This very moment will change for the rest of my life
Honestly Doc, you are a beautiful, inside and out. See yourself for the amazing person you are and you will realize that he is not good enough for you. I dated so many arrogant son of a ******* when my self-esteem wasn't all there. Now I look back and wonder what the hell was I thinking.
The attention, sex, and affection (only when he decides to give it to you) is simply not worth it. He knows he has a hold on you right now. In the mean time, you are getting hurt. That is no way to feel and be treated.
I was treated this way for so long that I started acting like the ***hole men that I was going out with (only going out with them for what I "needed" that night or weekend, whatever). When I met my husband, I gave him the same treatment as I did with every other guy I was going out with. I honestly did not think there were any good ones left and I almost let him go without realizing what I was looking for was all right there in front of me.
Step back and think about what you are really looking for. I know this is not it. Spend some time with your friends and alone. It helps you gain perspective again.
Keep your head up, get rid of his sorry a**, and figure out what you really want in life. It is so empowering!
We love you. Please keep us posted in what you do.
and wonder why am I chasing this person.... or have been chasing this person....
I do deserve better than this and what I dont like is that I was thinking about running to food
because we were having a moment. He went home and guess what... No calls No nothing.
I do the chasing... what is wrong with me and this picture....
thank you so much for your post... loved it
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
I feel like I've gotten to know you a little better in our conversations and I think the world of you!! You have so many wonderful qualities, you have your head on straight and I have a feeling you're going to take the world by the tail.
This is a precipice moment for you. The light bulb has gone on and you finally know that you deserve so much more than he's giving you. I had a couple relationships like this, too. I was a caregiver and always found these men who treated me like dirt while I ran around making their lives easy.
The last relationship I had was SO unhealthy, I swore off dating for a while. Months passed when I had a guy friend, from chat group I participate in that I'd spoken to for quite a while, tell me he was coming to my town for a function and asked me out for a drink. I told him no...I had no interest in dating. He informed me, this wasn't a date, it was two friends meeting for a drink. That friend is now my Husband. We've been together for 5.5 years now. Every day he treats me with respect and love. He takes care of me as much as I take care of him and enriches my life every day. Life is joyful together.
This is what you deserve Sweety. It's out there, you just have to know this is what you are entitled to!!
Big hugs!!
Heidi
Behind every success is effort...Behind every effort is passion...Behind every passion is someone with the courage to try.
your right about about being in a situation that may cause some great loss or this may be a gain
of being at a turning point in my life changing with the sleeve. changing my head.
Having an addictive personality scares me that I may not be done now that a day went by.
Now that he is gone, I want the chase again, so I have to take it one day at a time not to chase.
I deserve better or more that this person is giving me. thank you so much for your share.
Your are a beautiful person inside and out as well and I am grateful to know you.
Huuuugs
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
Hugs,
B
I mean who wants someone that doesnt engage in ANYTHING...
I dont want to be the man here.... It will hurt... your right better now than later.
Thanks for sharing your 7 year experience and sorry you went through it that long.
I dont want to do this for 7 years....
huuuuugs
✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
Just as an FYI, there is a singles board here and it is an awesome site. Lots of advice, insight, happy stories and a few sad stories, but very informative and supportive with relationship issues.
This too shall pass, but don't repeat it because you will be sitting here again and again. Happy thoughts and happy feelings coming your way.
Consult date 1/11/10 Weight 398.5 Surgery date 3/1/10 Weight 374
HW 400+ CW 196.6 Dr. GW <200 My GW 150
Where is the singles group? is there a link?
WOW I am sooo grateful to hear about you taking a step back and how different ment
have been attracted to you in life. That gives me hope. real hope.....
✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
I put the link to the singles board below. I hope you find it as useful as I have. It is really hard to walk away from what you think you want. The truth is, you don't want him...he is not worthy of you and he shows it everytime he does not take the initiative. It is a hard place to be, been there and done that. I am being chased now...not doing the chasing. I did enjoy chasing some, but I far more enjoy being chased by the one I really am attracted to and that treats me like the lady I am and with the respect I deserve. It is a two way street as far as respect goes. A true man that is worthy of your attention deserves your respect and will treat you likewise.
Best of luck to you in the dating world.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/wls_singles/
Consult date 1/11/10 Weight 398.5 Surgery date 3/1/10 Weight 374
HW 400+ CW 196.6 Dr. GW <200 My GW 150
