I am not normal - my life lesson today brought to you by a pumpkin scone

Raven, you are adorable. I am not normal either, first business trip since 7/29/2013 sleeve surgery. Oh Lord, it is hard. Eating meals with others, notndoing well. Feel sick for over an hour after each meal. I am either feeling something like hunger or sick because I ate something. I long to be "normal" whatever the hell that looks like.

I think our normal is just different. We will both work on getting the perspective needed to view that as positive. Hugs

Yeah, I miss the seasonal treats. It's why the Halloween Candy won't come to my house till the day before Halloween. And it leaves with the last kid. 

On the plus side, canned pumpkin, Splenda, Fage 0, and a little cinnamon stirred together tastes great!

Lynda

That sounds delightful!  I'll have to add that to my rotation.  I'm planning to roast pumpkin this weekend

This is a great thread.  I totally get what you're saying, but I heard something recently that hit me luck a ton of bricks.  Regarding food addiction and the fact that we still have to eat - unlike an alcoholic who can completely abstain, the fact is that we don't have to eat crap.  I had never really thought about it that way.  True we have to eat, but we don't have to eat trigger foods.  It helped me more than a few times.  I couldn't have 1 spiced pecan, I'd have to eat a cup of them.  Folks are going to be very disappointed this Christmas when I don't make them!

 

Kim

It's true, and it reminds me of what I'm always telling my husband.  As adults, we are supposed to choose healthier options.  It doesn't mean we can't ever have a lovely meal, some wine, a dessert - but the majority of the time we need to eat our vegetables, choose lean proteins, make sure we're getting enough fiber.  Yes, I'd almost always prefer ice cream to roasted veggies and grilled fish, but I'm a grown up and it's important that I take care of myself not only for me but for my family.  He eats like a 12 year old left alone with his parents' credit card in the grocery store.  Just because you want it, doesn't mean you have to have it. 

I hear you about needing to stay away from the sugar.  Does it make it any easier to bear when you see how great you look in those skinny jeans you modeled for us a couple of months ago?  I keep hoping that the old saying is true: nothing tastes as good as being skinny feels.  Screw normal.  

LOL, yes, it does make me feel better, although sometimes I have to constantly remind myself how much more I prefer the fit of my skinny jeans to the instantaneous gratification of a pastry.  Or how much better I feel when I get my body moving instead of sitting like a lump on the couch with a cupcake.  I'm lucky I work from home because when I need a reminder of why I'm abstaining and being a healthy example for my daughter isn't enough, I go try on clothes in my closet :)

what a great, helpful post!  You've described me, too.

After losing the weight, I "look normal,"  but I am not "normal."  And it's a weird disconnect, ya know?

Most of the time I'm okay with eating the healthful way I need to.  But when I get off track (ALWAYS triggered by carbs) and then have to rein it in, get back in control and stop eating the carbs, I feel that "why me" feeling :(   

But I guess I just have to put on my big girl panties and do it :)

 

It is a weird disconnect.  All of it is.  I literally wash my clothes and while folding them think "there's no way that is going to fit."  I wake up daily still scared this is a dream and I'm really 250+ pounds.  I like eating healthy.  I feel better, I have more energy, I'm less grumpy.  But sometimes I just want to say "screw that!  I'm going to eat that cake."  :)  I've got my big girl panties on today.  I promise