to encourage me, comfort me and get a prayer through!
You've told them but you are going to have to be firm. You know the reason why you want and need this and there is no turning back now. Look forward to the future, look forward to the results and don't be ashamed to say "let's agree to disagree and talk about something else". You have the right to not take that in and listen to the negativity because it is not conducive to the journey you are on. Never apologize for living your life and making the decision that you know is the right one for you. Never be afraid to be the life changer and the visionary.
May God Bless you on your new life and new journey.
HW: 550+ SW: 502 CW: 342.4 SDt: 9/20/11
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