How can you lose 130 pounds and feel fatter than ever before? Worried I'm done losing. ...

Thanks so much  - that was an awesome response. :)

I totally understand where your coming from, my start weight was the same and I'm down about the same amount! Its weird how we can lose so much weight yet feel like we did pre-op, some days I will feel thinner, others I feel the same, its a mind trip forsure!

I don't have any advise to offer (sorry!) but just wanted to say hang in there, I'm sure it will get easier for all of us that struggle with this problem *hugs*

Thanks!  I have no complaint about the timeline in which I lost 130 pounds, because I've definetly never done that before.  It's just this long stall/pause/standstill that is making me really think my body is done losing. 

I'm trying to just be thankful for where I'm at.... but when I'm feeling as fat as I was at 360, then my mindset definitely isn't coming from a place of gratitude.   Thanks...  I'm sure this will pass at some point. 

Been there, done that. Unfortunatly this is a head issue that most of us will deal with.

I literally bought a size four today, got it home, put it on and said to myself "My God, I am fat", it was into my head and out of my mouth before I could even stop it. There was a fantastic speaker at the convention this weekend who addressed these internal naratives and how we need to change them if we ever really want to believe that we are amazing, and she was dead on. The negative self talk sets us up for all sorts of emotional crap that we really just don't need when we are already struggling though so much else.

So yes, this IS something that talking to a counselor would help, you might not think it's your "thing" but I bet in the end you would be happy with the tools it could give you to fight off these negative feelings.

As for the food, I would drop the carbs, up the protien and get in more water. You can do this, it's hard, but you are totally worth it!

Thanks for your support and great advice!  

That is a major disconnect to put on a size four and simultaneously think you are fat.  You are teeny-tiny!   :)    I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with these thoughts too, but in a way it is reassuring to me.  Thanks for sharing...

I still feel fat 75% of the time. That's better than 90% of the time three months ago.

Yes, counseling will help. It's helped me get through stuff... HUGS

There's a smart way to look at it!  LOL!  At 360, I felt fat 100% of the time... OK, I still feel fat 100% of the time (because I am, technically) but I feel more "normal" fat as opposed to "OMG" fat about 90% of the time.  That's an improvement, right?  ;)

That kind of how I figure it at this point. I'm still 185, that line of obese and overweight for my height. So I'm still "fat" but I fit in places and can wear normal clothes... it helps. I figure in 10 more years or so I should be totally okay with it. *laughing*

Okay, even though I'm way late on getting in on this.......

Crap, I feel fat all the time! Not every moment of every day, but often enough that I've posted and talked about it. I "know" I'm not fat, but that doesn't really matter sometimes. My brain hasn't reset to the new me AND I haven't fixed all the negative self talk that I've done for years. It's hard to change.

My loose skin does a whole number on me, too, but maybe that's a completely separate issue. Not sure, but looking at the skin can put me in a tail spin!

I'm hesitant to go to counseling, not because I'm nervous, but because my insurance doesn't cover the long term talk therapy that I would need to effectively deal with all my "fat-crap-issues"! I simply can't afford the added expense right now. In a few months I may consider it. So, I take it one day at a time and deal with the crap as it rears its ugly head. So far, so good.

I also listen to the successful vets here on OH. They are my mentors and when solicited offer great specific advice.

As for your diet..... IMO it's too low in protein. I'd up it to at least 80 grams per day-a 100 grams would be fantastic. (I shoot for 100-120 in maintenance now.) Try for 100 oz of water each day and leave your calories between 600 & 800.

Another thing I would do is switch from the processed foods you're eating to whole, unprocessed meats and veggies. I found that eating that way really worked. The processed foods have "stuff" in them that can affect your weightloss - sodium, hidden fats, lower quality proteins, and the like. That's what worked for me. 

Hope you're feeling better soon and you're able to kick start the WL again with some of the ideas people are sharing.

Thanks so much, great advice! 

The loose skin is definietly something that  can screw with your head.  Especially when you're naked.  Clothes can cover it up, but when you're naked you just look like a small fat person.  (Not "you" specifically... I'm not looking in your windows, I swear.)   I still have enough real fat that this isn't my primary concern yet, but I will tell you that I'm more self-conscious about my arms and even my neck than I was before I lost any weight.  I got the bat arms and ... er... bat neck?  going on pretty bad.  

As a vegetarian, if I stick with whole foods (and also have enough protein to meet my goals) my carbs go through the roof.  I used to be more a whole-food eater, but on my post-sleeve diet it doesn't hit my numbers.  So, unfortunately, it's a trade-off to have some processed foods in my diet.  (Like the bariwise oatmeal).   But I agree that I should try to up my protein and see if that helps.  

Thanks for your response!