Real Fear...of being too attractive after WLS VSG?

No, you're not crazy and the thought has past my mind a couple of times as a single 32 year old w/no kids. I may not be like the "normal" single lady but I have had my share of attention--UNWANTED! I just have prepared myself for that and realize that for the most part, I am equipped to handle such a thing. Also, I am shy by nature but I really want to be the center of attention so I will take it from that viewpoint.

Girl, you better enjoy you now and later and tell them to back off!

I just can't wait to not be invisible to men. I have a lot of great qualities but I feel like I wasn't pretty enough and my weight hindered any guys noticing me - no matter how great of a catch I am . I know my time will come and everything will fall in to place and one day I will fond the guy that's right for me. Till then I will just keep being me!

So true. I''ve been in nightclubs where guys just grab you and push up on you and whisper in your ear its so disgusting and you feel like a piece of meat or like you're being auctioned off. Its sad and they're rude if you dont reciprocate. So I am just afraid of the backlash women sometimes recevie if you're simply NOT INTERESTED! UGH!!! 

Hey lady, I can know your anxiety...that is what I am terrified of.  When I do lose weight and hit the gym the way I like, I do garner too much attention for my liking.  Now I have some history or assault when I was a young girl and then again when I was a young woman...so I like the fact that my fat hid me from male attention.

You are not a nut and it is a valid fear....I am going to start to see a therapist when I start losing more weight and feel the insinct to "run".  Not there yet, but I know it's around the corner.

Admittedly, I'm a prude.  But if I went to a club where people rubbed on me, whispered in my ear, etc., I would stop going to that club - and any like it.  Just find places to hang out where people are civilized.  Except when you're feeling uncivilized yourself. 

I wasnt really speaking of the venue but more so of the type of men that exist. It coulda been at Wal-Mart but thats not the jist.

I'm rapidly approaching MILF status and I'm digging it!  What I'm digging is the fact that they want me, and I CAN CHOOSE WHO I WANT!  Ha!
I'm married, so I'm not choosing anyone, BUT, they attention is flattering and fun!  I've missed it!
Have fun with it, but remember, YOU can be choosy!!!  You don't have to be played by the players, you can BE THE PLAYER!
Hugs,
Jen

Going to be a whole new world. Feeling like Ariel in The Little Mermaid.