Co worker reaction to my weight loss

 I'm not sure why someone is an idiot because they asked you if your using a treadmill?  I would assume that too if no one told me they had surgery.  /shrug

                                                  DUH !!!

Well Since I have been subject to negative weight related comments at work, I can refer the co worker as an idiot.
 
/Shrug- about the fact that since you can't relate, you shouldn't even respond to my comment which was designed to help someone in need of support.

I can identify, that is I chimed in here.

I think it would all depend on the relationship with the person asking the question, which we can assume is not a good one based on the nature of the post. 
 There are a few people that I work with where they are nasty, sarcastic and generally just rude and will make comments just to try and get a response from me... However I also have people who I work with that are friendly and curious. If they asked me if I was using a treadmill I would not even bat an eye.
so it all depends on the context...

thx....and  I agree....
congrats on ur weight loss so far.....phenominal....
 

Wow! You are a stong person for putting up with all of that at your work place! Keep you chin up and keep on doing your thing!

I think you put up a barrier when you decided to keep your WLS a secret, and told your coworkers that the surgery you were having was a personal thing you didn't want to discuss.

Honestly,  that would probably make me less comfortable around someone too.  Its like an elephant in the room.  There is this HUGE change happening in your life, and you have pretty much forbidden people from talking about it. 

I think it is up to you to do something to acknowledge and remove the elephant. 

I agree. You asked for privacy...you got it and now you want people to talk about it.  But, this is fixable. Just come clean.  Tell them you were too nervous or afraid to talk about it initially but now that you are a few months out, you are comfortable talking about it. Like AC Brown, I tell everybody I had surgery.  Lots of people are interested in the whole process and as far as I know, there hasn't been any jealousy in my office....just a lot of support and encouragement and compliments!  I bet you will feel a whole lot better once it is out in the open.  PS:  Some people worry that you are ill with cancer or some other horrible disease when you start losing weight and they might be very nervous to broach the subject with you in fear of causing you emotional pain. I hope things work out for you.

The one comment I have heard which leaves me looking at the person with my head tilted to one said think "REALLY???" is "it doens't look like you have lost any weight.....but maybe because I see you everyday"  Really?   Weren't you in the breakroom when I had to safety pin my pants to my top so they wouldn't fall down?  

Sometimes people just don't think.  

I don't necessarily think it's nice what they're doing and I know that office ladies can be TOTAL *****es when you don't choose to share your personal business so that could be what they're doing. I also don't know if you were standoffish about your situation. I found that trying to deflect their questions or just avoid them worked for me. I never told anyone why I was going on medical leave and I did say it was personal but I'd always change the subject quickly. One person did ask me outright WHICH surgery I had and I acted VERY confused and said that that wasn't the kind of surgery I had and that I had been very sick. People noticed my weightloss and commented after I lost over 50 pounds. I'd do a little pose and say thank you and then quickly walk away. If they'd ask what I was doing I'd just tell them high protein, low carb and exercise. I'd even go so far as to tell them they were looking good and ask them what they were doing too. Most people didn't comment but I've never been silly enough to think they DON'T know. It's obvious they do... but I'll never be the one to tell them. We don't have that relationship. I know they've all talked about it behind my back. Of course. I've done it about other people who had surgery 10 years ago and denied it and still deny it.

Anyway if they're just being *****es to be *****es, that's not nice and I'd say fuck'em. If you shut them out and they felt offended because of your actions and they are responding that way in order to respect your wishes, then you have to live with that and try to change it if you can.

Thanks for the positive replies.  Those of you who suggest that I shut them out by not telling them are not seeing the whole picture.  This is not just about me or my weight.  It is about an entire group of people suddenly treating me like I do not exist.  There is no way I will discuss my personal life with them but I do want to work in an environment where we can all get along.   A person's personal life is not someone's business if they do not want to share it.  Forget that I mentioned there were no comments.  I am really hurt that I feel like people who used to be my friends no longer treat me like they are. 

Let's end it at that.