Anyone else feel like a freak of nature?

 Your husband didn't leave you because of your skin, I don't care what he says.  Maybe he has sexual problems and couldn't get it up anymore so he blamed it on you.  Maybe he felt like he had more control over you when you were heavier.  Whatever the reason I doubt it was because of your skin and if it was then he was a shallow loser who didn't deserve you.
I have lost over 120lbs and I am over 50.  The skin is doing things it never did before, even when I lost a lot of weight.  My thighs belong on a shar pei.  My poor, implanted boobs hang so dejectedly.  Even my stomach, which wasn't so bad because insurance paid for a panniculectomy, suffered the indignity of an open surgery, followed by another open surgery.  Now my stomach is puckered like a seersucker suit.  My body is a wreck.
I have some money coming in and I flirted with the idea of going to Mexico for the works.  I could do that or pay off all my bills and have some money left over to save.  I really wanted to go to Mexico.  The prices are unbelievable and I heard the surgeon is excellent.  But the truth is I am 53, not 23.  My life will not improve on bit if I get rid of the extra skin.  And I know from experience that it would never be enough.  The scars would be hideous, my face would still be wrinkled.  If I had all the surgery necessary to correct my flaws I would look like the bride of Frankenstein.
Besides, I am lucky enough to have a boyfriend who has loved me when I was 240lbs and he loves me now.  He has never said a thing about my body except how much he enjoys it.  In my eyes he is a man.  Not just because he accepts me as I am but because he knows who I am and that is who he loves, not my outer appearance which has and will continue to change over the years.
If you didn't have the excess skin would your husband have left you when you started to age and have wrinkles?  Wouldn't that have turned him off, too?  Was it till death do us part or until I no longer want to have sex with you and need some skinny, tight young girl to make me feel like a man.  He will never be a man.  He will always be a little boy how has to have a new toy to make him feel better.
I think you are lucky to be rid of him.  Soon, you will meet a man who sees you through eyes that only see your goodness and kindness and don't focus on your out appearance.  Then you will thank your lucky stars that you lost the loser who was bringing you down and making you doubt your own beauty.

Thank you Tazz. You are probably right. The mental scars run deeper than my road-map-looking body scars. The money for plastics is an issure for me, too. My goal in life is to get out of this expensive house I can't afford and downsize. Ex has had no job in years and has no money. I'm paying it all. Anyway, my kids and I want to start over in a small house and I want to work to pay off my new credit card debt (to stay afloat) and eventually a house. Then retire comfortably and hopefully enjoy grand kids one day. That's all I think about. Spending thousands on surgery would delay that. Plus these kids need cars and so do I. Anyway, thanks for the encouragement. I don't know how to start to love myself first but I need to figure it out. If God has someone planned for me in the last part of life, then it will be someone who doesn't mind my looks. My youth and looks are gone but then again, most men I'd meet would be in the same boat, no?

 I have 4 grand daughters and they are more important to me then perky boobs :)
And I have seen your picture.  Your looks are far from gone.  You are a very pretty lady.  They way to love yourself is to treat yourself good.  Do you say bad things about your friends?  Don't talk to yourself like you wouldn't talk to a friend.  Act like you love yourself and the feelings will follow.
Don't let any man make you feel bad about yourself!  Never!  And don't let any man make you feel good about yourself.  That is your job alone.  Don't give any man the power to affect the way you feel about yourself.
Please take time for yourself and your children.  You have a lot on your plate.  You don't need a man in your life to put more drama into the mix.  Let yourself and your children heal.  You seem like you have been so damaged by this loser who wasn't even man enough to support his own family and allowed his wife to support him.  Has he no pride?  Now you are free of this dead weight and your life will only get better.  If it is important to you I am sure you will have the money to get some plastic surgery eventually now that you don't have to pay for him, too.
Be proud of your self for providing for your family.  I promise you, life will get better and you will be so happy about the changes in your life someday and I think it will be soon.

You're right. My babies are more important than my skin apron. They are the reason I bother to breathe.

Well... finally I have decided I have avaluable advise!  I hope...
I have had an apron for years, but it is more pronounced now at 270#,  I use a lot of medicated powder!

And ....guys?  Get yourself a group of women, even just 3 is a group and then invite others and talk stuff out.

There is a thing called Meet Ups all over the country, check it out on the web, maybe there something that will interest you.

Sweetie you need to get out a little more...love and hugs ...SBV

Tazz!  I couldn't say it any better and couldn't agree more!!!!  It wasn't her saggy skin...if someone truly loved someone that would not matter.  For crying out loud my husband is begging me to wear a bikinni this weekend...saggy skin and all!!!  This guy's excuse is a total cop-out.  So Cinn please don't buy that sack of bull ****!!!!!  He is a total coward!!!  Don't give him the power to bring you down!!!

I struggle with confidence daily and the best advice that I've had to learn and now embody;  people will only see how beautiful you are if you let them.  Confidence comes from the inside out, it truly does.  Confidence is so sexy!!!  Any man will agree with that hands down.  Don't let this "man" steal your thunder.  Hold that head up high!!  Your soul mate is out there...God bless the broken road, right? 

((((((((Hugs)))))) So sorry for what you are going through but you are beautiful and worthy...run here for support! 

 I struggle with confidence daily and the best advice that I've had to learn and now embody;  people will only see how beautiful you are if you let them.  Confidence comes from the inside out, it truly does.  Confidence is so sexy!!!  Any man will agree with that hands down.  Don't let this "man" steal your thunder.  Hold that head up high!!  Your soul mate is out there...God bless the broken road, right? 

"And I refuse to walk around in some kind of girdle, sweating and getting a rash. They are not designed for this amount of skin anyway."

Actually, there are a number of products that are designed for this amount of skin and don't make you sweat or give you rashes. They aren't your mother's girdles! It's definitely worth trying while you work on your issues.

If your husband left you because of that, then please consider yourself lucky. You don’t want that type of person in your life. Give it some time, there is someone out there looking for someone too, you just haven’t found each other yet. You are in my prayers.
Love to heal and touch the soul… Faith to light the darkend sky… and Strength to carry on…    My favorite saying.

I am so sorry that u are going through this doubt. Someone does not cause someone that they are in a commited relationship pain over saggy boobs. I am sorry but it is the Gods honest truth. He is prob upset about his aging man boobs not yours. I think that the majority of us when making the decision to have surgery did so because of the health benefits we would gain when we lost our weight. I have lost #90 so far in the past year. #50 since surgery in March. At #199 I have extra skin in places I had never dreamed of. First of all don't stand in front of the mirror and dwell on in. Get dressed and turn around and focus on the changes you have made. I too look like a shar pei in the tummy and thighs. My face looks fab and I am hot (when dressed). Lol. What u have done has increased your life and will keep u healthy and active for your kids. Let's face it, do you really want to be known for your boobs? Or for the mother, friend, daughter, hard worker/strong person that has suceeded in reaching your goal? Hang in there. Chin up!