Going out tonight, husbands mad

 Well, on that I'll agree - that we won't agree on this.

 Actually you don't know me at all and have no idea what my life was like previously or will be in the future.  I actually do;  I was much thinner and pretty damned hot when my husband and I met.  We have our own ways of working with it, none of which involve keeping me in 1962 housewife hell.  

This OP *has* been working with her husband on this and taking his feelings into account.  At some point he has to do some hard work himself to work on his OWN insecurity. She did not put that on him, that is HIS problem to deal with and he has to man up and choose to deal with it.  When does he take HER feelings into account?  Marriages work both ways, and if both parties can't work towards some kind of compromise there are problems.  

This is me.  I was fat here, smaller than now... but was even smaller when we met.  I was still pretty ******' hot even here. 
http://www.joannabk.com/wedding/voodoo/images/voodoo09.jpg

Anyways thanks for your concern but I do have some experience managing a relationship while being attractive.  Sorry if I sound *****y, I found your first paragraph extremely condescending.  Like I'm some horrible looking person who has NO IDEA that I might one day go out and be flirted with by men.  Seriously.  Don't assume stuff like that about people.  

"he feels that I've got a new body and attitude, that I got a whole new interest in this other life...NOT."

Gee...I wonder why he feels that...could it be because YOU are going out on a Saturday night and leaving him at home...duh.

You are WAY too old to recaputure that lost youth...get over it and live the life you have now...before you lose that, too.

Dang it, I just agreed with you...again!  ;)

Better watch out...I just got an invitation to a place in those 91773 hills for next Friday...you may have to stay indoors that day just to be safe!  lol

YIKES!  

lol! 

Happy Thanksgiving! :)

If it bothers him and you love him and want to continue a relationship with him then you two need to talk it over. I'm sure you wouldn't want him doing the same without you. I wouldn't anyway. I'd talk it over and make sure it was all ok before I went or else be prepared for an argument when I got home. Which should be a red flag of sorts.

i would never go out on a saturday night without my husband for several reasons.

he travels a lot - saturday night is our night be it alone or with friends
my girlfriends and i get together during the wk, early dinner - late lunch
my single girlfriends are out looking for a husband - gave up my wingman wings long ago & so they don't ask anymore
he's my favorite person, and i always want to be with him when he's home

you may be very happy with your relationship - but is your husband?
if he feels you have a whole new interest, maybe that's the vibe your giving him & he is no longer secure in your relationship.

it would hurt me most to know i hurt my husband in anyway - you two need to talk about it.

Wow, I really didn't expect so many great posts on this thread.  To those of you that supported her husband's interests, thank you!  There is clearly more going on here than can be understood through the original  post.  Many men can sense true motivations and be uncomfortable with those feelings.  Yes, men do have feelings we just call them different things like "gut reaction."  For anyone to suggest, given this limited information from the OP, that it is HIS problem, is just unfair.  I am sure he would offer an entirely different perspective. 

And out of respect for the OP, I am not suggesting you are being intentionally deceptive with your husband, but as others suggested, perhaps you aren't being entirely honest with yourself.  Be honest, is any of this about you getting attention from others, or just quality time with your girlfriends?  If it was truly the latter, there wouldn't be this selfish tug-o-war; you would have suggested an alternate location.  Weight loss does not mean an end to the insecurity one felt while they were obese.  Some just choose to address their insecurity by getting a quick fix of attention that they struggled to receive before WLS.  That attention does NOTHING to fix the insecurity and can be quite addictive, leaving you feeling more and more empty which causes one to act out more and more to fill that void.  Sure sounds like how many of us medicated oursleves with food... :)

Lastly, your husband does have a right to say no.  And you have a right to leave.  Choose wisely.