Are you still beating yourself up? Self-Compassion... Please to stop.
My "regret" is that we didn't cook a meal on the day -- and went out instead. I ate until I was full and that was that. I hoped for warmer weather because I wanted to go out and do something with the kids, but we... came home.
I don't do food hate. We know this.
I bought six cupcakes yesterday. I attacked the top of one last night.
I don't do food hate. We know this.
I bought six cupcakes yesterday. I attacked the top of one last night.
Ha, I thought this thread was going to be about the drama on OH last week (though, now that I think about it, that was probably weeks ago).
It's not just beating yourself up for food choices that I'd like people to stop. I also want them to stop hating on their bodies and constantly being on a diet because they need to lose 5, 10 or even 25 pounds. I'm not necessarily talking about people who bounce back a bit higher than they'd like and decide to rein things in for a while and then that's it or at least that's it for a few years until maybe something in their life changes again and they may have to rein themselves in again. That kind of behavior is just normal living and doesn't involve self-loathing.
It's the self-loathing that upsets me. It's not being able to be happy because you aren't perfect. It's focusing on the negative (I "need" to lose 10 pounds) and not the positive (I lost 150 and all my co-morbidities!).
People who do this: you are wasting so much energy! Please, please, put that energy into being nice to yourself. It actually does take work, but it's worth it. I promise!
It's not just beating yourself up for food choices that I'd like people to stop. I also want them to stop hating on their bodies and constantly being on a diet because they need to lose 5, 10 or even 25 pounds. I'm not necessarily talking about people who bounce back a bit higher than they'd like and decide to rein things in for a while and then that's it or at least that's it for a few years until maybe something in their life changes again and they may have to rein themselves in again. That kind of behavior is just normal living and doesn't involve self-loathing.
It's the self-loathing that upsets me. It's not being able to be happy because you aren't perfect. It's focusing on the negative (I "need" to lose 10 pounds) and not the positive (I lost 150 and all my co-morbidities!).
People who do this: you are wasting so much energy! Please, please, put that energy into being nice to yourself. It actually does take work, but it's worth it. I promise!
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I understood it just fine. However, it's against the TOS for *me* (not necessarily anyone else) to say that I ate lavishly and had a ball doing so, no recriminations, self hatred or guilt at all. The last time I said that, my post got removed.
So I posted about what I *do* have a grudge about, instead.
So I posted about what I *do* have a grudge about, instead.