it just hit me...i LOVE food!

i am almost 2 weeks out and going nuts. this is sooo hard. it am having regrets already. i know several ppl that had wls. i see them now and the eat pretty much anything they want. i just have a horroble feeling that i wont bea ble to eat for yrs. i realize that i love food. i love to cook. i love to eat. i love to entertain. is it all over? i  usually have a buffet breakfast for mothers day. not today. i had broth. then i get a call. come over for a cook out girl, we're having everything!(they don't know about my wls). i'm home all day watching food commercials while out of work. did you know arbys has a new sandwich? so does burgerking and hardees.lol i'm only 27 and fear living the rest of my life like this. this tool is a blessing don't get me wrong. my mind is the curse. when can i even eat a nice salad with chicken? will i ever have nachos again? i fought for a year to have wls. i wanted this. please don't think i'm complaining friends please! just confused. i have NEVER in my life not been able to eat what i want. i am so used to associating food with fun and friends. today i thought if only  i could have some bbq my day would be better. sick huh? thanks for listening.

Buyers Remorse :) I felt that too the 2nd week, but only for a couple days.  It gets better.  Hang in there.  I had to be on a liquid diet for 3 weeks.  The 2nd week was rough and the 3rd I just didn't mind anymore. Hugs

At 27 years old it is so hard to look at what the extra weight on your body would mean to you.    You just gave yourself a longer life to keep eating in.  Ten more years and you would be on 10 medications for high blood pressure, back pain, knee pain, gerd, depression, high cholesterol, diabeties ect.....  It wouldn't have skipped you.  You would feel like crap.  You might start to go to less functions and dissassociate yourself from family and friends.  We all have such similar stories.  You are so lucky to be 27 and have this surgery.  Treat this tool for what it is worth..., your life!  You will eat, and eat plenty, hopefully with the mindfullness to have your proteins first and then enjoy what you like in moderation.  Food is so inconsequential in the grand scheme of living to enjoy...(one day) your husband, kids and grankids.  For those you love to know that you had surgery to extend your life with them.  I will be 39 years old this year.  I quit smoking 20 months ago, got RNY 11 days ago and when I think of all the memories I have just expanded for myself, and all those I love, I want to scream from the rooftops THANK YOU!  Food, yeah, can't wait to enjoy it but life....  can't wait even more.  Watch out world cause here we all come!

You sound just like I felt after surgery.  I thought I would never eat like a normal person again.....but rest assured you will. Right now you have to follow the rules and get through the beginnng stages, but I am 14 months out now, and I eat like most thin people do.  I eat want I want just in smaller portions and I even indulge once in awhile.  I am still trying to lose 30 more pounds, so  I am careful with the indulgences, but other than that I can eat like a "normal" person. Be glad for the time you can't because once you can eat most anything, it becomes a challenge in itself to keep it under control. Good luck and hang in there.

It'll get better Hon just hang in there. It will be worth it in the  end. You said yourself how hard you fought for this. Now just keep fighting. Lots of hugs and prayers to get you thru.

Trust me, we all know.  It is a great tool, but I still am struggling with not eating.  I love to eat.  I still love to eat.  I am still pissed I can't eat.  I know I will be able to eat one of these, but right now it sucks.  I am 12 weeks out and I am still struggle with it.  My husband went to a cook out last night, I just didnt want to go and not eat.  I can eat something, but I just rather not have to explain myself, even though there is a guy (that would be there) that had WLS a couple of years ago. I know, it will get alot easier.  The food commericals will be less annoying.  The desire for food will lessen. 

Im 5 days out and i agree 100%.  with you...everything you wrote, i feel too.  Ive been going thru major food withdrawals..and the food on tv is killing me!  my mouth waters when I see food or smell it....im regretting this wls also...this is torture!

Well, now is a good time to re-focus and find ways of enjoying life without it being centered around food.  I know that's easier said than done when you've always used food for comfort and entertainment, but it IS possible. But I also believe God means us to enjoy our food - that's why it tastes so good - so that we will eat a variety of nutritious things to fuel our bodies.  During the weight loss phase, you need to concentrate on eating small portions of the best quality food (especially protein & complex carbs) that you can manage.  I didn't have RNY (I have the band, and unless I have my band unfilled, I will never be able to eat certain foods again - but that's a small price to pay for my health), but a friend of mine who did is now able to eat small amounts of everything she likes. It does get better!  Hang in there... Jean

Welcome to "the easy way out" of WLS. Not very easy now is it? Listen - pre-op if you were on a DIET you would have taken today off and had a fine old time. BBQ sauce drippin down your arm, so many slices of cakes to fill you up, then seconds a couple hours later. Now that would be impossible. Tell me how this is easy? It's waaay easier to give up and give in then walk with strength to actually change how you handle food. I had several occassions that I couldn't eat something post-op. I knew it was a matter of time before I could again (potato salad on July 4th for example). Well guess what. Potato salad can rot on the table before I crave it now. It's amazing how we change from being food obsessed (me me me!) to becoming "Eh whatever. Where's my protein first then we'll talk sides". Don't get me wrong - I looooooove food but it sure doesn't get me goin' like it used to.  Your feelings are normal now but they will change. And if you follow the rules and plan to be a moderation eater there isn't any reason you can't enjoy what you liked pre-op. It takes a very transparent frame of mind though to be a successful moderation eater so take the time now to change. It is very much worth it.  Jenny

It's TEMPORARY!  TEMPORARY!  Even a DSer can't eat very much at 2 weeks out!  Hang in there!  Surrender to the surgery at this point and let it do its job.  Your job will come when at 2 years out you CAN eat what you want and you have to start dieting to not regain the weight.