I am an asshole

OMG! I almost blew a SB skinny peppermint mocha out my nose! You crack my ass up!!

Holy hell - I almost pissed myself laughing.  

lmfao

Frisco...I see your posts often too.  I like you. 

 

A bit of background...I moved out at age 16.  I knew it all then of course...I sued my father for child support.  I won.  I was the only senior in high school with my own place. 

 

Then I joined the Navy.  Did 2 tours in Desert Storm. I had a good time.  When I came home I went to college.  I became a nurse.  I love my patients...I work at the VA.  I feel I have something in common with each and every person I care  for.  But that doesn't mean I will be your "Mommy". 

 

I believe in personal responsibility.  You get what you have coming.  I am fat.  I know what that brings later in life., I see it everyday.  That is why I did this WLS.  I want to take control.  Head off the pain of obesity.  Plus...I HATE how my underwire digs into my gut.  I HATE being out of breath up a single flight of stairs.  I HATE fat as it looks in my mirror. 

 

I DESRERVE better.  I can do it.  So I chose the best tool in which to help me achieve that goal. 

 

It does not define me.  It does not make me.  It simply helps me achieve what I want to do. 

 

Call me an asshole...really...I will NOT apologize.

Maybe I just missed it, could you please direct me to the post where you were a real meanie?  I would love to read it, I need the entertainment factor.  :)

The truth is that most people that do well with WLS all have internal locus of control.  We all believe that it's up to us to get this right and we are fully committed to doing it.  Not everyone is in the same place.  Most of the time, I might feel the same way as you, but I step back and ask myself what I am trying to accomplish.  Generally, if I am posting here, it has to do with two things, either I want to journal my thoughts and hear myself speak so that I can cement my own journey, or I really want to help the other poster. People have a hard time taking in truth when it is said in a way that upsets them.  So I try to be as diplomatic as I can, sometimes I fail miserably because I see what you see and I want to scream "Put down the cracker, bagel, gummy bear, mashed potatoes or whatever else is just a "taste" and is on their program"  I am much harder on myself than I would be on them, still, I try to be as gentle with my truth as I can.  Sometimes, I still fall flat on my face and just sound mean.

Actually, Elina, you are among the most diplomatic!  Kudos to you!!  I have only contributed to this particular board since Nov.  Prior to that I was a band poster!  I was just recently sleeved in Nov.  You, however, seem to be the most revered poster, and with all due reason!  You are a sleeve poster girl! You look fan******gtabulous! 

 

I post this in response to replies I have recieived.  Again...recently since I am a new sleeve.  I am just that kind of rude-in-yo-face-kind of poster.  I tend to be more "honest" in my approach.  Some would view it as aggressive...maybe even offensive.  This is NOT my intent, of course.  But then again...this isn't the first time I have been told this.  I try to hold back, sometimes I fail.  However, I do feel I I can contribute, given my band history.  So I do, in true "lori" style.  This offends some.  Oooopss.

You, my friend, are a warrior.  We need warriors around here.  I would much rather have a nurse that saves my life and does the hard thing than one that uses pretty words.  When you are in battle, and you in battle at the hospital every single day, your qualities save lives.  If I am going to war, I want you on my side, next to me, screaming CHARGE!!!

Some of the people on this board are much more damaged and fragile.  Years of fighting obesity have often pushed them down.  Many have felt less than, invisible and ashamed since early childhood.  I know that you would treat an elderly fragile patient or a small child differently from a stronger mostly healthy young adult.  You still save their life at any coast, but you gently your movements, your voice, your touch.  You fight for them just as hard, but you fight with more care.  Just remember who your audience is here, sometimes they are quite fragile too.

You can have my right flank, I'll take your left.

Hugs

Hi Elina -

She's responding to my comments in this thread.

Well you already know how I feel about your style and substance on this forum since I seem to be stalking you here as much as possible.  :)  

Ok I'm an asshole as well but I guess my brain to mouth filter.....or in this forum....brain to fingers filter is on. I don't feel ppl need harsh treatment on here because this is a friendly forum and ppl are here asking questions and truly needing help.

I admit sometimes I want to pound my forehead into a wall or scream or say holy **** what were you thinking but I try to be nice as I can.

So be an asshole....but checkout the brain to finger filter at your local Auto Zone. It is more expensive at Advanced Auto Parts. :D LOL