OT: Should I pay for Match.com? Any success stories?

They're everrrrywhere!!

http://www.dreamindemon.com/2011/02/17/murder-suspect-admits-to-brutally-attacking-woman-he-met-on-match-com/

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/08/17/robyn-gardner-aruba-disappearance-suspect-s-troubled-past.html

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20016667-504083.html

This is great... Its so TRUE.... Creeps are out there and it doesn't matter if they are poor or rich... If they want to do harm they will use what ever means possible to get it done.

I think the internet is an awesome place to meet people because we are all here... I just don't think $10 a month makes someone any more less of a serial killer or rapist than someone who doesn't...

Hi: I'm single and loving it, had been married for 10 yrs, but it's over now. Married like a mail-order bride, that a friend of my mine introduced me to, she turned out to be a GOLD Digger, he is no longer my friend. I tried Christian mingle.com, Eharmony.com they are all the same, I would never pay for any of them, go free better. Now I don't want to date, I've decided better to be a full time single Daddy, loving it.
Please, Please be very careful out there, there are lots of NUT cases, stay safe.

 try the free dating site first. just because you have to pay to go on some of them doesn't mean it's going to lower your chances of creeps!

my mom was a memeber of the paid ones and she went on some dates with guys that were liars, nothing like their profile pictures...ect. 

so try the free sites like plentyoffish and okcupid first :)

Now a guys point of view,

Don't go on the shopping list for a guy. In my opinion, you will always meet the right one when it happens when we don't meddleto much with our destiny. I know it sounds corny.

I dated literally dozens of women and finally gave up on those websites. Women would misrepresent what or whom they were, or leary as they felt like I did. Then when I least expected it, a beautiful woman walked into my life and been married for 12 years now. Funny how we think we know what we want and then life let's us know that we were wrong.  Good Luck

Thank you for the other POV. How are you all are so calm and rational?

I met my husband on match.com, we celebrate our 5th anniversary this month!   I think everyone is different, and what works for you may not be what works for others (sounds very familiar, a lot like our personal weight loss experiences).  For me, I am a bit of an introvert, and hate bars or clubs.  I found I was able to relax a little bit more by starting a conversation over email then progressing to talking on the phone and meeting in person.  I dated quite a lot based on people I met on match.com before I met my husband, and found that to be a period of time that really boosted my confidence.  Before, when I would go out, my confidence was really low and I assumed no one would hit on me, and I proved myself right (probably because I was so uncomfortable).  With online dating, I already knew someone has some level of interest in getting to know me when I did meet them in person.  Sometimes it worked out, sometimes it didn't.  But to each his/her own.

On the whole free vs. paid website issue, just one comment.  If you are joining a free dating website to 'test the waters' or are not 100% committed to it, that's perfectly fine.  But everyone else on there is probably doing exactly the same.  I paid for match because I was serious about wanting to meet people and date.  It was an investment I made in my personal life. And I found that the men I met who had also paid for the site were equally minded.  Again, that is not to criticize just testing the waters with a free site, it's probably a great way to get the hang of things.  You could always join a paid site later on if you were enjoying online dating a lot.  Good luck!!!

I agree with smcinmiami.  I also met my hubby on match.com and we've been married 6.5 years.