Don't Be Afraid to Post Failures

Many of us post our successes with our SV and NSVs. We talk about when we have lost 100 lbs, we talk about when we meet our goals. Not too many of us post our failures, stumbles and falls. I think probably because nobody really wants to hear about when they make a mistake but I have to say it has really helped me.

I have been scolded many many times on here from...well..just about everyone but honestly it has kept me on track. There is nothing wrong with a vet telling you (or usually me) that even though I had a small success because of some experiment or a slip up how ultimately it is a failure and they are usually right. I will take a scolding from Frisco, Elina_7, MsShell, SlimPickens5280, ShagDoll, michellemj, acbrown, and rhearob (sorry did that list from the top of my head, there are many people who have scolded me) any day of the week as long as it keeps me headed in the right direction.

We learn not only from our successes but more importantly from our failures and hopefully from the failures of others.

Hopefully we will see more stumbles, trips, falls, and flat out screw ups in the future. They are just as helpful as the successes.

Mistakes only turn into "failures" if we don't learn anything. That is one thing about you that I've always respected - your willingness to learn.

On a side note, I'm pissed that you didn't include me on the scolding list. What the hell??

As soon as I saw your response I was like damn, how could I forget slim. Some of my best scoldings have been from you. I am going to edit my post right now.

I'm gonna blame the mind bending 3 hour workout this morning with my buddy who thinks he's Jillian Michaels and I did the list off the top of my head.

Ok, here's my failure. I haven't been able to go in 3 weeks. I've tried the Miralax, Colace, Milk of Magnesia, and even tried eating/drinking things that would cause me to dump, just to clear my system. It still hasn't happened. (Yes, I have an appointment with a surgeon in 5 more days.) In the mean time, I feel like a poop failure and a psychological failure because I considered doing something destructive (willingly dumping).

I am not sure that's actually a failure. If we had control over our poop I would also be a failure. I had this problem a couple weeks ago. This was the ****tail that got the ball rolling so to speak. 3 capfuls of Myralax, Dulcolax stool softener, 1 exlax, and 2 tablespoons of colon cleanse (psyllium husk). The next day was not fun but lets just say I was clean from stem to stern.

You may need an enema, not fun but might be just the ticket, plus it will make it much easier coming out than just the softeners and laxitives alone.

Don't worry about laxitive addiciton right now, go for the exlax, much worse being backed up, it will make you toxic and block weight loss.

Once you get it all working again, make sure to take a little bit of myralax every day.

As for dumping, VSGers do not dump. Dumping happens with RNY patients because they basically bypass the digestion part of the intestine and sugar goes to a part of the intestines that it is not supposed to go. We still have our normal digestive tract. If you are experiencing dumping, its not from something else. Also dumping is not necessarily intestinal distress (cramping, etc) but it is a sick feeling that makes you feel like crap and wiped out, so not really gonna help in the poop department.

Thanks for the info!

When I would eat something too sugary, I would end up with the runs or vomiting. I would also get the panic attack feeling. I've had the nausea for a while now, and just feel blah. I never thought I would pray for poop.

I considered it a failure because I was going to the last resorts. lol

That sure sounds like dumping to me. Should not be happening though. Might be indicative of another problem.

I'm with you on the praying for poop. Someone I was talking too the other day was saying something they ate gave them diahrea and I was freaking jealous.

The nausea and blah feeling you have right now is probably from being backed up. I wouldn't mess around with it too much longer, I think enema might be your best option at this point, you don't want to become impacted and have to dig it out. I think SleeveGirl has a story about that, did not sound like too much fun.

This is a real ****ty conversation!

Psst. Sleevers can and do occasionally dump, not as common as the RNY, but yep- we certainly can. Any gastric surgery can cause this to happen (and even normies can dump as well, so surgery isn't a pre-requisite for this side-effect either.)

Sleeve surgery does increase gastric transit time, so that plus a nice big sugar load- or worse, sugar and fats (thin**** cream, which I DO dump on if I eat too much, esp on an empty stomach.. ) and you get the real-deal dumping (heart racing, weakness, chills, crappy feeling, gut pain sometimes, and sometimes leading to the runs, but not always..)

And people with unaltered stomachs dump too, because dumping is just a reaction that your intestines have from food entering the intestines to quickly.  Some people with ummm I believe it's called rapid gastric emptying???

Dulcolax suppositories...work within 15 min or so. unpleasant but they do work and dont bother the belly....

tia