Not letting my poor choices define me

What a great post! It is said that true success never come without mistakes and failures.  It is what we do with them that will determine a positive or negative path.  It sounds as if you learned a valuable lesson which resuted in an action plan.  SUCCESS is born.  I have been suspicious that drinking would lower my food inhibitions, which is why I decided not to do it until I reached goal.  As goal approaches I am still wary of taking that drink, because I am happy with my current state of mind.  Your post reminds me that I CAN do it, BUT I must have a plan when I do.

Thank you for sharing!

Ann

Yes Ann, you totally can do it. But you're right, you'll need to have a plan, and possibly a right hand man or woman to step in and whisper in your ear if you start to stray from your plan. For me, I realized that during the losing phase, I simply cannot do it. I'm worried that even if I do have a wing man or woman, I'd still be out of control enough not to follow my plan. I can tell from last night that alcoholic drinks are triggers for me to go out of control and it's just not something I'm willing to risk at this point.

But... if you're able to, more power to you!

I think your post could have been my post from last night too... except for the taco dip part...  I did plan in some alcohol in my calories ( my family has a wine toast every year) and I did bring two WLS friendly appetizers to my family party (eggface bites and a veggie tray) and planned to eat off of there.... well, when I got there, I ended up eating some potato skins and a mini pizza (3" my mom makes from the biscuits you get in the tube) and then also had 1 1/2 glass of wine (like 10 oz total)... and from that 1 1/2 glass of wine, I got completely trashed.  We did one toast at 9 pm and celebrated the new years so my nephew could participate ( his bedtime is 9 pm) and then were going to do a toast at midnight again... well, by 10:15 pm, my hubby brought me home... thank goodness the party was just with family... my parents and sister... and my nephew was already in bed so he didn't see me at my worse. 
Prior to surgery, the glass of wine would not have affected me much at all, but not drinking since new years last year (I was starting pre-op process in January and decided to indulge) and being 130 lbs lighter, it hit me quite hard..... as a fair warning to anyone reading this that has not drank any alcohol post op yet... and I don't think I'll be drinking again anytime soon!

Yes, I totally hear you on that. Glad that you didn't spill taco dip on yourself, but I can commiserate with making poor choices and feeling out of control with food when under the influence of alcohol.

I agree with you-- it will also be a long time before I'll be drinking again!

It seem to be that the trick is to confess to ourselves our screw up and move on without dwelling on the shoulda-coulda-woulda stuff.  A healthy life style doesn't fail simply because of infrequent transgressions.  You learned, you accepted your mistakes and you are moving one.  Not a bad day in the grand scheme of things.

Thank you :)