so worried about my nephew

I have not seen him since August...between then and now he has taken a desk job (where he used to load trucks) and moved back home with his Mom which means he has extra money to spend on food.

Then, he was very large, well above 300lbs- I would say about 350. This weekend when I saw him he is 427lbs. He cannot walk more than 20 feet without having to stop. We had family pictures and he had to take numerous breaks to sit. We went to the movies with him and his wife, and we could not go to the more inexpensive theatre because he knew he would not fit in the seats.

This is a 21 year old kid, who, not so many years ago was a football player.

We talked to him about bariatric surgery. His wife should be getting it soon...but he does not want to put the work out it will take to get the surgery. You know...all the hoops we jumped through- he is not willing.  =(

So, that just leaves me, his aun****ching him slowly (or in his case- not so slowly-kill himself)

I know we were all obese, but now....on the other side of this...stiving to get healthy...it hurts to watch him.

Im sorry you are going through this, I know how helpless you must be feeling.

Its so hard to watch our loved ones struggle with morbid obesity and the life-diminishing cir****tances it brings..I think its even more painful because we know how it feels being trapped in our own bodies, like a coffin.

Hopefully he will come around and try and do something for himself..maybe seeing his wife will encourage him in the future.

thats what I hope!

How are you after the plastics?

Until he's ready, you can only support him. It may take something scary to make him ready. It did me. He's so young and our bodies are so resilient. I hope he gets his wakeup call soon.

 Food addiction is just like any other addiction - until you realize and can admit you have a problem, you can't do anything about it.  

When he is ready he will know who to come to.  He will eventually get tired of not being able to live and make the necessary changes - hopefully before he damages his health too badly.

I know how this feels....recently a young woman was assigned to my office, as a student trainee. She is in college, and I supervise our training program. She is.....huge. She is a young woman, who can barely move. She huffs and puffs walking across the office; she has fallen asleep during training meetings where it's 6 students and myself in a seminar type setting. Asleep and SNORING ! I am worried that she will have a stroke or heart attack -- at the office. She rode with me to an out of office appointment, and could not in any way get the sea belt to buckle - nor did it come close, and I drive a fairly large SUV, built "for a man" -- She goes out to lunch, usually Italian or Mexican and stops at the cupcake store, and then eats 4 specialty cupcakes in the afternoon...my heart aches for her...

I'm sorry.

Maybe when he see's his wife doing well it may motivate him.

Ask him to see a therapist? maybe starting to talk to someone and working on why he eat's may help him get started on the road to being healthier.

Good luck to you and your family.