OT Family and estate issues drama!

I have to rant today and get this off my chest.

I have a deadbeat ass sister. She is 16yrs my elder and has always been co-dependent on someone. My parents enabled her. I grew up watching her collect welfare for years. Then she had 2 kids as a single parent, worked off and on and now is unemployed (since 2008).

My parents are gone. They did not have a will and we went through probate. We also split insurance money and I told the attorney and sister that I only wanted a slightly larger portion of the money (hubby and I bought a house) my sister got the remaining money AND the home (we live in another state--I did not want to have a reason to drive back to Ohio from Maryland). She blew through the money in 3 months and bought a SUV she did not need.

Fast forward to 2011. I went online and saw that she is NOT paying the property taxes. She owns the house with no mortgage, just taxes and utilities. She collects unemployment thanks to the extensions. She has told me in the past that she does not WANT a job at McDonalds,etc....

She also put my name on the house and when the assessment kicks in next month I am sure the county is going to start looking for ME! ie tax lien on my CURRENT home!. I discussed it with my husband and it looks like we are going to have to go back to Ohio to transfer it to me so we can take a loan out on it and deal with the arrears and maintenance.

I am BEYOND PISSED! I already have a strained relationship with sis and really want NOTHING to do with her. I last saw her in 2010 and she makes me ill. A long story but she stressed out my mom before she passed and the last convo I had with my mom she was in tears over my sisters ways.

I am not looking for any "you have to love your sister advice", I need advice on what to do about the property. Sis is 55 and needs to think for herself.

I could have written a very similar post to yours.  You don't HAVE to love your sister, no matter what anyone says.  Obligation is not a suitable substitution for genuine affection!  I wish you the best in this and I hope you find comfort knowing you are not alone and you are not a bad person for not wanting a relationship with someone you have nothing in common with.  Good luck!

I'm no expert, but maybe you need to speak to legal aide in the state the home is in ans see how you can legally remove yourself from the situation permanently.  You don't wish her harm, but I understand you don't want to be tangled up in that financial situation.  It may not have been legal for her to put your name on the title.  good luck.

Yeah I specifically told her. I knew how she has been in the past and knew that she would screw me over somehow. Plus it pains me to go back to my childhood home and see how dirty it has become since she's been living there. My parents were proud, hardworking people and always kept the house nice.

Can you just remove yourself completely, pay whatever is due up to now and be done with it completely?  Sounds like any other way will mean stress and financial involvement.

How did she put your name on it without your permission or signature? That doesn't sound legal to me.

No advise but I will offer prayers and hope you are given insight to deal and the strength to carry it out.

Paula

First you need to pray over everything that's going on cause he the only one that will make things better but u have to believe also pray for your sister as well cause it sound like the devil is doing his work on her. try that cause he is a healer/provider.

if your transfering it to your name and taking a loan on the house, do what you have to do it..then sell it....

I'd take the house if possible... your names on it... she can worry about her self.... I'd totally see a lawyer... Sell the thing... like you said, take the loan, enough to pay the taxes, pay to have it fixed up and cover 6 months of morgage (well, loan payment...) and sell it!!!

(((hugs)))