Hearing all this negativity...15 hrs prior to surgery

So my surgery is tomorrow.  I have been really excited and gung ho about it.  However today hearing a bit of negativity about it makes me question it, even though i know that I am going to do it, I feel its my time, you know?  I was talking with my husband and one of his immediate family members (and one I really care about ) was talking with him how she isn't comfortable with me doing this, thinks I shouldn't and told him how I have been losing weight on protein shakes, that it is noticable, and that I should just stick it out so to speak...  The thing is I know me, and i know that I always bounce back and forth... Today has been a true struggle to keep on liquid diet because of surgery tomorrow...  For my 'healthy meal' I am trying to make good choices, but I know I haven't, I know that I made mistakes.  This tool, with the surgery, will help me conquer my struggle and give me that boost for the opportunity.

husbands family member (whom I worked with) said she talked to some of the other teachers at the school we worked at and said how they were telling her that I shouldn't do this, its not necessary, etc... I guess that just weighs on my head that maybe I could, all these people believe that I can do it... maybe I can, even if I think i can't.

I know this might be scattered a bit (I definitely feel like this post is all over the place) but just wanted to put into writing about this... response or not, I know that there might not be anything to be said, just wanted to share kinda what I am going through night before surgery...

Screw 'em.

Do what's right for you.

lol, right?  I have to keep telling myself to not let it bother me, to not let it feel like I am failing by having this. 

I asked my husband this morning if he was ok with me having surgery and he said "well, you already paid for it, so whatever" and I said if you are bothered by it, or have something you need to say please say it, I don't want you upset and it affects you.  and he just said he wanted me to be happy and wanted me to be able to be there active with my kids... I told him thats what I want to do as well, and I see this surgery as helping me.  Then he just mentions about how i am going to the gym and doing it on my own right now, maybe I could do it, but he wants me to be happy with any choice I make. 

I really do think this is what I need.  I am so glad that 3 years ago, when I first was planning on surgery, that I got pregnant and didn't have it!  Because I was set for lapband (even though I really didn't want that, I didn't think I had another choice... it was lap or rny-which my mom had and is back about 20 lbs lower than starting weight)...

The one thing my husband has said about his 'true feeling' is that he doesn't understand why someone would choose this... He went with me to my pre op class with the surgeon last week and saw the diet for post op, everything, and he didn't see why I would choose to SUBJECT myself to those 'crappy' foods as he said...  I told him I am choosing my health and while it isn't what I have always eaten (no more chips and guacamole, or in n out hamburgers with animal style fries) it is a better choice in the long run.  My husband went from 215 or so down to 160 just by going to the gym, so that is part of it, he did it on his own (no trainer, just stopped junk food and started gym more often and harder level) so he doesn't understand why I can't just do it on my own either :(  

I am realy hoping once the surgery is all over and the weight starts coming off easier that he will be able to really see and understand why...

Here's the thing, right? If it were all about diet and exercise none of us would be here. There are MANY scientific studies about the obese body's will to stay that way.

YOU have been really excited and gung ho. YOU are the one who made this decision. Don't let other people make you second guess the choices that you've made for your life.

Do it! I am 3 days post op. Don't let anyone talk you out of what is right for YOUR life. Hang in there - the first couple days in the hospital will be awful, but I'm home now and not looking back. I'm sending good wishes your way!!!

I went through the same thing.  No one  is you, and no one can decide what's right for you.  I don't know why people do this.  It's crazy.  I can tell you thought I have zero physical hunger.  Yes I do have head hunger.  I don't have the same cravings as I did before.  I felt like this surgery would give me the edge I needed.  Really it has.  It's not as hard of a fight with the sleeve...the cravings just aren't there for me.  Please just ignore them.  This is your life and your body!

I second the screw them thought. You can't. Live on protein shakes the rest of your life just like every other diet we've tried. If it was as simple as that, we wouldn't. Be here now. I can't. Count how many times ive lost 15-30 lbs doing some diet or pill bit it always came back and then some. Mine is tomorrow too so I'll met you on the losers bench soon.

it helps to write the reasons you are doing this down. and put it somewhere you will see it as often as you need to. Remembering how much we need this to get healthy is key to our own mental health and staying calm before the deed is done. You hang in there and it will be all over before you know it and you will be on a healthier life path. i'll be rooting for you

 I had my lap-band taken out on the 21st, and revised to the sleeve, this time around the only person who knew what I was doing was my husband and my OH family, I just didn't want to hear all the negative feedback, or "why didn't the band work" blah blah blah so I just kept quiet and still no one knows and I'm gonna keep it that way =)

 I know how you feel. I am still 2 month away from my surgery, and I have only told my best friend and my mother about doing it, but yesterday I told another friend and his reaction totally took me aback, he was like "are you crazy???! Why would you do that?! You don't need it! You are not THAT fat! You've lost weight before, just try again. My wife is doing the weigh****chers and she lost 30lbs! Don't do it!" he was screaming at me and yes, I recently lost 80lbs but then I regained 40 and though I am now at 210lbs, I know without the surgery I will be back at my old 250 in no time. But other people, especially people who has never been obese they don't get it, they don't understand and they have not done all the research that we have done, so you can't expect them to be on the same page. You either have to educate them or ignore them!

Good luck to you!