It's time.
MM,
I heart you big time. Heck, I even pinterested you under "things I love".
I'm one of the ones that turned here looking for advice prior to and after my surgery. There was a time when I was a newbie and posted what I thought would be a helpful question for myself and for others that were new. I was transported back to high school right away. The "Mean Girls" came out to attack. It took me by surprise. Prior to that I thought this would be a safe place to go, somewhere I would be understood by my peers.
I just could not understand the hatred I found in here. From people who had experienced some of the same feelings/thoughts/pain that I had felt in my past due to my weight issues. I let it hurt me. I'm still surprised somewhat by how much these strangers hurt my feelings. I felt betrayed. Then I started noticing it happening to more and more people.
However, one good thing came from that post and all that hatred. I received messages from others that had had the same experience. They invited me to a facebook group. No, not BBBG's, but one called No judgment WLS. Or something like that. HOWEVER, from there I found BBBG's. Best. Thing. Ever. Really.
I do not attend a support group - not really one near me. I rarely come here any longer. But you know what? I can not imagine any support group more supportive, more informative, non-judgmental, more humorous, more truthful than the group you started. You share your truth. Is it always the same truth as mine? Nope. But do I get judged, smashed, hated upon for having my own opinion? Nope. My only regret? That I did not find you all BEFORE I had my surgery. Oh, and before I had some complications due to my surgery. They were temporary. Two weeks in the hospital took care of it. However, I would not have had them if I had had all of you before. I believe that with all my heart.
I can understand you pulling back a little. Being tired of the hate from such small minded cruel people. But it does sadden me. You share of yourself. Not just wls related. You share life. Some of your truths that have caused you emotional pain have been shared by others who experience the same things yet are scared to talk about them with anyone else. Just reading your take on it, your truth, can sometimes make a stranger feel like they are not alone out here in this world.
I can ramble on forever about how you have touched my (and many others) heart. I just truly hope you listen to all the words of love and support more than you hear the words of hate.
Toni Lee
P.S. Can someone tell me how to change the dang profile picture?? This is me before surgery. Every time I try to change it I'm told my picture is too large.
I heart you big time. Heck, I even pinterested you under "things I love".
I'm one of the ones that turned here looking for advice prior to and after my surgery. There was a time when I was a newbie and posted what I thought would be a helpful question for myself and for others that were new. I was transported back to high school right away. The "Mean Girls" came out to attack. It took me by surprise. Prior to that I thought this would be a safe place to go, somewhere I would be understood by my peers.
I just could not understand the hatred I found in here. From people who had experienced some of the same feelings/thoughts/pain that I had felt in my past due to my weight issues. I let it hurt me. I'm still surprised somewhat by how much these strangers hurt my feelings. I felt betrayed. Then I started noticing it happening to more and more people.
However, one good thing came from that post and all that hatred. I received messages from others that had had the same experience. They invited me to a facebook group. No, not BBBG's, but one called No judgment WLS. Or something like that. HOWEVER, from there I found BBBG's. Best. Thing. Ever. Really.
I do not attend a support group - not really one near me. I rarely come here any longer. But you know what? I can not imagine any support group more supportive, more informative, non-judgmental, more humorous, more truthful than the group you started. You share your truth. Is it always the same truth as mine? Nope. But do I get judged, smashed, hated upon for having my own opinion? Nope. My only regret? That I did not find you all BEFORE I had my surgery. Oh, and before I had some complications due to my surgery. They were temporary. Two weeks in the hospital took care of it. However, I would not have had them if I had had all of you before. I believe that with all my heart.
I can understand you pulling back a little. Being tired of the hate from such small minded cruel people. But it does sadden me. You share of yourself. Not just wls related. You share life. Some of your truths that have caused you emotional pain have been shared by others who experience the same things yet are scared to talk about them with anyone else. Just reading your take on it, your truth, can sometimes make a stranger feel like they are not alone out here in this world.
I can ramble on forever about how you have touched my (and many others) heart. I just truly hope you listen to all the words of love and support more than you hear the words of hate.
Toni Lee
P.S. Can someone tell me how to change the dang profile picture?? This is me before surgery. Every time I try to change it I'm told my picture is too large.
Rock on girl friend!!! Rock on!!!!!!! 
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