It is no wonder I used to be so fat.

My family is trying to be kind, but it is no wonder I used to be fat. I have asked my husband each day now (multiple times a day) to stop bringing in sugar and junk food.  He always agrees.  And then he goes out to buy more.  He lost weight with me, but has put back on over 25 pounds and is rapidly adding to it, and he continues to try to have a partner in this. Not intentionally, not maliciously, but very persistently. Just in the last 24 hours it has been 2 quarts of ice cream, my favorite large sized candy bar, a sams club sized of chocolate covered fruit thingys, strawberry rhubarb pie, and a chocolate mousse cake.  I am starting to get annoyed.  I am annoyed at myself for not having the will power to stay out of it, although I have not been that bad overall.  I am super annoyed that I am trapped in my house due to my recent surgery and have no way to burn off the calories.  And I am annoyed at him for making this more difficult for me.  Tonight after dinner, I am going to throw out the sugar.  He is going to be pissed, but I will gain so much weight over this next week if this continues.  

Ugh!  That is so frustrating.  I hope your husband can see how much this is affecting you.  I would throw it away too! 

I hear you sister.  It's mindful eating as close to 24/7 as possible because derailing when there is still more in the pantry is a recipe for disaster.  Throw that stuff out.  It may make for tension and it may not look good in the garbage but it will look better than on your hips.

Love my youngest... the most health conscience in the family.  She cooked most of the meal tonight... swiss chard, roasted asparagus & brussel sprouts, roasted sweet potato circles (she just slices thick and roasts- great portion control!), butternut squash soup, spiral ham.... low starch for the most part and loads of healthy and tasty veggies!  I can easily claim I am too full for the cake now!

I just posted about this- I feel like I have no support. I have asked my husband for years to eat better and exercise with me, to no avail. He likes what he likes and that's it. Sausage, Gold Star cheese coneys, McDonald's, White Castle, etc, despite high cholesterol and being overwt. I love him dearly but I think of how much easier this journey may be with a supportive partner to adopt a healthy diet and exercise with! At least my children will try new things and eat what I prepare, but getting them to exercise with me isn't the easiest task.

Hang in there.  It is easier with support, but not impossible without it.  Try to really focus on the small things that do help and reinforce those with your family members.  Can you try to have a designated area in the house for junk food to make it a little easier for you to avoid?  I always have my kids keep sugar junk in their rooms.  My youngest knows I will go after it, and she takes an extra step by hiding it.  How pathetic that this is at times where I am at mentally.  She did a good job because yesterday I did go looking for it and she probably saved me a minimum of 300 calories.  i was just really struggling yesterday, but feeling a little better today.  My hubby went for a slow and gentle walk with me, put up our gazebo so I can be outside with shade (skin cancer- so sun is a big deal), and made a bonfire for me last night after the sun went down so I could be out and enjoying the evening.  It was exactly what I needed and I am looking forward to another round today. 

I'd be more than annoyed, I would be livid!  Re- read that list of sugar that has been brought into the house in one day -- this is sabotage.  

Maybe he's trying to shove down all his feelings and fears about your recent surgery with food but this is ridiculous, even for a compulsive eater.  

Good for you for tossing it all!  

I agree. His behavior is passive-aggressive. He *says* he agrees not to bring that stuff in the house and then turns right around and does it anyway. I could understand it if he just brought home *one* thing, but it sounds like he's bringing it in by the bagful! My guess is that he feels resentful in some way. Maybe he's sad that he's lost his grazing buddy.

or maybe he's not really ready to lose weight himself. When you're sticking to your diet and he's not sticking to his, it's just one more reminder to him that he's failing.  OP, this is not your problem. He can manage his own diet or not but it's out of your hands. You can, however, tell him not to bring it in the house. I assume he drives, right? Tell him he can eat all the junk his little heart desires but he can't bring it home.   Of course, he will not do this.  He will bring it home anyway.  And that's when you warn him--he either takes it out of the house or you will get rid of it yourself. And then do it.  He will probably not believe you the first time and he'll be upset and may even carry on a bit. Tough noogies.

I do like the idea of allowing him to bring home one junky snack a week.  But it's just not fair to YOU when he brings home multiple gallons of ice cream, chips, McDonalds and other trash. If he continues to do this, I would say you have a deeper problem in your marriage.

I agree it appears passive aggressive, but truly I believe it is stemming from him having a hard time with my double mastectomy.  It is a lot to deal with.  He was very ready to lose weight back in the weight loss phase, and he is struggling right now.  I think sometimes I feel guilty about the sleeve- it clearly is so much easier for me being sleeved to keep regain at bay than it is for him trying to do this without it.  i am so proud of how well overall he is done and need to find a way to support him in a way that stops his regain and reverses a bit of it.  I am not sure what that is yet, but I will not give up until I can find a way to help him.  Thank you for your reply... i do think part of this is his feeling resentful, just not for the reasons you may think.  

I would throw it out each and every time.  Maybe he'd get angry enough about the lost money to quit buying it or at least not let you know where it is.

Also, I'd probably make him watch an episode of My 600 lb Life because there is almost ALWAYS someone bringing crap to the person who is recovering.  It's infuriating.  He needs to see his behavior for what it is.