Approaching people about their weight....?

Just personally, I would never approach anyone about their weight be it they were fat or severely underweight. I find it intrusive, and offensive. If someone/anyone would have approached me about my obesity, I would be mortified, and extremely angry. Just like if I was underweight, and someone accused me of being anorexic or bulimic, and approached me to "help".

I'm not a medical professional, nor a certified nutritionist. I have no place giving advice to anyone unless asked, and then and only then, would I share my story and dietary changes that have helped me achieve success. I'm simply a person who had 85% of their stomach removed, changed my eating habits, and lost weight. Without medical supervision, and a solid support system, none of it would have possible.

This is a thread hijack, but I cannot believe you are only 15 days away from your due date! Time flies!

If someone came up to me to give me unsolicited advice like this I'd feel insulted. Not to mention like the previous person said, I'd be mortified and embarrassed. No thanks. It's different if people ask you, but you don't just put people on spot like that. JMO. 

If I am speaking to someone and it comes up-I am more than happy to share my experience.

But to approach someone- I would NEVER. Just BC I was ready to take the leap does not mean they are interested in hearing about it. I had family and friends bring up my weight all the time and guess what I NEVER LISTENED TO ANYONE until  I was ready to make the change.

A hard lesson for me to learn in my earlier days is not to but in and try to redirect peoples lives because I think I had better answers.  My stance is if someone asks for my help, I will give them my story but if they don't then I let it go. Everyone's jouney is different and most people need to find thier own path in thier own time.

Now for the counter point.  My sister started her weight loss journey and invited me to join her.  That was the jumping off point for me, by a person who butted in!

The difference here being that it was your sister, not a stranger or an acquaintance!

I don't approach people.  However, I am trying to be open and honest with everyone I meet, about how I have lost so much weight so quickly.  I am willing to answer any question they have about the VSG. 

 Someone did this exact thing to my sister at  church a while back and it set her off into a binge that day. In fact the person who approached her, was  a total stranger and told her she should look into weight loss surgery. I think most fat people know the various ways to loose weight including surgery. So I think its offensive in the regard that the person approaching thinks the fat person is too stupid to know what they are going to tell them. I should add that a year later, (not in response to this person) my sister tried weigh****chers (for the third or fourth time) and has lost a 150lbs so far.

the ONLY people I would feel open to talk to about their weight is family or a very very close friends...


I have a neice and a nephew- the neice is getting WLS soon and we have sort of bonded over the process though I know its hard on her because I got mine a lot earlier than her and she is a LOT heavier than me. I really wish my nephew would get it and I have mentioned it, but he does not have the funds to do so at this time.

I would never simply because i know how i would feel if anyone ever came up to me and suggested they had an answer or even a suggestion about my excess weight.  Years ago when i had lost a lot of weight and feeling good i was walking through a local mall.  At that time Metabolife was the new weight loss bullet.  A man had one of those little carts selling it.  He came up to me and said "If you lost just 30lbs you'd look amazing"  I can't begin to tell you what that felt like but it was horrible.  for me i thought i already looked amazing and he just screwed with my head.  Now i have been approached all my life when i lose weight by family members and friends telling me I'm losing too much but this i can easily ignore.  But a stranger coming up to me at my safe place IE church?  that would blow.